What is the difference between raising a boy and raising a girl?
As a two-child family with one son and one daughter, I am too aware of the pain in this, especially for those families who "prefer sons to daughters" who have to chase after their sons, and think twice.
Raising a son is indeed much more tiring than raising a daughter, and in my opinion, to raise a boy who is physically and mentally healthy, parents even have to dare to be enemies of the world.
In "Happiness Trio", Big S learned that Taiwan sent an earthquake and called home for the first time to his 3-year-old son.
When the son said he was scared, the family's knife was heard on the other side of the phone: "He cried very loudly. ”
As soon as the voice fell, Wang Xiaofei immediately accused his son: "You are a boy, what is there to cry about the earthquake?" ”
Do you sense that something is wrong?
Yes, as a parent of a boy, you must be able to perceive that there is something wrong with raising a boy.
When you see spider cockroaches, don't be afraid, and don't cry;
When you see a lion or a tiger, don't be afraid, and don't cry;
When encountering unfair treatment, do not make trouble, and do not cry;
Except for the period of milk dolls, boys are not allowed to cry, which means timidity, which means the weak among men.
This is the "male label", and it is also the most tiring place to raise boys, and the biggest inequality for boys in the so-called "equality between men and women" is now.
Such things did not happen to his son Yumaru less often,
Once, he was criticized in class because another classmate was playing with it in a joking manner and was mistaken by the teacher for a fight. He was very aggrieved and could not understand why he was clearly the party being attacked and punished.
Back at home, it was the sister who told the truth, and the mother said that he would fight back hard next time, and he had tears in his eyes, but he also tried hard not to let the tears fall.
In the past, when something similar happened, grandparents, grandparents, and even aunts and aunts, the first thing they said was", "It is a shame for boys to cry." ”
Some people will even compare him with his two-year-old sister, how strong her sister is, how weak he is.
Everyone ignored that in fact, my sister also grew so tough in her crying nose;
Everyone ignores that when my sister is crying, the way everyone comforts her is inclusive and gentle;
I have explained that boys can cry, everyone scoffs, only a group of friends of our same age know that boys cry N times more courage than women.
Why parents dare to make enemies of the world's earthly ideas when raising sons is roughly the case.
Allowing boys not to cry with their faces is so important in the face of the following data:
According to the World Health Organization, there are about 350 million people with depression worldwide, and many men are reluctant to seek medical treatment because of face, and their suicide rate is 4 times that of female patients.
Crying is a way, it is a way to vent emotions, and there is no meaning of weakness or hardness.
Scientists have long confirmed through experiments and studies that crying is beneficial for relieving emotional stress.
First of all, when people are emotionally depressed, biologically active substances harmful to the human body will be produced, and these harmful substances will be excreted with tears and through the lacrimal glands when crying;
(One question: if boys shouldn't cry, why do they still have the boy's tear glands?) ）
Second, people are often controlled by active sympathetic nerves when they are awake, but the act of tears automatically switches to the parasympathetic state. To put it mildly, although we cry awakely, our brains enter a calm and soothing state of quiet.
THOMAS STONE in the United States has been plagued by depression, panic, long-term headaches, insomnia and other symptoms, he tried a variety of treatment methods with little effect, until he used "self-crying therapy" to get better, and wrote the book "Treatment with Tears" based on his own experience.
He said: "After more than ten years of self-crying treatment, I not only cured all the diseases of my body, but also had a thousand times better quality of life than before.
If you look at THIS PASSAGE OF THOMAS, YOU THINK IT'S RIDICULOUS, OR EVEN THINK THAT THE SELF-CRYING THERAPY THAT THOMAS EXPERIENCED IS AN EXTREMELY HUMATING ACT.
Then I thought,
You're probably not ready to raise a boy.