Hello everyone, I'm Ma Xiangyu.
In the blink of an eye, the Spring Festival holiday is over.
In the few days at home, Xiangyu ate well, dressed warmly, and slept fully.
Little days, don't mention how comfortable it is.
To say that the only drawback is probably that it is impossible to escape the urging of the elders.
I believe that most people feel the same way about this.
The Spring Festival is not only a day of reunion, but also a peak period for marriage and blind dates.
Ask, who hasn't heard a few nagging words from family members this holiday season:
"It's so old, it's time to find someone to marry."
"Your classmates have children, and you still don't grasp it..."
Recently, Japan has launched a new drama.
It chose to tell everyone in a different way.
In this world, not everyone has to get married and have children as their only goal.
Some people are simply passionate about freedom or unwilling to form a family.
Others are affected by innate factors.
In general, they are called: asexuals —
"Two People Who Can't Fall in Love"
As the title suggests.
This time, the TV series is not about the traditional set of love, lingering.
It's the story of two asexuals.
So, what is asexuality?
As the name suggests, it means not feeling anyone's sexual attraction.
Its focus is on discussing "sex."
In asexuality, there is a distinction between romantic plots and non-romantic plots.
Among them, its focus is on discussing "love".
In asexuality, people with romantic plots refer to a lack of sexual interest, but not a lack of love.
And in asexuality, people who don't have romantic plots love neither men nor women.
Such a person is called a asexual with no romantic plot.
In the play, our male and female protagonists belong to this type.
The heroine, Misako, has not understood love since she was a child.
As a teenager, the girls around me were interested in love gossip.
But for Misaki, everything is very confusing.
When she grew up, even the male colleagues around her repeatedly showed good feelings for her.
However, Misaki did not notice at all.
Because, I have been unable to understand love, there is no feeling of being in love.
When she tried to speak out about her confusion, the people around her would only say to her:
"You'll understand when you grow up."
"You just haven't met the right one, and you'll understand it one day."
Misaki has waited for more than ten years and has not waited for the so-called feeling of love.
To this end, she also has to look for, try to fall in love.
But every time it was a no-brainer.
The first relationship was during Misaki's college years.
When confessed by male classmates, she did not understand what love was, and only smiled and replied that she was very happy with each other.
In this way, the two were confused together.
After a few days in love, she broke up because when the other person kissed her, Misaki felt uncomfortable and avoided her.
The second relationship was six years after the breakup.
At that time, Misaki was urged by her parents.
Once again, she began to fall in love.
At first, they got along very happily.
The two have the same favorite idol group and share common tastes...
Until, at the request of the boyfriend, after the two had a relationship.
Afterwards, when Misaki saw her happy boyfriend, her heart was very incomprehensible.
For her, after sex, there is only pain.
It doesn't make you feel any fun.
"Whether it feels like being in love or what it means to kiss and have sex, I don't understand it at all."
In the end, the two sides chose to break up for various reasons.
Since then, Misaki has been confused.
She didn't understand why she was different from others, and she felt useless and flawed.
It wasn't until the appearance of the male protagonist that she understood that she was an asexual.
The male protagonist, Takahashi, is also a asexual with no romantic plot.
He reacts more to others than to Misaki.
Takahashi couldn't stand anyone's touch.
Even if it is just a verbal description, it will still make him feel pain.
Therefore, even if he feels lonely, he will only go alone.
When two "aliens" meet, everything begins to change.
They decide to live together and try to establish a family relationship that has nothing to do with love...
However, the decision of the two was not recognized by everyone.
Because, for a large part.
An asexual is an existence that is not recognized, or even recognized, by society.
For the male and female protagonists' insensitivity to love and sex, everyone will only say that they have not yet met the right person.
Or, like Mother Misaki, unbelievably retorted:
"There is no reason for men and women who are in love to form a family, I can't accept it at all!" 」
These problems encountered by male and female protagonists are not the problems encountered by many people in real life.
Nowadays, everyone still knows too little about asexuals.
There are also many who think that asexuals are a false proposition.
It's just that I haven't met someone I like.
But in fact, this group is real.
According to statistics, about 1% of the world's population, that is, 70 million people, belong to asexuals.
On our Douban, there is also an asexual group.
The group was founded 15 years ago and now brings together nearly 20,000 people.
They are here to talk, to warm up, to share the confusion they encounter.
Compared with the mainstream view of sexuality, they are a very rare existence.
But everyone who is alive should be seen and respected.
They should not be invisible, not recognized.
People will always think that there is nothing asexual.
Everyone has to get married and have children, this age is not in love, there must be something wrong.
But in fact, this is just a normal way of life.
For this reason, it is never this part of the group that is problematic.
Rather, those who still cling to this idea.
Even if it is not mainstream, it is only a minority.
But it all deserves to be understood, respected, and blessed.
It's like a detail in the play.
At the very beginning of the third episode, the TV series party deliberately marked a line:
"In this play, there are depictions of sexual contact, so please pay attention."
Originally, Xiangyu thought it would be a restrictive picture.
But in reality, there is only a picture for a few seconds.
In the play, the heroine and her boyfriend hug each other, and the other party shows two arms.
Such a picture, in the eyes of most people, is very normal.
But the TV drama side can carefully think:
This can make asexuals feel uncomfortable, so label it.
It is this practice that can better see the intention of the production.
At the same time, the ambition of this drama is not just to say asexual.
It's more like, telling the diversity of human feelings through asexuality.
Among them, there are heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, and also asexual.
The TV series seems to be asking, why divide people's feelings into various options?
As the male protagonist in the play said:
"No matter what kind of sexual orientation, who you want to be with, or the idea of being lonely, it's not willful at all." 」
Because, man is three-dimensional.
This is not something that can be described in a few simple words.
It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, whether it's in line with the prevailing values of the moment.
What matters is whether you can identify yourself and stick to yourself.
As Misaki complained, her parents always thought that they had to get married and have children before they grew up.
Takahashi advises her to find a way to get along without erasing herself.
The sexual orientation of most people is innately determined.
There's nothing wrong with liking people of what gender, what kind of people they love, or not loving.
To this end, do not doubt yourself and obey the mainstream.
Think of it only as a normal existence, a choice of life state.
To adapt, to accept its existence.
That's enough.