01.
Visiting Wanda, a mother led the child to try on clothes, the child did not know what to say, the mother's face suddenly changed, hit the child twice, a dirty word blurted out, the child had tears in his eyes, wanted to go outside, and was pulled back by the mother.
After shouting for half a day, I understood that it was the mother who bought clothes for the child, and the child said that the classmates were wearing another brand, and they kept shouting that they didn't like it, and the mother was anxious.
People around them persuaded that when the child was older, what was the matter to go home and say.
Finally, the mother led the crying child and scolded as she walked, and the people who passed by turned their heads to see what was going on.
I don't know from when, we can see a lot of this phenomenon, in the face of children, parents are more and more anxious, a little thing, will be instantly angry, can't help but get angry.
And the children are becoming more and more restless, and a small blow is very fragile.
It is often brushed on the Internet to help children with homework, mothers and children are wiping tears, and even heart disease is gassed out.
02.
A while ago, a news item, the news that a 14-year-old junior high school student in Wuhan jumped to his death was shocking.
A junior high school boy was invited by the class teacher to play poker, and the angry mother slapped the child in public in the hallway of the teaching building.
After the teacher and parents left, the child stood still for two minutes and then jumped down the fifth floor.
Jumping off the building, how much courage does it take, but watching the video, the child does not hesitate in the slightest, perhaps, he feels that it is better to be dead than alive at the moment? Or maybe he wants to take revenge on his mother by jumping off the building, and it is estimated that this mother will be in regret for decades to come.
Some people may say that they provide food and drink for their children, and as a result, they can't beat or scold if they do wrong, and finally end up with this fate.
But a child, especially a teenager, already has his own thoughts, has his own independence, and we can't treat him like a pet.
When people reach middle age, there are old and young, and it is inevitable that they will be impetuous. However, being able to show your peace of mind is the best temperament for children.
Once watched a parent said that sometimes rare parent-child time, I want to accompany the baby, but once the child can not meet their expectations, instantly want to get angry, perhaps, because the accompaniment is too little, the more you want to accompany the more anxious.
03.
I still remember my son's kindergarten, once held a parent-child camp, the child's father quickly set up the tent, which caused the envious eyes of other children, and the son proudly shouted, Dad is too powerful.
And once when I went to high school to pick up my niece from school, two students chattered about what car his dad drove and how big their house was...
Sometimes, I wonder, why do children grow up with changes in their parents' expectations?
Perhaps, when they were young, they also cheered their parents like their sons to cook delicious meals, set up tents, build houses, work carpentry, cultivate land, and so on.
However, the era of defining parents in terms of strengths seems to exist only in early childhood.
04.
There are many parents who are devoted to choosing the best school for their children and choosing the best teacher, but whenever they return to family education, they begin to settle, and it can even be said that the family style of the previous generation will continue to be passed on.
Therefore, when the child makes a mistake, it is not education, but scolding; when the child plays with the mobile phone and plays the computer, he is eager to drop the computer and the mobile phone, but after the work to supervise the child a few words, he hides in the sofa and keeps brushing the mobile phone...
The lack of participation in family education is the main reason for the lack of character in many children.
Once listened to a child fighting with a classmate, his mother complained to the educational institution, I spent money to give the child to you, you can't teach well, but come to question me?
Parents do not understand education, so blind obedience to money to get peace of mind, that can only be said to be the failure of family education. Even parents pin their children's education in the hands of others, so this trust can only be explained by the word "fate".
Children are highly talented, that is, they have a fate with learning, and children are talented, that is, they are not lucky with learning.
The true meaning of family education is not only in children's learning, but also in the cultivation of personality and ability.
The solution is only for parents to understand the word "education" themselves, and then really spend time and energy, and give their children an exemplary role and really invest in companionship.
Unfortunately, either one is difficult for parents today.
Therefore, we must learn to accept the imperfection of the child, both for the child and for ourselves.
Calming down is the greatest requirement for parents.
05.
In the movie "No Questions Asked", Shen Guangyao's mother said this to him, and now that I think about it, it still makes me cry:
"We think of you, to be able to enjoy the joys of life, such as reading thousands of books, traveling thousands of miles, such as marrying and having children with the girls you like, paying attention not to add children to me, but yourself, to enjoy the fun of parenthood." 」
I think that his parents are great people in this world, including the poor child who jumped off the building, and his parents also hope that he will grow up healthy and carefree, and hope that he can go further and see a wider sky.
However, reality will always turn everything into luxury, many people are tired of running for their lives, busy with food and clothing, it is already the best choice to have the elderly to help bring children, not to mention, there are still some people, in order to feed and clothe, go away, let the children become left-behind children.
However, as a parent, everyone has the best wishes of Shen Guangyao's mother in their hearts, and they all long for their children to enjoy the joys of life, be themselves, love themselves, please themselves, and have the heart to learn.
As parents, what we can do may be limited, but we long for the day when our children grow up, and their hearts are full of interest in exploring the world, curiosity about the joys of life, not the desire for fame and fortune, and the joy of finding life, even the most vulgar money and comparison, but also the desire to be happy.
Perhaps, this is the meaning of our parents, and it is also the true meaning of our family education.
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