I am 63 years old, pension 6000, savings of 1 million, two houses. After my wife passed away, two women wanted to live with me. One is a 34-year-old unmarried leftover girl, and the other is

I am 63 years old, pension 6000, savings of 1 million, two houses. After my wife passed away, two women wanted to live with me. One is a 34-year-old unmarried leftover woman, and the other is a 50-year-old divorced woman with a baby. The young one has no conditions, just wants to find a dependency. The other one has two conditions, but it is not too much. How do I choose between these two?

I am 63 years old and are known as Uncle Wang. But I don't think I'm very old, at least I have a young heart. Recently I had a particularly tricky problem, selective difficulties.

I retired from the bank, retired for 3 years, and now the pension is also 6000 a month, my wife is a teacher, we have a daughter, but married far away.

My wife and I are more enlightened, after all, we are all people with a little culture, and we are very supportive of our daughter's marriage. As long as she feels that she has not married the wrong person and is happy, then we parents have nothing to say. But fortunately, the daughter is really married very well, the father's parents are in business, the family conditions are not bad, the son-in-law is also a high-achieving student, and the postdoctoral degree has only been a few years.

At that time, when my daughter got married, I was worried about a problem, because my daughter and son-in-law were college classmates, and when they got married, the son-in-law was ready to continue to go to graduate school, and then ph.D., postdoctoral. I am worried that the fact that they see less after marriage will affect the relationship between husband and wife. But judging by the degree of their affection over the past few years, my worries at the time were superfluous.

Last month, my wife passed away, and my daughter and son-in-law came to the funeral. My son-in-law said to me: "Father, or go to Guangdong with us, in the future we will give you a pension, otherwise you are alone here, we can't rest assured." But I refused, I don't feel old, at least I am very healthy. I am also grateful for my son-in-law's filial piety.

The main thing is that I am used to the life of my hometown, Guangdong is too prosperous, the traffic is busy, I really don't like it, over 60 years old, I want to try to be clean.

The daughter said, "Dad, since you don't go with us, then we will send you to a nursing home." Hearing my daughter's words, I was shocked and quickly stopped. I don't like the kind of life in the nursing home, every day is around a group of elderly big brothers and sisters, I have nothing in common with them, I like to be clean, I don't like to be lively.

The son-in-law took over and said, "Why don't you get a babysitter?" At first, my eyes lit up and I thought it was feasible. But after thinking about it for a while, I still forget it, please the babysitter is afraid to invite someone with bad thoughts, I can't turn my mind to her then it's over.

But the son-in-law said: "Since you have refused all this, why don't we drag someone to introduce you to an object." Sure enough, men understand men best, and the son-in-law's words have won my heart. I pretended to say, "I'm so old I can find a wife"? The son-in-law also said: "These are easy to do, wrapped in me"...

When my daughter heard me and my son-in-law say a word to me, she really couldn't look at it anymore, so she asked me to make a decision quickly, she said, "Dad, we can only stay here for a month, your grandson is also going to start school, you have any decision to tell us directly, we will do it for you."

I said that I would like to rely on my son-in-law, I still want to find a companion, even if my wife has not died for a long time, but I am not so feudal, I want to live a more wonderful life.

My son-in-law immediately sent my information to the dating website, and he told me not to be impatient, spend some money, at most one day, someone will contact me.

Sure enough, the next day, a woman contacted me, she claimed to be a 34-year-old unmarried leftover woman, college education, engaged in sales positions, her family is rural, she spent all her savings in order to help her parents treat her illness, and now her parents have left, leaving her alone, so she wants to find a dependency, can support her.

After that, she sent me her photo again, and after her daughter saw it, she said: "I'm afraid this is a bit unreliable, oh, when your daughter is still pretty much the same." I smiled and didn't say anything, but my son-in-law asked her to come and talk to see everything.

And at noon another person contacted me, she said she was 50 years old, divorced for 8 years, has not remarried, has a 24-year-old son, after seeing my information she was a little moved. But her request was "to help her marry her daughter-in-law into the door and then give her a house to his son," both of which were asked. As long as she completes her son's task, she can take care of me wholeheartedly and accompany me for a hundred years. Then her son will also retire for me.

Her photos are more realistic, and the requirements are not very high, which is within my ability. My daughter said, "Dad, your property doesn't have to be considered by me, we don't lack this little money, as long as you are happy." The son-in-law also said: "Dad, I think it is better for both of you to meet and talk."

After that, we met separately with the two women who contacted me. Judging from the information I have, I am sincerely dealing with the object, but I am caught in the difficulty of selectivity. The son-in-law prefers the 34-year-old one, and the daughter likes the 50-year-old one, so I don't know what to do. But I personally still like the young and beautiful one.

If you were me, how would you choose?

@Moving Emotions analysis is as follows:

First of all, for a 34-year-old unmarried girl:

1, she has no father and no mother, only one person, no burden. Often this kind of woman is actually terrible, because she can cherish you well, but she can also take advantage of you, she has to run, you can't restrain her.

2, but from her information, she is also a woman with filial piety, in fact, as long as you are good to her, she will also be grateful to Dade and compare hearts to hearts. What a woman wants is very simple, nothing more than full of love, a small touch, she will be full of joy.

And for the 50-year-old aunt:

1, she has clearly marked the price, that is, to provide you with a suite, and the bride price of marriage with her son. I think that's what seems to be the case on the surface, but it's terrifying to think about it.

2, after marriage, she will definitely be inclined to her son and daughter-in-law, after all, it is her relatives, and you, dispensable. Moreover, she does not know her son's character, and if she does not know gratitude and will only ask for it, then you will be in more trouble. Not to mention that there will be grandchildren after that, which is a bottomless pit.

Therefore, I think that the young one is good, and it is also spending money, so why don't you take a good look at it. Besides, you also prefer the young and beautiful one. #情感 #