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Skiers at the Winter Olympics
Gu Ailing's heat continues unabated,
The whole network seems to be talking about it
This "high value + genius + learning bully" Olympic champion.
For a time, Gu Ailing's mother's educational philosophy,
Gu Ailing's sleep time,
Gu Ailing's family background and other topics
Jumped into the eyes of the public.
You may be looking for an answer like this:
How exactly did such a genius come about?
Some people say that Gu Ailing is talented, talented, Olympic champion plus Stanford students, God opened the door and window for her at the same time. Where can these be cultivated?
Indeed, apart from the incomparable Xueba family genes and strong economic foundation, from Gu Ailing's growth experience and the parenting methods of her mother and grandmother, what can we learn from?
Stable emotions – a sense of security
The media said that Gu Ailing's mother, Gu Yan, was a very emotionally stable mother. When Gu Ailing had a fever, was injured, and her condition was frequent, she was very calm and composed to deal with it, and she would not drag her daughter back at all.
I think that's very important. In the article "What kind of teacher to choose for your child", I once said: "If possible, please choose a teacher with a gentle personality and emotional stability for your child." "Because the key to a child's intellectual development lies in his brain neurodevelopment, what a child's brain development needs most is a free and safe growth space and a rich growth environment."
Psychologists tell us that strong stress can permanently alter the brain structure of children, affecting their later learning and memory.
Young children who meet a grumpy, emotionally unstable, controlling teacher or parent are likely to live in a more tense atmosphere. The anxiety and panic brought about by this tension will make the child feel uneasy, and in the long run, it will inevitably affect the child's brain development.
Therefore, it is the greatest blessing for a child to be able to meet a gentle and determined mother or teacher. The mother's stable mood brings the child not only the healthy development of the brain, but also a sufficient sense of psychological security. Only a child with a full sense of security can have the courage and enthusiasm to explore the unknown.
Enthusiastic encouragement – self-confidence
In a documentary, Gu Ailing once said of her grandmother: "Since I was a child, my grandmother (grandmother) especially loved to say 'we love Ling is the best', the piano was only playing the third level exam, she said 'you play as well as level ten', or when running, I was the second place, she stood there and said 'Love Ling first', she stood in a place with a special number of people, and shouted in English 'too powerful, Love Ling' and 'Great'. So at that time, I felt that since I was a child, I had a spirit, that is, I wanted to be the best. (This is the original words of Gu Ailing in the documentary "Gu Ailing: I, 18")
Due to the limitations of cognitive development, children's self-perception often comes from the feedback of the surrounding evaluations. Therefore, you will find that if a person often calls his child "stupid" and "stupid like a pig" or something like that. Then, the child will think that he is stupid, and he will really become that kind of person, and he will really become more and more "stupid".
Anton Chekhov said that the kind of person you think you are, you will become what kind of person you will be. Grandma Gu Ailing's enthusiastic encouragement and affirmation of the child will make the child have a strong sense of honor and responsibility, and will also make the child feel that he is the best.
In the face of the concern of netizens "don't be stressed", her answer was: "Why don't you have more confidence in me?" "If you don't have strong self-confidence, how can it be so exciting?"
Relentless persistence – willpower
Anyone who has raised a child knows that no matter how good a child is, there will be times of slackness. Whether it is playing the piano, learning to ski, or learning olympic numbers, parents do not push behind, and it is impossible to learn all the way to the end by relying on children themselves.
Therefore, I think that for the all-round Gu Ailing, the mother must have a clear goal for her (the goal is chosen by the child independently) and strict time management requirements (to help the child achieve the goal), and can persevere. Over time, children will naturally be able to adapt and form corresponding habits.
Bai Yansong also introduced in a small video: "After she (Gu Ailing) trained, her mother usually pinched her to do all kinds of things, and then she was very obedient..."
Although this video introduces Gu Ailing's request to sleep for ten hours a day by her mother, you can also see her mother's pinch work (the requirements are definitely not low) and The characteristics of Ailing's obedience (long-term training has formed a habit).
There are two other things that also shock me: one is that the mother has to take the child back to Beijing Haidian every summer vacation to make up for the Olympics; the other is to take the child to ski, and the mother has to drive 8 hours round trip to the ski resort almost every weekend and holiday...
And these two things, mom did for fifteen or six years. If nothing else, let's just say these two points, how many parents under the sky can stick to it?
Accurate judgment – high achievement
Gu Ailing's mother, Gu Yan, is also a "super" woman herself: Peking University talented woman, who has won two master's degrees in the United States, MBA of Stanford University, a famous investment bank executive in the United States, a member of the Peking University short track speed skating team and ski coach, a Wall Street venture, and one of the earliest venture capital experts in China...
She has a high degree of clarity of logic, but also a high degree of identification and cultural confidence in her Chinese identity. Because of her excellence, she is "very confident, very brave, and very powerful" in the eyes of her daughter!
Gu Yan is well aware of the advantages of Chinese education. It is said that Gu Ailing returns to Beijing every summer vacation to go to Haidian Huangzhuang to take the Olympic number class. At first, she couldn't understand the fifth grade Olympiad, so she changed to the fourth grade Olympiad, and later understood it and thought it was quite interesting. When preparing for the US college entrance examination SAT, Gu Ailing also chose to return to China to make up for classes.
In order to leave enough time for the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics to prepare, she decided to let her daughter spend 3 years to complete 4 years of high school courses, leaving a year to concentrate on training.
Seeing the above decisions of returning to China for tuition, graduating early to prepare for the Olympics, and then looking at the genius and Olympic champion in front of you, I suddenly thought of a sentence - your vision determines the height of your life.
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