When xu Jinglei is mentioned, the first thing that comes to mind is that she can act, direct plays, calligraphy, and paint "talented women".
But Xu Jinglei, who has always expressed herself as a person in the form of purity and high coldness, has another title, "Little Witch of the Beijing Circle".
She had been a "mistress" who openly provoked the original lady,
I also talked about the view of "borrowing from the belly to have children" in the program,
She also pried through the corner of the goddess's high round wall,
She is not outstanding in appearance, but she is the object of pursuit by many men in the entertainment industry.
Although he has been with his boyfriend Huang Lixing for 11 years,
But now 47-year-old Xu Jinglei has not yet chosen to get married,
What is it that makes her still choose not to get married?
1. Xu Jinglei's young experience
Xu Jinglei was born in April 1974 in a residential area near Sanlitun in Beijing, where her father Xu Zijian and mother Yu Shurong were both ordinary workers in a factory in Beijing.
Xu Jinglei grew dark and thin when she was a child, because she did not like to write, she did not study well in school, and her father, who "hated iron and steel", would ask Xu Jinglei to recite Tang poems every day after work, in order to make her write, he also let her study in the calligraphy class of the Beijing Children's Palace and practice calligraphy every day.
Under the strict education of her father, Xu Jinglei practiced a beautiful calligraphy, and she also has a rich cultural heritage when she was a child reciting Tang poems and reading books.
Xu Jinglei is not the only daughter in the family, she also has a younger brother, her father Xu Zijian quit his factory job in order to provide for the two brothers and sisters to go to school, and he opened a neon factory at home.
Limited by the technical conditions of that era, the words on the lightbox at that time needed to be written by hand, and in order to save costs, my father let Xu Jinglei, who had achieved little success in calligraphy, write it, so Xu Jinglei's words spread throughout Beijing with the lightbox.
Xu Jinglei, who went to high school, was fascinated by painting, and wanted to apply for the Stage Art Department and the Arts and Crafts Academy of the Central Academy of Drama in college, for his daughter's hobbies, his father also tried his best to satisfy, Xu Jinglei after a year of professional study, and finally because the score of the cultural class was too low, he was not able to get the Central Academy of Drama.
Xu Jinglei, who was preparing for World War II, gave up painting at this time and prepared to apply for the Beijing Film Academy, and eventually she was admitted to the acting department of the Beijing Film Academy.
2, the origin of the talented woman will act will guide the play calligraphy their own font
During college, Xu Jinglei, Pu Cunxin, Liu Hanqiang, Jiang Wu and others participated in Zhao Baogang's "A Matter of Wind and Snow and Snow". In 2000, she was awarded the title of Deyi Shuangxin Literary and Art Worker alongside Pu Cunxin and others.
After that, in 2003, Xu Jinglei won the "Huabiao Award for Best Newcomer Award" and "Excellent Newcomer Actress Award" for the movie "I Love You", and won the "Best Actress of the 26th Popular Film Hundred Flowers Award" for "The Subway To Spring", and won the "Best Supporting Actress of the 23rd Golden Rooster Awards of Chinese Cinema" for "My Beautiful Homesickness".
After Xu Jinglei won the award for acting, she came up with the idea of becoming a director, and in 2004, her self-written, self-directed and self-acted film debut "My Father and Me" won four major awards: "Best Screenwriter" at the 4th Chinese Film Awards, "Best New Director Nomination", "Mainland Most Popular Actress Award" and "Golden Rooster Award for Best Debut".
Xu Jinglei, who successfully changed her career as a director, took advantage of the hot iron and she wrote, directed and acted in the movie "Letter from a Strange Woman", which finally won the "Best Director Award at the 52nd San Sebastian Film Festival in Spain".
At this time, Xu Jinglei's fame in the Beijing circle is getting bigger and bigger, plus she also writes a good brush, the script is well written, the acting is wonderful, the directed play is excellent, in 2007 she also created her own font "Fangzheng Jinglei Simplified Style", and slowly Xu Jinglei has the title of "Talented Woman in the Beijing Circle".
3. Get acquainted with Wang Shuo and provoke the original match
Those who like Xu Jinglei call her "Beijing Circle TalentEd Girl" and those who don't like her call her "Little Devil of the Beijing Circle", Xu Jinglei can have today's achievements can not be separated from the help of her "boyfriend" Wang Shuo during college.
Xu Jinglei, who has always shown herself as pure and cold, has not cut off her boyfriend since she was 19 years old, and Wang Shuo is the man who has the greatest influence on her.
Xu Jinglei, who had just been admitted to college, left her father's strict control and began to completely release herself, often skipping class to go to bars and play rock and roll with them.
Once in the bar, he was looked at by Wang Shuo, who was already famous at that time, Wang Shuo was attracted to this girl who was cold on the outside but wild in heart, and Wang Shuo or Xu Jinglei launched a fierce pursuit in the case of already having a family, and Xu Jinglei was also attracted to this talented man.
Later, Wang Shuo through his own connections and resources, xu Jinglei step by step into the "Beijing circle", Xu Jinglei successfully starred in Zhao Baogang's "A Storm and Snow Moon Thing" directed by Wang Shuo with the help of Wang Shuo, and then Xu Jinglei became a director, and the first time was also looking for Wang Shuo.
It can be said that Xu Jinglei was able to break into the "Beijing Circle" so smoothly, Wang Shuo has a large part of the credit, Xu Jinglei is Wang Shuo in the back to hold her up.
"Talent with beauty" should have been a blessed story, provided that both were single, but Wang Shuo was not single, his wife Shen Xujia once accompanied him through the trough of life, and the two also had a daughter.
Wang Shuo, who was so confused by Xu Jinglei, completely disregarded morality and ethics, and even brought Xu Jinglei to his home, and the two of them were caught by their wife Shen Xujia for their unabashed love at home.
As a "little third", Xu Jinglei, who was caught by the original match, not only did not panic and be afraid, but directly said to Shen Xujia, "I have been swinging in and out of your house so many times, you will give him to me." Shen Xujia said, You don't understand, I'm just, he can't do without me.
A "little three" openly provoked the "original match", in Xu Jinglei's cognition, this is the performance of her love for Wang Shuo, but in the moral concept of the world, she is a "little three" who destroys other people's families and does not want to face.
"Old love" after all did not win the "new favor", Wang Shuo finally chose to divorce his wife, Shen Xujia took his daughter away from the United States, Xu Jinglei forced away Wang Shuo's original match, as Shen Xujia said, leaving his ex-wife Wang Shuo, the career began to decline.
At this time, Xu Jinglei has already used Wang Shuo's resources and connections to get acquainted with many bosses and directors with heads and faces in the "Beijing circle", plus Xu Jinglei's own talent and strength have a place in the Beijing circle, just when people are waiting for good news from the two, Xu Jinglei proposed to Wang Shuo to break up.
4, high round wall corner, when the small three
After leaving Wang Shuo, Xu Jinglei turned around and threw herself into another relationship with her, this time Xu Jinglei was still "Little Three", and she pried the corner of the goddess Gao Yuanyuan.
In 2005, some media filmed Xu Jinglei and Zhang Yadong shopping together in Beijing, and the two held hands and interacted and chatted intimately.
Zhang Yadong is a very famous musical talent, Xu Jinglei admires Zhang Yadong's musical talent very much, and under the premise of knowing that he has a girlfriend, she still pursues Zhang Yadong fiercely, and she also invites Zhang Yadong to star in her movie "My Father and Me".
When he was photographed by the media shopping with Xu Jinglei, he had been in a relationship with the goddess Gao Yuanyuan for a long time, and the relationship between the two had been very stable and very compatible.
Zhang Yadong once said in an interview that he likes Gao Yuanyuan, Gao Yuanyuan is a very special person, her ideas are very special, and sometimes it will affect her own ideas.
The two were together even to the point of talking about marriage, and Gao Yuanyuan also rejected the confession of others in order to be with Zhang Yadong.
"Xu Jinglei interfered in Zhang Yadong and Gao Yuanyuan's love affair" Once it broke out, Gao Yuanyuan, as a victim, also stopped the loss in time and immediately broke up with Zhang Yadong.
In this way, Xu Jinglei smoothly "Xiao San Fuzheng", but not long after Xu Jinglei also broke up with Zhang Yadong, and then Zhang Yadong and Zhai Ying were together, and Xu Jinglei also had a new boyfriend.
5, the talented woman is not guaranteed, filming "Dulala Promotion" to know Huang Lixing
Labels such as "provoking the original match", "forcing away the original match", and "small three" were attached to Xu Jinglei's body for a while, and negative information came to her, Xu Jinglei realized that the "talented girl" she had painstakingly managed would not be guaranteed, and the public began to question her.
In order to divert the public's attention, on July 20, 2010, she directed and starred in "Dulala Promotion", in which she also met Huang Lixing, the film was just released and received great response, and even exceeded 100 million at the box office in Chinese mainland, Xu Jinglei also became the first female director in China to break 100 million at the box office.
Xu Jinglei's film came out, instantly diverted the public's attention, in which the scandal between her and Huang Lixing, the actor of Wang Wei in the play, quickly rushed to the hot search, and the two fell in love in the play, and they were rumored to be fake outside the play, but at that time, neither side came forward to admit it.
In 2011, the two cooperated again in "Intimate Deceased" and the two fell in love together, but the two sides still kept silent about the issue of love and feelings.
Just when everyone speculated that the two were not related, in August 2014, Xu Jinglei posted on Weibo that she said: "I haven't had a red face in five years and I haven't had a fight. The right person is the one who makes you better." This is also a disguised recognition of his love affair with Huang Lixing.
In 2018, Xu Jinglei publicly confessed in a post on Weibo, she said: "In the past nine years, I have often been sick, and you will always have medicine."
This is an affirmation of Huang Lixing's companionship over the years, and it is also a response to him, but Xu Jinglei has never responded positively to her love affair with Huang Lixing.
6, do not get married The program talks about borrowing the belly to have a child
Huang Lixing has accompanied Xu Jinglei for so many years, but it is worth saying such a sentence, and can't help but let everyone be worthless for Huang Lixing. But the relationship between Xu Jinglei and Huang Lixing has always been very stable, and Xu Jinglei is also very satisfied with Huang Lixing.
As she grew older, the 47-year-old was slow to get married, which made everyone very confused.
For this question, Xu Jinglei said that she "does not want to prove her love through marriage, nor do I need to take a marriage certificate to make myself feel safe."
At first glance, you will think that Xu Jinglei has a lot of ideas, which is the view of independent women in the new era, but in the eyes of most people, her ideas will be regarded as "freaks" by people around her, and Xu Jinglei also said that "she does not care about the opinions of others, they may not have their own happiness and happiness."
Most people marry in order to pass on the generations, when asked about "children" in the program, Xu Jinglei also did not shy away from talking about the idea of "borrowing the belly to give birth" in the show, she said that "she has long carried out "egg freezing", has been prepared for "borrowing the belly to have children", and said that this kind of thing is very normal.
In China, "giving birth to a child by borrowing a belly" is a violation of national laws, and Xu Jinglei, as a public figure, has received more attention than ordinary people.
However, Xu Jinglei did not shy away from talking about the "borrowing belly to give birth to a child" that violated the national law, whether Xu Jinglei had "borrowed her belly to give birth to a child", as a public figure, she should lead by example, should be responsible for what she said, and spread positive energy for the society, not to mention that Xu Jinglei also held the title of "talented woman in the Beijing circle".
7. Status quo
When he was young, he was strictly required by his father, and when he grew up, he chose to break the confinement, and under Xu Jinglei's innocent and cold appearance, he had a restless heart.
Xu Jinglei, who has not lacked a boyfriend since the age of 19, has not married huang Lixing for 11 years.
For her, marriage is not the end of love, for marriage, she does not feel the pressure from Huang Lixing,
She chose not to be bound by marriage and live the life she wanted, and 47-year-old Xu Jinglei lived better than anyone.
Finally, I hope that Xu Jinglei, as a public figure, can strictly regulate her speech and behavior and spread positive energy for the society.