The elderly must have what to say, not to say, and to be able to achieve Mingzhe self-preservation in terms of speech.
First, don't casually tell outsiders about ugly things in the house
As the old saying has long been said, but all things involving family ugliness should not be publicized, otherwise it will make the family ugly branch out of the section, the family ugly is like growing wings to fly thousands of miles away, and the family ugly will be exposed from internal worries to external troubles. In order to avoid the ugliness of the family, as long as the ugliness of the family is not publicized, the ugliness of the family is both preventable and controllable. When the ugliness of the house lets outsiders know, your ugly will become a joke that outsiders talk about after dinner, and outsiders will brush their own sense of existence and superiority by saying that your family ugly. Nine times out of ten outsiders chat with you in the hope that you can report the worries and not the good news, even if you report the good news will be deaf, the outsiders intend to base the happiness on your pain as much as possible, in order not to let the outsiders succeed, whether the outsiders knock on the side of the side to inquire, or the outsiders to explore the mountain, you must keep your mouth shut about the ugliness of the house. The concern of outsiders is most likely a pretense, but a means of opening the box of your family's ugly words.
Second, don't casually tell outsiders about the income and savings in the family
Talking about money itself when going out is a sensitive topic, and since ancient times there have been both statements that wealth is not revealed and wealth is not exposed. You can't show off your wealth outside the home and with outsiders, and you can't cry poor, which is not only not good for you, but also not good for your family. Showing off wealth is the prelude to the big trick of the tree, at least it will cause jealousy; crying poor will only increase the ridicule and disgust of outsiders who hate the poor and love the rich, and the situation of poverty will not help anything, but will make it worse. In addition, it is necessary to do not take the pension as a topic and not to take the pension as a topic, after all, most of the elderly pension is different, either will meet the elderly who are higher than your pension, or will meet the elderly who are lower than your pension, which invisibly triggers a comparison, and the consequence is the imbalance after the psychological ups and downs.
Third, don't casually talk to outsiders about your past
Your past can be used as a precipitated memory, even if the aftertaste needs to be carefully tasted by yourself, after all, only you can understand the true meaning of it, and others will not empathize since they will not put themselves in their shoes. Whether you think it's something important or a major event, outsiders will think it's not worth mentioning, but will feel bored. It is even over-interpreted: it is not that when you talk about how glorious the past is, outsiders will think that you are not as good as before, so you have to live in the past; or when you talk about how lonely you were in the past, outsiders will think that your starting point is surprisingly low, even if you climb to a certain height now.
Conclusion: The elderly should be in the right place, the right time and say the right words, should not say as much as possible, control the mouth to be able to cause less trouble, some words are not only more useless and more words are lost, it is simply a disaster from the mouth.
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