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BENQIDUSHUTUIJIAN
The Mood of Education XIII
Full of love / Happy Toot
For parents and teachers,
Help you become a "witty" educator.
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Children are born to forgive
We must always strive for true education, live up to the trust that children have placed in us, and not abuse their forgiveness and forgiveness.
My wife, a mother and a teacher, read my manuscript and said to me, "It's like talking about me, and it makes me feel ashamed." "That's right. When I wrote this book, I often felt that I couldn't find a very appropriate word to describe what kind of person is a truly competent father and a truly qualified teacher. What should we do about this?
On the one hand, I don't believe in self-denial, which is actually indulging myself. Parents and teachers were too busy to have time to chafy repeatedly at previous failures. We must do our best to keep going. On the other hand, I don't want to ignore my past and continue to make the same mistakes. Constantly reflecting on the inappropriate words and deeds of the past to children helped me understand the true meaning of pedagogy.
A concept derived from my years of education —"reflective educational practice"—rolled over my mind. "Reflective practice" refers to constantly thinking about "what is education" and constantly measuring my behavior by pedagogical standards. "Educational practice" refers to an action full of wit and a wit full of action.
In short, as educators, we must constantly act in our lives with our children. We could go out for a while, could have a little personal time, and leave the kids for a while. But even so, we didn't really leave their lives. One day as a parent, always a parent; one day as a teacher, always a teacher.
So what should we do if we feel like an incompetent mother, father, or teacher? We have to look at the children more closely. This is also emphasized repeatedly throughout the book. Children are born to forgive. Of course, this prompts us to take responsibility and strive to be a good parent, a good teacher, in a sense, a task that is urgent. As parents or teachers, we are aware of such unconditional forgiveness and forgiveness, which makes us feel guilty. We must always strive for true education, live up to the trust that children have placed in us, and not abuse their forgiveness and forgiveness.
Indeed, children are born to forgive, and forgive their parents because they love them. No matter how we measure a child's love for his parents, he cannot overdo it. A child may have been hurt physically and mentally, but the desire to re-establish love with his parents will never disappear in his heart. As children grow older, they spend more time alone, judging their parents' failures and inadequacies more frequently. But these feelings usually dissipate, and forgiveness in this case stems from "understanding."
The same applies to teachers. The teacher is in the position of replacing the parents, taking advantage of the child's desire to please the parents in the most primitive parent-child relationship, and constantly forming and strengthening the teacher-student relationship. In some important ways, teachers are like parents. Young people need teachers to understand them and trust them. The impact of teachers' understanding and trust on children's personality, learning and growth is immeasurable.
Yes, teaching is an educational task. (1) However, sometimes, teachers will inevitably make mistakes or mistakes in judgment when dealing with the teacher-student relationship. What matters is how students experience the care of their teachers. A responsible and caring teacher is always able to live in harmony with the students. Contrary to the saying, forgiveness does not necessarily mean forgetting. Forgiveness has its own educational significance: to restore the relationship between parents and children through love and understanding, and to restore the relationship between teachers and students.
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(1) See Fan Menan's book "Teaching Tact: The Meaning of Educational Wisdom", published by Educational Science Press.
to be continued
Reading makes people progress
DUSHU SHIREN JINBU
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