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Many viewers, after seeing the separation of Li Jianjian and Ling Xiao and He Ziqiu in the TV series "In the Name of Family", have speculated about the future plot.
According to the routine of the idol drama, it should be that Li Jianjian fell in love with one of them after he grew up, and then an older brother became a husband, always spoiling her and loving her, and the other brother was always an older brother, standing behind her at any time to guard her, once the husband's brother did something sorry for Li Jianjian, this brother immediately stepped forward.
Such a sweet life, ask which girl doesn't want it! This may be the reason why idol dramas have been able to capture a large number of audiences – although they know that this is fake, it is good to be able to dream like this.
But the name of the TV series is "In the Name of Family", and perhaps later plots will depict the story of how the three of them work together in the future storm. If the plot is like this, then Li Jianjian's idea of relying on her two brothers to support her is completely out of play - even if they are brothers and sisters, they cannot always stand by her side and ignore the mood of their lovers, not to mention that they are not brothers and sisters.
After marriage, many women understand that between themselves and their husbands, there are not only mothers-in-law, but also sisters-in-law, especially sister-in-law.
As a younger sister, she enjoyed the favor of her brother, and suddenly a woman "snatched" away her brother's concern for her, how could she bear it?
So a sister-in-law dispute is inevitable.
There is no wife who does not want to be cared for by her husband. On the one hand, there are psychological needs. If a woman can eat and drink, drive away loneliness, and enjoy loneliness, why should she get married? Since you choose to get married, you more or less hope to get the care and love of your husband. On the other hand is the need for reality. Marriage is not just two people living together, but a myriad of responsibilities and trivialities, and sometimes it is impossible to complete it by the strength of one person alone.
When she needed his help the most, he was not around because he cared about his sister, and as time went on, his wife would naturally mind.
If the sister-in-law is smart enough, she will naturally gradually withdraw from her brother's life, after all, the two people have grown up and can no longer get along like when they were young.
On the contrary, it may become the fuse of the dispute between the brother and sister-in-law.
For example, Zoya's sister-in-law.
Zoya's husband's family conditions were not very good, and they really couldn't come up with too much money when they got married, and she understood their difficulties, so there was not much bride price.
After marriage, the two worked together, hoping to save up for a down payment to buy a house in the city. The husband knew that she had given too much for the family, so he worked harder. Just as they were moving toward their goal, someone broke the harmonious atmosphere. That person was the sister-in-law.
She was admitted to a university in their city. At that time, they already had their own house in the city, so when the sister-in-law proposed to come to live with them, Zoya was a little reluctant in her heart, but she did not strongly oppose it, after all, her husband and she were brothers and sisters, and the broken bones were still connected to the tendons.
But she didn't expect the sister-in-law to be too much. Her own cosmetics, she looked at it and became hers. She said a word, and the sister-in-law said with no concern that this was bought with her brother's money, and what did she do with it?
On the weekend, she was busy cleaning up the house, she didn't say help, and turned on the stereo to the maximum, saying that she wanted to relax.
Fortunately, although the husband loves his sister, he is still reasonable, and as long as he asks for it, he will still talk to his sister-in-law. Mainly because Zoya is more sensible and generally does not accuse the sister-in-law of mistakes.
But I didn't imagine that even so, Zoya still labeled the "love report" in her sister-in-law's heart.
This made Zoya have a bitter word. Fortunately, there is a deadline for college, and the sister-in-law left after finding a job. Although in the same city, it is not common to meet after all, so the sister-in-law gets along quite well.
What really caused their conflict was when the sister-in-law got married. She insisted that Zoya and his wife take a dowry of 100,000 yuan for her, saying that it was a good and strong façade, and she would not let her in-laws bully her in the future.
At that time, Zoya had changed from a two-person world to a family of three, and her mother-in-law was not in good health and could not help her with her children, so Zoya had to resign at home. In other words, they are now one person earning money for three people to spend. The constraints are conceivable.
So before Zoya could speak, her husband refused. The sister-in-law put this account on Zoya's head and treated her with extremely bad attitudes.
One day, her husband really couldn't look at her anymore and yelled at her, and the sister-in-law accused her with tears in her eyes: "You actually blame me for an outsider?" ”
Hearing this, Zoya was cold. The sister-in-law is different from her sister, but Zoya asked herself, she is still okay with the sister-in-law, but she did not expect that in exchange for the word "outsider".
Fortunately, the husband is still considerate and has been criticizing the sister-in-law. And she thought that this was the result of Zoya's stirring up dissension, so she hated Zoya even more. In this regard, Zoya could only smile miserably, and try to minimize the chance of meeting with her sister-in-law in the future.
The two officially met again after their mother-in-law fell ill. Coming out of the emergency room, the doctor told them that their mother-in-law might not be able to take care of themselves in the future, and asked them to make plans.
So several people sat together and discussed. And Zoya is really not used to getting along with her sister-in-law, so she finds an excuse to go out. After a walk around and coming back, she was in a much better mood. When I was about to push the door in, I heard my sister-in-law say, "Brother, you will let your sister-in-law resign to take care of our mother!" ”
Zoya's husband was furious: "You didn't say she was an outsider?" ”
The sister-in-law directly denied that she had said this sentence with a smile on her face, and said that the eldest sister-in-law was like a mother and should be an example. Later, he said how tight he was in life, to take care of his children, to work, and he really couldn't find time.
Zoya's husband was so angry that his face turned purple, and he said bluntly, "You have to work to take care of the children, don't you need your sister-in-law?" Being selfish to the point where you are is also enough. ”
However, no matter what Zoya's husband said, the sister-in-law did not promise to take care of her mother-in-law in turn, but did not come after coming two or three times. So the responsibility falls on the Zoyas.
Fortunately, the mother-in-law recovered well and did not stay in bed for too long, so Zoya did not resign. But after this incident, she saw clearly the person of the little sister-in-law, and she was even farther away from her in the future.
In this world, there is no shortage of people who always like to use morality to kidnap others, and what they can't do, they ask others to do; what they don't like, but stand on the moral high ground and ask others to do it. For such people, it is better to stay away as soon as possible! Otherwise you will mostly be in trouble for the rest of your life.
Finally, I end with a line from "The New Marriage Era": When you marry, you are not married to a certain person, but to marry all the social relations of this person.
So be cautious when getting married.
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