We can find that many small babies shout "mom" when they call their mothers, but when the children grow up, often all we can hear is "mom".
I don't know when it started, "mom" became "mom", and such a change also made many moms a little uncomfortable.
Xiao Xi's baby is very cute, at 8 months, he can shout out "mother", and Xiao Xi is also very pleased with the baby's performance, every time he hears his baby call himself "mother", Xiao Xi has an unspeakable happiness and excitement.
Time flies, in the blink of an eye, the child will reach the age of primary school, and at this time Xiaoxi found a thing that he cares about, that is, he does not know when to start, the child's name for himself has changed from "mother" to "mother", more importantly, when the child called himself "mother" before, that tone was almost universal. But now this "mom" seems sonorous and powerful, and it seems to be missing a lot of things.
Moreover, Xiao Xi found that after changing the title, the child's dependence on himself was lower, and there was less communication with himself, and it seemed that in an instant, it felt like the child had changed as a person.
When the baby changes her mouth from "mother" to shouting "mother", it implies that the child's ability has improved, don't be sad
Xiao Xi wondered why the child had such a change, why did she once shout "Mother", and now it has become "Mom"?
Mothers should not be in a hurry to be lost, in fact, the child's such a change suggests that the child's own ability is slowly improving, and the mother should be happy.
The child's subjective consciousness has become stronger
Many parents may find that their children are generally called "mother" in the infant and early childhood period and the preschool stage, but in the school age period, that is, after going to primary school, they will successively change "mother" to "mother".
In fact, this is mainly because in this age of children, the subjective consciousness has become stronger rapidly, and the child's dependence on parents has decreased rapidly, so "mother" will be changed to "mother".
This kind of performance is a normal growth performance, after all, the child is also an independent individual, with their own independent thoughts, they do not want and can not live forever under the wings of their parents.
And this independent performance, first of all, starts from the mind, that is, the child's subjective consciousness, so that the child unconsciously changes the "mother" to "mother".
Children have the ability to be self-reliant
With the continuous development of children, when children reach the preschool stage, the child's mind, personality, concepts and children's own mobility, life ability, personal skills, etc. are much stronger than before, basically already have a certain degree of self-reliance.
When children find that they no longer need the help of their parents for many things, the sense of independence in their hearts is even stronger, thereby reducing their dependence on their parents.
In addition, at this time, children at this time hope that they can truly achieve a degree of independence because of the improvement of their own abilities.
And in the circle of children at this age, everyone will be proud of the capital of independent ability, so children do not want to be called "mother" anymore.
Because of the immaturity of this title, the child fears that his actions will be ridiculed by his peers.
Calling "Mom" will make children feel more mature, and will also make peers admire themselves more.
There is a generation gap between children and parents
When the child is small, his own knowledge base is almost zero, the child's concept and personality have not yet been established, and the child does not have any independent ability, so the child will always be full of admiration and envy for the parents, full of trust and dependence.
However, as children grow older, children gradually find that parents are not omnipotent or omniscient, parents will also make mistakes, and parents have things that they can't do.
After this, the child's kind of worship for the parents will gradually "cool down", which will also reduce the frequency of the child's active communication with the parents, and the frequency of interaction is less, and the feelings between the child and the parents will slowly fade.
With the weakening of feelings and the reduction of communication, a generation gap will gradually occur between children and parents, and the child's address to mother has also begun to change.
Therefore, in most cases, it is normal for the child to change from "mother" to "mother", and when the mother finds this situation, parents also need to realize that the child has now "grown up", which is different from the previous little fart child.
When you find that your child's name for you changes from "mom" to "mom", the way you get along with your child should also change to make your relationship more harmonious.
When the child grows up, how should the mother get along with the child?
First of all, maintain due respect for your child
When the title changes, it means that the child gradually matures, and the child is more concerned about self-esteem at this time.
Therefore, parents in their usual words and deeds, need to pay attention to giving their children enough respect, such as careful consideration of the child's opinions, rather than lightly denying, and respect the child's privacy, do not go through the child's diary and so on.
Second, support your child's self-confidence
In the eyes of many adults, the child is a weak person, incompetent, immature thinking, etc., so in terms of doing things, there will be no efficiency.
However, when the child changes his mouth, parents should pay attention to the fact that the child is very sensitive to self-knowledge at this time.
Therefore, parents must believe in their children, encourage their children, and make them full of self-confidence, so that children can correctly understand themselves and not become inferior.
Finally, we must pay attention to parent-child communication
When "mother" becomes "mother", it is also the time when children begin to have a large number of growth problems, because of the lack of ability and the intensity of independent thinking, which will cause children to have a lot of psychological confusion.
Parents need to take the initiative to communicate with their children more parents and children, so as to discover their children's growth problems in a timely manner, so as to help their children correct these problems in a timely manner and let their children grow up healthier.
Write at the end
"Mom" becomes "Mom", in fact, it is a good thing for the child, and the mother should not feel lost anymore.
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