Once upon a time, the carriage and horse were very slow, the letters were far away, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime- "Once Upon a Time Slow"
Living in the twenty-first century, we may yearn to live the slow pace of life in the past, but we can't go back, and the pressure on us in the current society is no longer enough to slowly taste the delicious taste of life.
When you are really married and have children, life is like resetting, and no one can help you, only yourself can help you.
There was once a father who said, "You can't work when you pick up, and you can't feed you when you put down your work", so sad and helpless, you can only deeply understand it after entering marriage and having children.
And after having children, to think about not only two adults, but also children, in this era of soaring prices, it is difficult to make a family happy and happy by relying on a person's salary, so that the elderly have become the main force with babies, and the main job of young people is to work hard outside and support their families.
The cousin and sister-in-law began to start a business when they fell in love, and now they have been married for six years, and their careers are very prosperous, but when the cousin and sister-in-law just got married, neither of them could let go of the work at hand and devote themselves to the family.
But a year after they were married, they gave birth to a pair of cute twins, and after weighing the pros and cons, they finally chose to let the child's grandmother and grandmother take one each, and returned to the busy life.
Now that the children are almost 5 years old, their careers have stabilized, and they only need their cousins to do it alone, so they decided to bring their twin sons back to prepare for elementary school.
It is impossible to imagine that it is obviously a pair of twins, and the brother who was brought by the grandmother looks white and tender, but the brother who is brought by the grandmother is black and fat, and people who do not know them cannot believe that they are twins.
The two brothers will have such a big contrast, but it is also expected, Grandma has been living in the city, even if the children go out to play, it is just to the downstairs of the community to bask in the sun, and the grandmother who lives in the countryside, the biggest pleasure is to take the children to the field to play, while playing while working, every meal is full for the children, which makes the younger brother look like the brother's oversized.
This makes people a little undecided, is this the gap between grandmother and mother-in-law with baby? Not really.
Whether they are grandmas with babies or grandmas with babies, they only have a very pure idea, that is, to help young people reduce stress and at the same time have a companion with themselves.
However, due to the different living environments, the final growth direction of the child is also different, and it will appear the same as the cousin's twins, but in 5 years, from the original twin brothers, it has become unrecognizable.
Therefore, in the end, who to bring the child to, mainly depends on which old man has time, which old man with the child will be more scientific, do not spoil the child, this is the most important
Xin Mama's message:
The way I advocate with children is always to be able to bring their own as much as possible, because the elderly must also have their own independent space, and taking children to do their own work can also make children closer to themselves.
If there is really no way, you can discuss with the family, grandma has time to bring to grandma, grandma has time to bring to grandma, but as children we also have to be grateful, do not always feel that it is taken for granted.
No one's payment to anyone is natural, the old man to help with the child is just hope that we are more relaxed, do not owe us, do not know whether you will choose to bring to grandma or grandma to bring it?