Did you find out? Now if a woman openly admits that she is hiding money, this sounds a bit outdated and ridiculous, and it does not conform to the modern argument that "women should be self-reliant"!
But the reality is so harsh. Some people convert the work items of full-time housewives into corresponding remuneration, and the result is surprisingly high; and women who do not work independently seem to have a shorter status and do not have money to use. Recently, more and more friends have realized this matter and discussed it enthusiastically.
Every woman should have an escape fund?
Recently, a netizen shared a chat with a friend on an online forum, and she found that many married women have opened "escape funds" for themselves just in case, and began to think: "Is this really the right thing?"
An anonymous female netizen wrote in the parent-child discussion forum:
Today I met a friend and went to the café to chat together. I told her that I was recently saving some reserves in case my car suddenly broke down in the future, or to buy a new dishwasher, etc., but she told me that she had saved about 2,000 yuan a month to deposit in her "escape fund".
And she was shocked that I didn't even know what the Escape Fund was!
It turned out that it was a secret amount, and she had secretly opened a bank account for herself by her husband, so that after they separated, they would need to run away from home or other living expenses.
She said it was a financial security to prepare for the worst in the marriage.
I asked her if this meant that she would one day be separated from her husband. She replied that they were very happy now and never thought they would leave him, but she felt that every woman should have an escape fund.
She could see that this confused her, and finally she asked, "I think it would create guilt for my dear husband to do it." So, am I going to secretly start saving the escape fund now?"
Netizens have written down their views and arguments on this matter:
"When you also find out that your husband is secretly saving 2,000 yuan a month into the escape fund, how will you feel?" 」
"An intimate relationship is based on trust, not financial security."
"If the economy allows, save yourself a private sum of money!"
"One of the best pieces of advice my mom gave me was to always have your own money, which can be used in emergencies."
"I don't have a runaway fund, but I do have savings and I think I can use it if I need to."
"I didn't save the escape fund either, and I believe my husband didn't deserve it either."
Women of the older generation will think that hiding private money "can determine whether a woman's life is black and white or color, and the ability to hide private money is the key to mastering long-term meal tickets." But this kind of talk implies the premise of cheating on the husband, and there is also a certain selfish value.
Admittedly, everyone is not indispensable to seek a way back for themselves, but it is too calculated and calculated, and it does not look as honest as the average partner should be.
If we ignore the name "Escape Fund", in fact, its core concept is worth our reference and learning. Regardless of gender, whether male or female, single or married, in daily life we need a sum of money in case of emergency, its purpose is not limited to "running away from home", more often from unforeseen emergencies and accidents.
Rather than being called the "Escape Fund", it is better to call it the "Fund for Emergencies".
Having your own savings is never a sinful thing, if you trust your partner, you can admit that you need to have a "sense of security" of savings, find time to communicate with the other party, and believe that the other half will also support your concerns and decisions.
A long-term relationship of trust requires the same values of "money" and the support and trust of both parties. "Private money" has never been a sinful thing.