Since ancient times, men have faced a dilemma, that is, when their wives and mothers have conflicts, which side they should take.
The wife and the mother-in-law are two people who are complete strangers, and they are only linked because of the bond of the husband.
Two generations living together with completely different living habits and the three views will inevitably lead to contradictions. At this time, how the husband who is the bond responds becomes the key to solving the problem.
If you are unfortunate enough to meet the legendary "Ma Bao Man", then things are not so simple.
One day in February, at 3:00 a.m., the Shaoguan service area on the Nanshao Expressway in Shaoguan, Guangdong Province, was brightly lit and sparsely populated.
A pair of middle-aged men and elderly women who looked like mother and son were standing in the open space of a gas station in the service area, staring blankly at passing vehicles.
The temperature in the early hours of February was still a little low, but the two were relatively thinly dressed, looking like they were in trouble.
A well-meaning person came forward to ask, the middle-aged man seemed to grasp the life-saving straw, and quickly said that he and his mother were going to Zhongshan Xiaolan, and whether there was a ride that could take them for a ride.
Why was the mother and son trapped in the high-speed service area in the early hours of the morning? Passers-by are inevitably a little suspicious, after all, the tricks of the scammers are very clever now, and no one dares to easily take strangers to the car.
The middle-aged man sighed and said the cause and effect of the incident.
It turned out that the man was driving back to Zhongshan with his wife, children and mother from his hometown to work. The couple took turns to drive for more than 10 hours without stopping, and they really couldn't stand it, so they were ready to take a break in the service area and eat something.
The wife wanted to buy a bowl of hot spicy hot, but the mother-in-law stopped her, saying that the things in the service area were more expensive, and she brought steamed buns from home, and she could eat some steamed buns to deal with it.
The wife said that she had driven for a long time, and now she wanted to eat hot food, and the steamed buns brought at home were already cold and could not be eaten at all.
Besides, a bowl of spicy hot is only 20 yuan, and you can't eat it several times a year, so don't be so clear.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have their own opinions, and when the husband has to express his position.
Although this man did not object to his wife eating a bowl of spicy hot, he did not dare to go against his mother's wishes, and under the balance, he still chose to stand on his mother's side and help his mother say a few words to his wife.
The wife's grievances exploded in an instant, and she left a sentence: "You mother and son have lived together!" The man said that she also said that I was a "mother treasure man."
After the wife finished speaking, she drove away with the child, and ruthlessly left her mother-in-law and the husband of the "mabao man" in the service area...
In fact, the wife did such a desperate thing, it is impossible to just be because of this small thing, but in the usual relationship has accumulated too many contradictions.
As a woman, I can understand how wronged my wife was at that time. In order to save on accommodation costs, driving all night, physically and mentally exhausted, in order to find some spiritual pillars, eat what you want to eat, it is not too much at all. At that time, the husband not only did not understand himself, but also blindly obeyed the mother-in-law, regardless of the wife's feelings, which was even more chilling.
The values of the two generations are different, as an old man, after experiencing hard days, the habit of frugality has penetrated deep into the marrow, always thinking of saving and saving.
Young people choose to think that making money is more important than saving money, and they are more reluctant to treat themselves badly when it comes to money.
From the wife's point of view, driving so hard, even eating a bowl of 20 yuan spicy hot is not allowed, in this family there is still a status to speak of? Is 20 bucks a lot?
In other words, if it is the husband who proposes to eat spicy hot, will the mother-in-law stop it?
A qualified mother-in-law should know how to quit with dignity after her son has formed his own family.
By providing help to sons and daughters-in-law to the best of their ability and giving them the greatest degree of freedom, such a mother-in-law generally does not cause such a violent conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If the husband can help each other when dealing with contradictions, not let either wife and mother feel eccentric, and find ways to reconcile the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then the dispute in the service area is actually a small matter.
He must be indiscriminate in his daily life, always on the side of his mother, never considering his wife's needs and feelings, and will let his wife put the hat of "Ma Bao Man" for him.
The combination of "Ma Bao Man" and "Evil Mother-in-Law" is indeed something that few women can stand.
However, this wife's approach is somewhat extreme, the mother-in-law did not do anything wrong, but also did not hesitate to leave the country, go to the city to help her son and daughter-in-law with the baby, and share the burden of many families.
In the middle of the night, leaving the old man in the service area of the village in front and the shop behind is unreasonable.
No matter what, there are great grievances, and the elderly should be safely carried home to communicate.
Family and wanshixing, only family members can understand each other and fully communicate, in order to maintain a family.