Not long ago, I saw such a news:
The 17-year-old sister came back from school and happily bought a cold skin, and when she was just about to eat it, she was snatched away by her brother.
Angry and frustrated, she quickly went to complain to her parents, who not only did not help her, but also blamed her for why she did not buy two portions and why she ate alone.
That night, the little girl jumped into the river and committed suicide, 17 years old, the same age, which should have been the best time in her life, and fell.
She wrote in her suicide note: "Don't blame your brother too much, he is only the last straw that crushed the camel." "It can be seen how many grievances she has received."
17 years old, already a small adult, has understood the specific meaning of parents always say "he is still young, you let him" specific meaning, and even can already rely on themselves.
But she still chose to die, and still couldn't bear those unprincipled concessions!
Such a large number of people are like this, but what about smaller children? How much grievance do they have to endure?
Some children are just five years old, not yet old enough to go to primary school, and they have to give up their beloved toys to their younger brothers, even if the younger brother snatched them, how much did he bear in his heart at that time?
The toy is gone, the parents' love is gone, and they can't show it, because once they start crying, their parents will feel that he doesn't understand things and doesn't know how to be humble.
Some people will say, I understand the truth, I don't care big or small, I will help the right.
But in fact, there are too many chores in life, and there are many things that are not right or wrong.
For example, the piano at home is shared by everyone, and now the brother wants to play, the younger brother also wants to play, and they don't want to play together.
The right thing to do is that no one will help.
The children's world has children's rules, and they also have their way of communicating. As long as adults do not intervene, adults learn to let go, and there will be unexpected gains.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Director Li of Orangutan Village
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