"Time is life, time is wealth". In the fiercely competitive modern society, those who grind and rub and do not pay attention to efficiency will eventually be eliminated.
Zhang Li is about to go to elementary school, but he is still an anxious "little grind", and he is always slow to do things. From eating and dressing, to drawing, writing, and playing games, his homework can never be done on time, and he often forgets what he should do. Whenever you need to be ready for something, go to school, go to bed, take a bath, go to a relative's house, if your parents don't shout every day, "Do it now, do it now!" He will never be ready.
In this regard, Zhang Li's parents were also very worried, and they specially took him to ask the experts for advice and asked Zhang Li if he was stupid.
For children like Zhang Li who are grinding like this, parents may also think: "Why does this child do everything to grind and rub?" Did he inherit the procrastination gene from me? Because that's how I do things. Or, "No one in our family is procrastinating, so how can this kid be like this?"
In fact, procrastination is just a habit, not a person's personality traits, nor is it a character defect. When parents set out to help their children change this problem, they must let their children know this: procrastination is a problem that we can all change.
In real life, it is indeed very common for children to rub, but except for a very few, it is usually not caused by children's "stupid heads". For example, when experts conducted face-to-face observations and tests on him, they found that his intelligence was at a medium level among his peers, and through a number of non-intellectual factors, it was proved that the child's development was not bad.
There are four main reasons for children's grinding in learning. First, the interest in learning is not high, the initiative is not strong, and it is only to cope with teachers and parents. The second is that the child is "clumsy", that is, when doing things, the movement is not skilled. Because the child's nerve and muscle activities are not coordinated enough, and he lacks certain life skills, he is slow to do things. Third, the nature is very slow, and there is no hurry to do anything, even if the sky falls, it will still be the same. Fourth, the concept of time is not strong, do not know that cherishing time is cherishing life, and lack of urgency in doing things. It is often referred to as "chronic sub". A child's concept of time usually does not begin to form until about the age of 5, and gradually stabilizes after about the age of 8. In addition, the child's rubbing behavior may also be related to the behavior of the parents themselves. Some parents usually like to watch TV or books while eating, and some parents will also drag out time due to tiredness or laziness, these behaviors subtly affect the child, it is very easy for the child to develop bad habits such as inattention and procrastination.
Therefore, parents may wish to check themselves first and set an example for their children. Therefore, when parents correct the problems of their children's rubbing, they must find the cause and prescribe the right medicine.
How can we solve the problem of children's rubbing? Advice for parents is:
1. If the child's love of rubbing is caused by "stupid hands", parents must find ways to exercise his hands-on ability. Help your child improve their motor proficiency and agility. Parents can play some small competitive games with their children, such as competitions to see who dresses fast, see who bathes fast, etc. Through these competitions, parents can teach their children self-service skills such as dressing, washing, and cleaning up toys at any time, and teach children how to use the order of doing things to improve efficiency and schedule time. These games are played too much, the child may feel bored, at this time, you can give the appropriate reward to encourage the child to continue to do.
2. To cherish time is to cherish life and wealth. Through calm dialogue with children, connecting life and learning, children realize the true meaning of the phrase "time is life, time is wealth". In the increasingly fierce social competition, those who do not seize the time and grind and rub will be eliminated by society, and their lives will not be guaranteed. The bad habit of rubbing will affect your life.
3. Let your child do things on time. The habit of rubbing is not only present in learning, but also reflected in all aspects of life, such as: dressing, eating, playing, etc. Therefore, in order to overcome this problem, we must start from different angles and start from the reality of our children and formulate some corrective plans. What to do, how long it takes, make assumptions in advance, and ensure quality within the assumed time (of course, the sooner the better). After doing so, we can discuss together, adjust the plan, and strive to do better next time. For younger children, when performing these time-keeping activities, such as reading, answering questions, and working, parents will receive better results if they can carry them out with their children.
4. If the child's love of rubbing is caused by a poor concept of time, parents should consciously cultivate the child's concept of time. For example, set a time for your child before he starts doing something. Parents first estimate the time it will take for the child to do the best he or she can, and use this as a time limit, and then give praise, reward (or no reward, depending on the circumstances) according to the child's completion. At the beginning of the design time, parents should check it in time. The child does things, the parents time him, tell and praise him today is a few minutes faster than yesterday. In this way, the child will have positivity.
5. Let the child make friends with those who are efficient. Let the children learn and play with the children who do things faster, so that the children can influence each other. Moreover, you can also get in touch with the parents of children who do things fast, so that their children can be affected by it at the same time, and other children can also get better improvement.
6. Consciously train children to use their time efficiently. Give your child the time to learn each day, the tasks to do, and the goals to be achieved, and give them a little reward after completion. Combine the three to train each time. However, it must be flexible according to the age and personality characteristics of your child. For example, when training your child to dress, you can demonstrate that he or she will learn to dress on his own. You can also experiment with rag dolls and have children undress and dress them. Encouragement and praise should be given each time it is done. Button zippers, unbuttons, etc. can be used as training items. At this time, we need to be patient and do not expect the child to learn it once, which requires repeated practice. Children should feel that it is a pleasure to be more efficient. If the child is particularly abrasive about getting dressed, then the child should feel that it is fun to dress. This should be cultivated from an early age, and when the child is very young, you can sing some nice songs to him when he dresses; When you grow up, you can give him some fun things for him to fiddle with, such as hand-cranked toys with sounds, beautiful pictures, and so on.
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