My son is 13 years old, originally a 6th grade student at our local experimental primary school, he has never had the concept of "diligence" for learning, and he can always procrastinate and not write the best attitude towards homework. It is inevitable that parents will supervise, and teachers will criticize and accuse for a long time, so slowly he begins to have no confidence in his son and begins to give up.
Xiao yuan's mother knew that the child had not given up learning, so she summarized a set of "three-step" solutions.
1. Trust and respect children
Xiao Yuan's mother feels that she may have been busy with work in recent times, rarely communicated with her children, and several consecutive course tests were not ideal, resulting in her child's pessimism.
Xiaoyuan's mother picked a weekend night and made a big meal for the child. Communicate with adolescent children remember to tell the truth, do not stand in a position of parents, leaders to criticize him, then with the child on the opposite side, he is even more unlikely to open his heart to you.
Therefore, Xiaoyuan's mother did not talk about learning at the beginning, but talked about the interesting things about her work, and the child was laughed at. She only cut to the point: "Mom hasn't chatted with you like this for a long time, you haven't had much pressure to study recently, no matter what you encounter, you can discuss with your mother, and your mother will always support you." "Expressing concern, support and respect for your child is the beginning of a child's trust in their parents.
2. Learn with your child
Xiaoyuan mother took the weekend time to start learning with the child, the child began to learn biology, the mother bought a pot of plants, and the child observed the growth cycle of the plant, the shape of different periods, the child has a lot of questions, the mother can not answer, the two people will go to the library together to find information, in this process of exploration, the child understands all aspects of the plant, but also likes to study on their own.
3. Help children sort out their self-confidence
Therefore, when I find that the child's inner strength is not strong enough, the "radical method" will be counterproductive, so I must help the child establish a firm belief, which is my intention for the child's learning, absolutely believe that he can learn well, and really believe, not perfunctory.
Because of this way of education, Xiaoyuan successfully rose to a key junior high school, and his grades were in the first place many times!
When children learn to begin to be uncertain, parents can not blindly scold and count, children can have today's results, all in order to become a better self tomorrow, respect for everything about children, is the basis of all education. Definitely have to help them at critical times. If the child lacks a goal, it is better to be the child's teacher and use his own company to let the child witness a better "self".
Author's message: People often say that education should start from the doll, we should use the way the child likes to help the child learn, in order to stimulate the child's interest in learning, which must be more effective with half the effort. Six years of primary school, affecting the children's life in the next few decades, the growth of each child is natural and unique, do not set limits for the growth of children This book for different grades of children's psychological characteristics to educate children, through a large number of examples to explain the true meaning of education to parents, to parents to provide a lot of practical advice, Xi Shed in the cultivation of children to give parents the greatest help, the greatest encouragement, learn to use love to go to the lake to irrigate this small sapling, so that it grows strongly!
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