Stanford University professor Carol Dweck proposed that people's way of thinking is divided into two types: growth type and fixed type. A person with a growth mindset, willing to accept challenges, able to actively expand their abilities, is more likely to succeed in the future. Parents who hope to become Jackie Chan, how to help their children establish a growth mindset? Today's article, recommended teachers to transfer to parents!
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8 diagrams to help you distinguish between thought patterns
People with fixed mindsets: Avoid challenges.
Growth Mindset People: Challenges are welcome.
People with fixed minds: Hate change.
Growth Mindset People: Embracing Change.
Fixed mindset: Always pay attention to limitations.
Growth Mindset People: Always looking for opportunities.
Fixed-minded people: There is nothing they can do to change the status quo.
Growth Mindset People: Anything is possible.
People with fixed minds: Don't accept criticism.
People who think about growth: value feedback and take the initiative to learn.
People with fixed minds: like to stay in their comfort zone.
Growth mindset people: Like to explore new things.
People with fixed mindsets: Sometimes it feels like effort is useless.
Growth Mindset People: Every failure is a lesson.
People with fixed thinking: think that they don't need to study too much after graduation.
People who think about growth: Think that learning is a lifelong career.
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Jackie Chan must first learn to praise
How do we develop a growth mindset in our children? Professor Dweck said that it is not difficult, and some small interventions can have the effect of shaping growth-oriented thinking patterns. For example, praise your child wiser. However, don't praise your child's intelligence or abilities, and don't label your child.
Praising a child's talent instead of his efforts, strategies, and choices is slowly killing his growth mindset!
Don't use something like "This painting is amazing, you are our Picasso!" "Baby, you're so smart!" Such vague praise from the sentence to the child. Doing so will not increase the child's self-confidence and make them learn better, but will make the child think that he is valued and praised only because of iq. The end result is that they refuse to accept challenges and take risks, worry about screwing up, look "unintelligent" and "stupid", and in the long run, they slowly lose their enthusiasm for learning.
Praise for your child must be specific and clear, praise the process rather than the result, such as his efforts, focus, persistence, creativity, strategy and so on.
Share with you Professor Dweck's TED Talk, "The Power of Believing that You Can Improve."
As Professor Dweck said in the title of his speech, the key to education is to convince the child that he has the power to make himself better.
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Praise your child should say these 15 sentences
You're working hard
(Praise for effort)
When your child presents you with a beautiful work, don't be carried away by joy, and remember to affirm his hard work and efforts.
As hard as it is, you haven't given up
(Praise perseverance)
When a child completes something that is very challenging for him, such as meditating on a Go endgame, trying the high climbing frame on the playground again and again, and trying countless times after countless failures, please remember to affirm his patience and persistence.
You do things very well
(Praise Attitude)
When your child is full of positive energy about the task they are facing, don't forget to take the opportunity to say a few words.
You've improved a lot on __
When the child's ability to improve in a certain area, praise the details, the more specific the better, such as:
Baby, you now swim with a more standard hand posture, and the ventilation frequency is more even, a lot better than before, awesome!
This method is very innovative
(Praise creativity)
This is the most important place to pay attention to, seeing the child's whimsy, it is easiest for people to be linked to "smart".
But is the whimsy really "clever"? It should be the accumulation of creativity and thinking, oh, it is the child's brain opening after trying countless possibilities!
So, praise "creative" is right!
You're working really well with your friends
(Praise for the spirit of cooperation)
No matter how capable a person is, there is a limit to what he can do.
If your child and your partner have worked together to accomplish something and done a good job, please be sure to seize the opportunity to affirm your child's cooperative communication skills!
You're in charge of this very well
(Praise for Leadership)
Although some things are not completely done by the child alone, he is responsible for management, and he does a good job because he has a strong sense of responsibility and leadership.
Praise to this point, so that children can know that although he did not personally experience it at every step, it is also a very important ability to make it happen.
You are not afraid of difficulties at all, it is too rare
(Praise for courage)
Praising a child's courage is the time that can best help him increase his "confidence index".
You helped __ complete her task, which is really good
(Praise for enthusiasm)
"Give people roses, hand afterscent", helping others is a virtue, we must praise the child's enthusiasm, encourage him to help others more.
You've got your room/books so well organized
(Praise for responsibility and organization)
Being able to organize your own turf, pack up and take good care of your belongings is the embodiment of a sense of responsibility and an orderly way of doing things. This is the basis for children to be able to do other things well, and praise and encouragement are necessary.
I believe you because__
(Praise Credit)
Good credit will make your child's life path smoother, so help him build it in time.
For example, when agreeing on something with a child, you can say:
"I believe you because the first few times you spoke counted"
"I believe in you, you will find a good way"...
You did well at the event today
(Praise participation)
Participating in activities can broaden horizons and absorb more nutrients, and when children actively participate in activities and perform well in activities, they must encourage his sense of participation.
You value the opinions of others, which is very well done
(Praise for being open and open-minded)
Learn good advice and experience from others, their own ability will continue to improve, and people with growth mindsets generally have an open and open attitude.
I'm glad you made that choice
(Praise Choice)
Being able to do a great job is sometimes due to hard work, and sometimes because of changing strategies and making the right choices. Praise strategy is also the key to cultivating growth thinking.
You remember __! Thoughts were awesome!
(Praise for being careful)
Carefulness is not only reflected in being cautious and cautious, but also in the comprehensiveness and multi-angle of children's consideration of problems.
When going out to play, the child does not forget to bring an umbrella, and then it rains and really uses it, the original careful child before going out deliberately checked the weather forecast for the day, at this time, parents should praise his carefulness and thoughtfulness.
Don't put all the good performance down to making the child feel empty and don't know how to improve the "smart"! These 15 sentences cover almost all aspects of children's daily behavior, and when encountering any aspect of children's outstanding performance, you may wish to throw such a sentence first!
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