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"I've made a big fuss in your house, so give him to me."
This is a sentence that 20-year-old Xu Jinglei said to Wang Shuo.
In 1994, Xu Jinglei, who was still a sophomore, met the 16-year-old writer Wang Shuo, and the names of the two have been linked ever since.
Although Wang Shuo was already married and had children at that time, it did not affect the feelings of the two in the slightest.
And because of Wang Shuo's unconditional connivance, Xu Jinglei was once arrogant and flaunted her might in front of the main room.
Chen Kaige's ex-wife Hong Huang once mentioned the confrontation between Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo's wife, Shen Xujia, in her blog.
The young and vigorous Xu Jinglei single-handedly went straight in and asked Shen Xujia to take the initiative to quit.
Shen Xujia, who was provoked, still had expectations for Wang Shuo, believing that he would go home when he was tired of playing.
But the fact is that under the support of Wang Shuo, Xu Jinglei has successively starred in "You at the Same Table" and "A Matter of Wind and Snow and Moon", becoming a hot Beijing circle flower.
Shen Xujia, who finally couldn't bear it, officially divorced Wang Shuo in 1994 and settled in the United States with her daughter.
However, Shen Xujia's withdrawal did not make this extramarital affair complete.
In 1997, Wang Shuo's works were labeled as "rogue culture", and all films made with his works were banned, and he had no choice but to leave the United States.
By the time he returned to China in 2000, Wang Shuo's time was gone, and his relationship with Xu Jinglei began to change.
Xu Jinglei wanted to make a movie, Wang Shuo called his own connections to help her set up a stage; Wang Shuo did not have a house to live in, xu Jinglei did not say anything to buy a house for him.
But the two are no longer intimate partners, but transformed into spiritual companionship.
In other words, from the very beginning, Xu Jinglei's feelings for Wang Shuo were making up for her lack of fatherly love.
Xu Jinglei was born in a typical tiger father and wolf mother family, she was forced to practice calligraphy and learn to draw from an early age, and her father's high-pressure education became a shadow of her childhood. Even now practicing in front of her father, her hands were shaking.
The appearance of Wang Shuo allowed her to see another "father" image in the world, that is, she did not need her daughter to be successful, as long as she was happy enough.
It is also in Wang Shuo that Xu Jinglei not only makes up for the lack of childhood, but also feels the pleasure of rebellion.
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In 2011, Jackie Chan once again made the mistake that men in the whole world would make, and the object was the talented woman Xu Jinglei.
On the same day, Xu Jinglei and Jackie Chan walked out of the hotel full of alcohol, and although Jackie Chan himself could not stand steadily, he still did his best to help Xu Jinglei into the car.
When the car started, Jackie Chan probed into the car again, and the two staged a kissing drama.
When the "kiss photo" was published in the newspaper, Xu Jingleifang repeatedly denied it, from the beginning of the "sand into the eyes" to the later "good-bye kiss", as to whether this set of statements is true or false, we do not know.
It is worth mentioning that Xu Jinglei and Huang Lixing had been secretly dating for a year at that time.
In 2010, when Xu Jinglei was filming the movie "Dulala Promotion", she and the male protagonist Huang Lixing had an affair because of the drama, although the two did not announce their relationship, but insiders already knew it.
In 2014, Xu Jinglei posted: Five years have not been red in the face and have not quarreled, the right person, is to make you better people.
In 2018, Xu Jinglei posted again: For more than 9 years, I have often been sick, and you will always have medicine.
When netizens left a message in the comment area to ridicule, Xu Jinglei did not deny it, but replied hahaha.
Until 2020, Xu Jinglei finally sent a group photo of the two and officially stamped the 10-year-long relationship.
However, even if the feelings are stable, Xu Jinglei has never had the idea of getting married.
On the one hand, because her parents had bad feelings, in her childhood memories, her parents quarreled every day.
On the other hand, it is because he was disciplined by his parents since he was a child, and he was finally able to fly when he became an adult, and he did not want to be bound by marriage anymore.
And Xu Jinglei, who holds high the banner of non-marriage, has also made bold statements on marriage and fertility issues many times, revealing her dark side.
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From advocating the use of belly to have children, to opposing monogamy, is Xu Jinglei too avant-garde or too selfish?
In a certain program, Xu Jinglei talked about the mental process of "freezing eggs", and she compared her behavior to give life one more possibility.
When the host asked, will the stomach still be your own stomach in the future?
Xu Jinglei quickly denied it, and stressed that she would not have children:
In this regard, the host was greatly surprised, but Xu Jinglei on the side was not surprised, she revealed that her friends around her were all operating like this, and even said that the hospital should give her dividends.
And Xu Jinglei's interview, after a certain cool accident, was also turned over by netizens again to show the public.
In response, her response was extremely domineering, she said that "the mouth is on other people's faces."
However, even if Xu Jinglei is free enough, it is inevitable that she will be attacked by netizens.
After all, she has always flaunted "independent women", but now she is coveting the womb of the same woman, and it is really disgusting to match her rightful tone.
And Xu Jinglei's "avant-garde" speech is more than this time.
Once she expressed her views on the "monogamous" system on the show.
In her view, monogamy has been practiced for less than a hundred years, and perhaps the next hundred years of marriage will no longer exist.
If this is just Xu Jinglei's brain opening can still be understood, but her next words are creepy.
She believes that the emergence of a third party in marriage is a problem caused by the marriage system and has nothing to do with morality.
Perhaps realizing that her remarks would be attacked by the outside world, she did not forget to add that she was a second-faced person and did not care what others said.
In my opinion, Xu Jinglei is undoubtedly stealing the concept.
Blaming the chaos of her private life on the marriage system and taking the borrowing of belly to have children as a routine operation, Xu Jinglei has never been a "big honey in the capital", but a complete egoist.