For children's education, parents are most concerned about and attach the most importance to often focusing on learning, but children's psychological and emotional problems can not be ignored.
There may be some parents who will disagree with this, thinking that their children are still young, "don't understand anything", and they will not have as many "things to worry" as adults.
In fact, this is a misunderstanding, the child's mind is also very sensitive and delicate, it is likely to produce negative emotions for various reasons, parents need to give due attention, and to guide the child to reasonably vent negative emotions and alleviate psychological pressure.
Behind the children's paintings, what is revealed is emotional problems
A mother in Suqian, Jiangsu Province, found such a problem.
Her son is 11 years old and usually has a good academic performance, ranking in the top ten in the class.
But mothers have high expectations for their children and are more strict in education. The mother thinks that this is responsible for the child, but ignores the child's feelings.
Until one day, the mother found the child's "small works" and finally realized the problem.
It turned out that the child depicted a world of "villain wars" on a blank piece of paper, which was full of all kinds of imaginary battle scenes.
The mother was shocked, carefully observed, and found that the child's thinking was really "strange".
Look at this picture, one by one, little people fighting in the sea, in the sky, in the fortress, in the jungle. Among them are not only modern aircraft and ships, but also ancient soldiers wearing armor and holding spears.
After reading the painting, the mother had mixed feelings, and she did not know whether to praise the child's imagination or reflect on her own way of education.
The mother thinks about it again and again, thinking that her strict education has brought a lot of negative emotions to the child, and the child has no opportunity to vent her emotions, so that such behavior will occur.
Avoid putting too much pressure on your child
The mother posted the child's paintings on the Internet, which also explained her ideas and received support from netizens.
Some netizens recalled their childhood, saying that they had also had similar situations, and said that this is a good way to vent, and while painting, their mood will become much calmer.
Some netizens also reminded the mother: "The child should not be too strict, and the child should be properly relaxed." ”
Indeed, when parents educate their children, they should take into account the child's psychological endurance, do not always put forward too high requirements for the child, and do not always use criticism to "spur" the child, which will make them have a feeling of breathlessness.
Parents usually pay attention to observe the child's emotional state, if you find that the child's mood is not good, you can patiently communicate with the child, find the source of negative emotions, and then find a way to help the child solve emotional problems.
Guide your child to vent negative emotions reasonably
Parents can instruct their children to identify their emotions. When the child understands what kind of emotional state he is in, which one is angry, sad, depressed, or angry.
Next, parents can also inspire children to "describe" their emotions, just like when they fail an exam and are in a sad mood, children can use some vivid words to describe: "My heart is sullen, as if pressing a big stone."
The benefit of this description is that it can improve the child's ability to perceive and share emotions, which is very important for correct catharsis.
If the child encounters a problem that bothers him and feels that the mood is not good, he can confide this feeling to the parents, which is a process of expressing and venting emotions, which can avoid excessive accumulation of negative emotions.
When a child expresses his feelings to his parents, all he has to do is listen carefully.
In the process of listening, do not rush to make a right or wrong judgment on the child's behavior, and do not rush to give the child advice, but do a good job of accompanying, listening, and encouraging, and create a good "emotional outlet" for the child.
In addition to this "talk and catharsis" method, parents can also guide their children to do something they like or are very interested in, which can play a role in diverting attention and can also soothe the child's bad mood.
Like painting, doing sports, listening to music, practicing calligraphy, doing small crafts, etc. are all good methods, parents may wish to take their children to try it.
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