preface.
Crush is a person's war.
Some people say that crush is a form of love.
In fact, the affection for someone, but choose to treat it in the way of a crush, can only show a fact: that is, deep in the heart is actually not enough love.
Feeling that the other person is dispensable for the rest of their lives.
We will try to control our emotions and keep a certain distance from each other, for fear of affecting each other's lives.
Friends should know: and true love is often unbearable.
Great love can be speechless, and loving a person can be silent. Even if everyone chooses silence, that admiration will always find its way to transmit, and gradually let the other party understand their intentions.
Such feelings are a kind of sincere love.
Love or not love, is the subconscious mind at work.
Growing up, we learned to cover up.
But no matter when, the matter of love cannot be hidden.
From the perspective of love psychology, if we have real feelings for a person, everyone's subconscious will produce an inexplicable expectation, which will be transformed into expectations, affecting our judgment and choices.
For example:
If you don't love someone, there will naturally be no expectations in everyone's heart.
And when from the bottom of your heart, you want to develop a relationship with someone, and you hope that in the long years of the rest of your life, you will walk hand in hand with someone, everyone's subconscious will produce expectations, and then, every move will be affected subconsciously.
Simply put: love or no love, is not something we can control.
If the subconscious mind is deep and has the willingness to communicate, everyone will only involuntarily complete the relationship between the two people. If there is no willingness to communicate, there will naturally be no signal of admiration.
If you want to judge whether someone is true or false to you, you don't need to deliberately try anything. Everyone only needs to grasp each other's subconscious from the details of the two people getting along, and they can understand each other's true thoughts.
People who care about you will treat you like this.
Like, not love.
In sexual interaction, many people have liked each other.
But this kind of affection is easy to suppress, because in the eyes of both parties, they are very close to each other, but it is not necessary for you. Therefore, the feelings of liking can be controlled.
And the crush is just a person's unrequited love, and it is still far from true love.
So what will be the form of true love?
When we understand that loving someone is nothing more than the subconscious mind making judgments and decisions.
Next, how to apply these psychological knowledge to specific love talk, through the words and deeds of a certain person, to find the traces of love? This requires everyone to find the clues of love from each other's relationship through the psychological observation method and induction method.
A person who is touched by you and really falls in love with you will often send these three signals.
Gives you a sense of security.
Everyone has a need for security.
For girls, everyone lacks strong strength, and in the role of both sexes, they are often in a weak position.
When they leave their original families and enter the society and the workplace, it is easy to lose their sense of security.
Women will look forward to, through love, to find an emotional home, looking forward to the man they love, can bring enough security to themselves. In fact, men will also have the need to feel secure.
For example, many men are strong on the surface, but in fact they will also have a weak side.
When misunderstood, men also need to be listened to and look forward to being comforted. In the journey of life, walking alone is too lonely, and men also need spiritual companionship.
People who care about you will realize this and strive to meet your needs.
The person who doesn't love you will often only take care of his own feelings, and when he needs you, he will try to approach you. And when your needs are met, that person will choose to leave you and make you feel insecure.
Satisfy a sense of well-being.
Who wouldn't want to live a happy life!
For their own dreams, everyone has worked hard, and it is difficult to find their personal positioning and direction.
If we are not careful, we will reach the age of love, and then, we will carry the hope of happiness and hope to meet a like-minded person. When you come together, you can make your situation better.
True love is never a mutual drag on both parties, but the fulfillment of each other.
If someone, since getting along with you, can bring you the beauty of the moment, they will also try to give you a happier expectation. Obviously, this person really loves you.
Put you in a big position and see you as a partner for the rest of your life, and that's how they treat you.
Someone who doesn't love you may bring you a moment of joy.
But it will make you usher in a disappointing ending in a certain turn, and even make you no longer believe in true love.
A sense of perfection and solidity.
A person's prospects are often unknown.
And when you meet love, two people get along, you will face more variables.
With a happy vision, everyone chooses to accept someone, thinking that this will usher in the end of "one plus one is greater than two". As everyone knows, if we meet the wrong person, it will only make us drift away from happiness.
Never loved you, a person will only take care of themselves and live according to their own ideas.
Only the person who has you in his heart and hopes to spend the rest of his life hand in hand with you will use his own body to give you a long-term sense of solidity, so that you can see the other party as the real destination in this relationship.
Love or not love you, never verbally.
If you are around, there is someone who makes you feel solid and can make your heart rest. Please cherish the existence of the other party, but also to fulfill each other's fate, because the other party really loves you.
epilogue.
The rest of your life is long, and it is important to meet the right person.
If someone says they love you, they will never fulfill you in action.
Everyone should have the realization that the other person has never really loved you, just to meet his temporary needs and reluctantly be with you. When you meet someone who treats you like this, the best way to deal with it is to stop the loss in time.
Someone who truly loves you, even if he's not good at words, will let you find signs of being loved.
Usually, he will use guardianship to bring you a sense of security, use companionship to give you a sense of happiness, and will also use his own efforts to satisfy your sense of belonging. Because of the sincerity of you, a person will release these three signals, hoping that you can understand his true heart and choose to accept him.
If you meet such a person, please do not fail.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.