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Many times, the reason why children become "bear children" has a lot to do with their parents' education, but unfortunately, most parents do not use the power in their hands, and eventually create a "bear child" that even they can't control.
If parents can find out their children's problems in time and make corresponding education accordingly, there will not be so many bear children who will bring harm to society!
The bear child painted the latex paint all over the street, and the mother's method circled the powder
An 8-year-old boy in Yangzhou, Jiangsu Province, painted the streets white with latex paint. The street lamp poles and colored brick roads were all spared, and they were all decorated with bright white by the boys.
In the colorful city, this white landscape quickly attracted the attention of the chengguan, who ordered the boy to remove the white latex within 2 days.
After the boy's mother knew about this matter, she was even more angry, although the son did not know what his approach meant, but since it affected the appearance of the city and had a bad impact, it should bear the consequences.
The mother who received the news quickly took the tool and took her son to the "crime scene", and the boy also took gloves and a brush, and washed it over and over again until the early morning.
The difference between the bear child and the child may be the parent's step!
A family of three in Guangdong went to see a movie, after the movie, the bear child was not exhausted, ran to the screen and kicked with a kick, after a good pass, found that the screen of the theater was kicked out of the crack by the bear child.
Because the parents did not correct the child's wrong behavior in time, they finally paid for the bear child's mistake and compensated the theater for 180,000!
In fact, this pair of parents can completely avoid huge compensation, when the child extends the claw to the theater screen, timely stop, education, there will be no so many things later, let the child become a "bear child" The root cause may be the parents.
Any bad behavior and phenomenon in the environment, once allowed to exist or even allowed, the result is likely to become more serious, which is the connotation of the broken window effect.
The same is true in children, when the wrong behavior is not stopped, or even protected by the parents, the child will not regulate himself because of a fluke, but will only become more and more bold, and the mistakes made will become more and more serious, and eventually develop into the degree that even the parents cannot end.
If other children also imitate the mistakes one after another, and the parents do not find out and educate in time, then there will be more and more bear children. At first, it only challenges the moral bottom line, but when it is accustomed to being indulged, it may become a red line that crosses the law.
If you don't want to raise bear children, don't be a "inaction" parent
Draw the bottom line for your child:
There is no bottom line, you can do anything, so if you don't want to raise a bear child, then the first step is to let the child know the bottom line, that is, to make rules for the child.
Schools, cinemas, hospitals, shopping malls... In any place, in any environment, in any situation, there are rules and regulations, we must abide by them, if the child wants to violate, under the premise of ensuring safety, let him feel the consequences of violating the rules and deepen his memory.
Punishment is an effective way to follow the rules:
Without punishment and sanctions, who cares about the law? In the same way, parents should also punish their children appropriately in the process of educating them, so as to deepen their children's memories.
The next time the child encounters the same problem, the punishment can be associated with the child, which can effectively make the child abide by the rules without the constraints of the parents.
Don't try to "protect" a child who makes a mistake:
The reason why many bear children wantonly destroy is because their parents have too much protection, and they are always afraid of hurting their self-esteem and glass hearts, which will only make children more unscrupulous to challenge the bottom line of their parents.
When a bear child is criticized or punished, parents should stop protecting it, and sooner or later this protection will become harmful!
Children can not always be the reason and excuse for making mistakes, when they are still young and can still be shaped, grasp the correction, if they continue to connive, the bear children themselves are the biggest victims!