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In Doudou's book "The Distant Savior", Xiao Yawen once said a very reasonable sentence: a woman has "greed and anger", and a woman without greed and anger is a woman in heaven.
Sincerely, women will always be more emotional than men in love.
When she is really in a relationship, women will always have various expectations and requirements for men, hoping that he can make a lot of money and accompany himself 24 hours a day; he is required to take care of his career and family, and he can give himself full care and love all the time...
Although these expectations reflect the woman's full love for men, but after a long time, the bondage of these loves will make men breathless, resulting in contradictions and gaps.
In real life, there are not many such women.
However, there is also a kind of woman who loves soberly, although they do not meet the standard of "women of heaven", but their level is much higher than ordinary people, and even the way of loving men is more special than others.
One: Do not regard men as the whole of life, sober and independent
Carnegie wrote about a case in the book "Advice for a Woman's Happiness in Life": There is an intellectual woman whose husband has been in business for many years, and the time spent at home in a year can be counted with one hand, but their feelings are still very good, and there has never been a quarrel or a rift.
An outsider asked her: "Aren't you afraid that your husband is out looking for flowers and asking Willow?" ”
The intellectual woman replied calmly:
"The love between me and him has always been equal, I love him but I never ask him, I hope he can function more perfectly, but I have never put everything on him, what do I have to worry about?" 」
A few words revealed the sober view of love of this knowledgeable woman.
Even when she was married, she never regarded men as the whole of her life, she loved her husband at the same time, she has always been herself, she has never been lost in love.
Whether or not the relationship ends, she doesn't have to worry because she has the ability to be independent. Love for her is just the icing on the cake for her.
Two: do not demand perfection from your lover, know how to tolerate and accept
There is no perfect person in the world, if you have been demanding that your lover be perfect, this will only make the feelings angular, and sooner or later they will be scaled all over the body.
A woman who is high enough will definitely know how to tolerate and accept the imperfections of her lover, because they understand that even if they are difficult to be perfect, how can they be harsh on each other.
Li Yun knows how to tolerate each other in love, and her boyfriend is very busy at work and often travels. They were sure that the relationship had been more than a year old, and that they had actually spent no more than two months together, but she was very open-minded.
She believes that boyfriends are fighting together for their future, so she can understand his lack of companionship.
She understands very well: a boyfriend who is motivated enough is much better than a partner who will only eat at home and wait for death to achieve nothing, since she has chosen him, she must accept him as a person, accept the characteristics of his work, and tolerate him to understand him, so that the relationship between the two can go further.
Do not be harsh on each other, only do yourself, this level of love concept is high enough, worthy of affirmation.
Three: Will not always be the party of demand, know how to give to each other
There are many things in love now that are full of calculations. Especially women, they listen to more brainwashed remarks, and feel that in love, men should take the initiative, men should take the initiative to spoil her, and they should pay for her.
But the more women think like this, the more they will scare away excellent men, and the more they will toss the original good love to disappear.
A woman who is high enough, they don't have that idea, they understand the importance of giving to each other. This time you gave me a gift, next time I will definitely return the gift; this time you buy the bill, next time it will be my turn to pay the bill...
They don't want to take advantage of men, and in her heart both sides of love are equal.
They understand that love is to be a slave to each other, to give to each other, not to talk about male and feminism, but to be willing, to talk about mutual fulfillment.
In love, we really should learn the love rules of high-level women. No matter what, you can't take men as the whole of life, and you don't have to demand perfection from the other party, and you don't always want to be the party who asks for it.
Only by doing these three things can you become the great heroine of life, always control the initiative of happiness, and become the object of envy of others.