The most impressive thing that "Arrogant" left on me was Lin Wuyu's parents.
Parents love their children for granted, and they can't love them too much. But their beloved son Lin Zhan resolutely chose to disappear from their world, and it is difficult to say whether they love in the wrong way or if their love is too selfish. Lin Wuyu felt that it was love that was too much:
My parents' feelings for Lin Zhan, not only the kind of parents who love their children, but also... How to say it, go all out, devote yourself wholeheartedly, open your eyes to see you, close your eyes and think of you, always be able to touch you and control you, you are all I am alive...
Parents who love their children with all their strength, wholeheartedly, and all the time should be awe-inspiring, but think again, when you have another person in all time and space staring at you intently, when all your way forward has another one to specify for you, when your life is controlled by another person and there is no longer a chance to choose, will you feel lucky or unlucky? The child is an independent being when he exists out of the womb; he is an independent person when he is self-aware. Everyone has their own path to go, and they should have their own path that they want to take. However, his parents said, you should do this, you should go this way, you see, we love you so much, you are all we are alive, how can we harm you? At this time, what should he do?
He is the smartest child in the mouth, eyes, and heart of his parents, is he more proud or more depressed? He has a little brother who came to the world to cure his acute lymphoblastic leukemia, but his parents have not given him a little love from him, is he more grateful or more guilty? The love of parents for Lin Zhan is a knife, the knife is cut in the heart, love a little more, hurt a little more, hurt a little more.
Perhaps, Lin Zhan and Lin Wuyu still have some misunderstandings about their parents. At least in my opinion, this pair of parents love themselves more than Lin Zhan. They tried to control the direction of his life, to make him what they wanted to be, to put it bluntly, to let him fulfill their unfulfilled wishes for them, to make their lives complete. They had only deceived Lin Zhan, lin zhan, lin wuyu, and even themselves. In their planning, Lin Zhan should rely on the supreme intelligence to embark on the path they have designated, become what they want to be, and realize their dreams of life. The value of Lin Zhan's life is probably adding another example to the filial piety of our ancestors.
However, Lin Zhan chose to run away, when he had not yet graduated from junior high school. He thought that as long as he disappeared from that home, he could break free from the shackles of heaven and earth, and his younger brother Lin Wuyu could also be treated kindly by his parents. Too bad he was wrong.
Although Lin Zhan, who has become an adult, has his own studio, engaged in his own good and favorite career, becomes an Internet celebrity, and has a fan base, he treats people coldly, is afraid to express love, and the love given to him by his parents has become a shadow in his heart, a nightmare that lingers in his life. Because of Lin Zhan's departure, the only use that was originally in the eyes of his parents to "prepare for Lin Zhan's poor health and need people in the future" was also lost. Not only did he not get the love of his parents because of Lin Zhan's departure, but he became the object of his parents' venting emotions. It was his fault not to look for Lin Zhan, it was his fault not to find Lin Zhan, and it was even more his fault that he could not bring Lin Zhan home. In his more than ten years of life memories, there was not a hug from his parents, a hand holding, a little comfort, growing to adulthood, but finally had a close contact - because he did not bring back Lin Zhan, he got a slap from his father in the hospital. Even if it becomes a national college entrance examination, what about it? In the eyes of parents, how can they be compared with the all-powerful genius eldest son? (Alas, in fact, I can't quite understand this psychology, although I was born to save my eldest son, but I was born with my own child, how can I favor this to this extent?) I don't know if it was Wu Zhe's imagination, or whether there are really such parents in life. And they actually had the face to question whether Lin Wuyu had a little gratitude, so strange! It is also true that they are the ones who gave birth to him, and it is they who raise him, and for those who only have themselves in their hearts, how can they not pay for it without return? Isn't it natural for children to be filial to their parents?
When Lin Wuyu told his father who roared at him that he "wanted to be an orphan", he was both distressed and relieved. How can such parents be worthy of parenting! For Lin Zhan, it can also be understood that the way they do not understand love is a problem of emotional intelligence; for Lin Wuyu, without the disguise of love, what they see is their selfishness, which should also have a problem of character.
The influence of parents on children will accompany the child's life, and I am curious about what kind of parents have raised children like parents without corners.