Text/Moran
I've always felt that long-term relationships are all about maintaining a peaceful state.
Being too enthusiastic is not a good thing, maybe your enthusiasm is not what the other person wants, or your enthusiasm will put pressure on the other party.
At a certain age, enthusiasm is to be recycled. When people reach middle age, your enthusiasm should be moderate, and you should spend more time on yourself and your family.
For other relationships, don't push too hard, everything is too laborious feelings, it will be a kind of hurt.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, putting away your enthusiasm and enthusiasm is the best way.
Your enthusiasm may not be what the other person wants
For some people, it will feel that a good relationship is to blindly be good to a person.
In fact, it is not so, a long-term relationship, not blindly pay, but grasp, maintain a comfortable way, which will make the other party feel comfortable.
You think that loving someone is good for her, keeping warm, but you don't know if your good is what the other party wants.
Especially now, people are too egotistical, imposing their own views on others, and even moral kidnapping, and the other party who feels good should accept it.
As everyone knows, everyone will have their own lifestyle, and your good is not suitable for everyone. Some people have their own ideas and pursuits, and it is not that you think good is good.
Therefore, if you want to maintain a long-term relationship, you should respect each other, don't be too enthusiastic, and leave some space for each other, which is the best way to get along.
Too enthusiastic, but will bring pressure to the other party
In this world, what everyone can accept is different. Some people like enthusiasm, some people like to be alone, and some people want to be plain.
If a person is blindly enthusiastic, it may be a kind of pressure for a person.
With people, everything must maintain a certain distance, grasp a degree, in this comfortable state, each other will get along very well.
But once this level is crossed, it may cause a reverse effect.
Too enthusiastic, for some people, it is actually difficult to adapt and accept, which has to force the other party to treat you in the same way, so that each other will be very tired.
In fact, people don't want to be so polite, just maintain a balanced state.
Be more enthusiastic when the other person needs to care, and give him space when the other person needs to be alone, which may be the best way for two people to get along.
On the road of life, the enthusiasm of the point is the most enjoyable.
A long-term relationship needs to be maintained in a state of balance
A relationship that can go on for a long time is often relatively flat. Only feelings that can stand the test of time are true feelings.
The kind of person who is overly enthusiastic at the beginning, and after a while it is cold, no one can stand it.
Maintain a balanced state, neither overly enthusiastic nor blindly cold, so that the relationship can be maintained. Anything that is excessive will be out of balance.
It is said that the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and only blandness can last. The feelings maintained with the heart do not need the so-called politeness and indirect alienation.
A good relationship never needs to be in contact every day, but to appear when each other needs to give each other comfort and companionship.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, they must learn to put away their enthusiasm and be kind to themselves, which is the best way.
summary:
When people reach middle age, they are already halfway through life, and they must know what is most important.
You don't need to be overly enthusiastic about others, and you have this time to love yourself and care about the people around you.
After all, a long-term relationship only needs to work hard, manage yourself, and then need each other.