In this life, it is a kind of luck to meet a lover who is in touch with his own soul.
In "One Hundred Years of Solitude", it is said: "The real loneliness is only the so-called of the heart." ”
We are looking for, eager to meet love, is to make life less lonely, after all, parents can only accompany themselves in the first half of the journey, the second half of their lives, need to run their own business.
However, with the acceleration of the pace of life, it is easy to meet a close lover, so blind dates have become the choice of many people.
However, if there is a lack of trust between each other, even if the two come together, they are destined to be separated.
The following pair of young people, whose experiences are not unique in life, may be a little alarming to you.
01. What is love?
Wang Bing is a girl who likes romance, in her heart, her boyfriend should be handsome and really love herself.
With such a concept of love, Wang Bing has extremely high requirements for boys who pursue themselves, and put forward 3 conditions.
First, there must be more than 2 houses.
Second, it must be an only child, and the parents are working within the system.
Third, the height is more than one meter eight, and the annual income is not less than 200,000.
In Wang Bing's view, there are 2 houses, indicating that the economic strength can be, their own second half of their lives can be relied on, parents work in the system, you can see the knowledge of Dali, at least are cultural people, the future mother-in-law relationship is good, the boy looks handsome, take out to have face, high income can meet their material needs.
Of course, she still has confidence in herself, Wang Bing is one meter seven tall, taller than girls of the same age, after graduating from college, working in a private company, with a monthly income of 6,000, she uses most of the money to buy clothes and cosmetics, go out bright and beautiful, and must go out to travel twice a year, in order to have long insights.
Wang Bing's side, there is no lack of pursuit objects, but her conditions are placed there, but also let some boys be discouraged, seeing that she is nearly 30 years old, she has not yet found a suitable boyfriend, her family has urged more, and she is panicked.
Just sign up for a blind date online, look at her looks, many men want to meet her, in order to meet Ruyi Langjun as soon as possible, Wang Bing also does not refuse, after work to go on a blind date, sometimes meet 3 to 4 a week.
She numbered these blind dates, and they were all connected, because she knew that it was difficult to see through each other at a glance, and only by contacting more could she know whether the other party's words were true or false, and within a year, she had more than a hundred blind dates and did not meet the right boyfriend.
Wang Bing is a little discouraged, she reflected on it, her requirements are indeed a little high, age is slowly not dominant, if you do not want to change, it is estimated that it is difficult to find the right person, but also let yourself fall into passivity, pain and pain, she lowered the conditions, thinking that as long as the man's character is good, he can really do it for himself.
This may be a compromise of love, so are many girls, the conditions are very good when they are young, and when they are older, they press the conditions very low, which looks like a compromise, but in fact, it is also the lack of confidence in the heart after many blows.
02. Can you accept each other's past?
Under the introduction of friends, Wang Bing met Xiao Zhou, and the two felt good when they met for the first time.
Xiao Zhou is 3 years older than Wang Bing, because he is busy with his career, he has not been married, he has a company by himself, and he is still in its infancy, in his own words, it is temporarily not to make money, but there is a future.
After experiencing the world, Wang Bing's mentality was also peaceful, and he felt that it was good to find a potential stock, in case the other party developed well in the future, he could also smoothly enter the middle class, so he asked Xiao Zhou if he would like to give a dowry of 120,000, and Xiao Tuesday did not say yes.
The two as lovers of the relationship, are not young, but also naturally live together, there is a boyfriend often care about themselves, let Wang Bing also feel happy, 2 months later, Wang Bing felt uncomfortable, easy to drowsiness, eat nothing appetite, go to the hospital for examination, found out that she was pregnant.
Xiao Zhou was very happy to learn the news, and after consulting with his family, he held a lively engagement banquet, and gave the bride price and jewelry, and also decorated the wedding room, just waiting for a good day, the two held a wedding.
Who knew that in Xiao Zhou sent the photo of his fiancée to the circle of friends, someone contacted him, saying that he had kissed Wang Bing, and also knew that Wang Bing had a lot of boyfriend's contact information in his mobile phone, and he couldn't stand to break up.
This friend may have thought of the past, but for Xiao Zhou is no less than a thunderbolt on a sunny day, who would want his girlfriend to be complicated in the past, and then think of the two people who lived together not long after they went on a blind date, he thought that Wang Bing was too casual and lost trust in her.
When Wang Bing returned, Xiao Zhou put on a cold face, let her open the phone, want to see who is in the address book, Wang Bing is very angry, feel that Xiao Zhou does not trust himself, explaining that even if there are people who have been close to each other, it does not mean that they will be in contact, if they have other boyfriends, how can they be with Xiao Zhou.
But no matter how she explained, Xiao Zhou refused to believe it, and in a fit of anger, he proposed to withdraw from the marriage and demanded that Wang Bing return the dowry and jewelry.
03. Suspicion is a taboo of feelings
In this pair of lovers, suspicion is the root cause.
If you can't eliminate suspicion, it will only make the problem bigger and bigger in the mood.
So the question is, Wang Bing is pregnant, should she return the bride price?
Some netizens believe that there is no marriage license, and there is no wedding, the bride price must be refunded, because the root cause is not the man's problem, it is the woman's own front boyfriend too much, of course, it is difficult for the man to accept.
There are also netizens who think that there is no need to return the bride price, girls before marriage, talking about more boyfriends are legal, can not use this matter to judge each other, can only blame you for not understanding clearly in advance, girls are already pregnant, but also proposed to bride price, too much.
The controversy is that Xiao Zhou does not think that the child is his own, he feels that he has been deceived and has become a "receiver".
This is the terrible thing about suspicion, when people are not sure about a thing, they tend to think of the worst part of the result, and the more you oppose, the more insistent he is.
Wang Bing is also a person with strong self-esteem, she directly returned the bride price and jewelry, but refused to give up this matter easily, believing that Xiao Zhou ruined her innocence, and she wanted to give birth to a child to prove her innocence.
Xiao Zhou scoffed and said, "Whatever you do, it has nothing to do with me anyway, and I won't marry you." ”
Parents advised Wang Bing to forget it, give up the child to live a good life, but Wang Bing has an obsession, thinking that he can't lift his head in front of his friends, he must prove that he is not a casual person, the child was born at her insistence, the identification results, and Xiao Zhou is a biological father-son relationship, that is, Xiao Zhou is the biological father.
Maybe it was that things were big, Xiao Zhou didn't want to look back, he deliberately said that the identification results were inaccurate, it must be Wang Bing who did it, and he didn't want to admit the results.
At this time, Wang Bing is even more in trouble, not yet married to become a single mother, how should her life go? Although it is possible to sue to defend their rights, children will lose their father's love at birth, and life will become very difficult.
For feelings, it is never recommended to gamble, especially children, must be treated rationally.
Understand the young people's open thinking, think that as long as the two run to get married and fall in love, it doesn't matter if they live together earlier, it seems that there is no problem, but as long as the feelings of the two change, it must be the girl who is hurt.
If girls want to protect themselves, they must learn to refuse, delaying gratification can make the boyfriend cherish you more, and will also make the marriage between the two more attractive.
Okay, thumbs up and go! Do you think Wang Bing should have given birth to a child in order to prove his innocence?