In "The Gate of the Big House", Feng Liu, who works as a cook in the Bai family, steals three bags of flour in the middle of the night, climbs over the high courtyard wall, and prepares to carry it home. He carried two bags of flour on his shoulders and struggled to pile up the third bag as well.
At this time, Bai Jingqi quietly walked up and helped him. Feng Liuyi turned his head, frightened, and quickly punched himself in the mouth and confessed his mistake.
Bai Jingqi called him into the horse trumpet, picked up the stick and beat him, and Feng Liu screamed in pain. The more he screamed, the harder Bai Jingqi beat him, and finally broke his ankle bone.
The next day, the second grandmother saw Feng Liu walking with a limp, so she called Bai Jingqi over to reprimand him. She asked Bai Jingqi to treat the next person kindly, and also believed that the reason why the next person stole things was because life was too hard and there was not enough to eat, otherwise he would not steal things.
After training Bai Jingqi, the second grandmother asked Feng Liu to pack a red envelope and go back to rest for a few days to recuperate.
Before, I never understood why the second grandmother did this. The next person obviously made a mistake and wrapped a red envelope, is this not to appease and raise adultery, to condone people to make mistakes?
At one point, I thought that the second grandmother was old and confused, abandoning principles and rules. But now that I look at it again, I find that the second grandmother is really smart.
1. Why don't you punish someone to return the red envelope? This contains the second grandmother's understanding and tolerance of human nature
When Bai Jingqi hit Feng Liu at that time, he alarmed all the people under him, and everyone came to watch. You can imagine how embarrassed Feng Liu was at that time!
Moreover, Bai Jingqi was too fierce, breaking people's ankle bones. Feng Liu could only walk with a limp. When others saw him like this, they would surely laugh at him in their hearts and say, "Deserved."
Lizi and his face were ruined by Bai Jingqi, and he was bound to feel resentful. But as a subordinate, no matter how much he hated, he had to bow his eyebrows and serve his master.
With a grudge that has nowhere to vent, and continuing to work in the White Family, who can guarantee that he will not wait for the opportunity to retaliate?
Never underestimate the lethality of resentment, especially if this person stays at home, knows your details, and prepares you three meals a day.
In a situation like this, you either quit the person or quietly handle the matter, give him enough face, and let him reform.
Bai Jingqi beat people fiercely and left people at home, which is equivalent to planting an untime bomb around him. In case of an explosion one day, his destructive power could be devastating.
I have to say that ginger is still old spicy. The aftermath of the second grandmother is really clever. She first said for Feng Liu that she had no choice but to steal things, and also reprimanded Bai Jingqi in public. It can be said that this operation has found all the faces that Feng Liu has lost.
Then, the second grandmother gave Feng Liu a red envelope and let him take a vacation to recuperate. This not only soothed the resentment in his heart, but also made him feel grateful, and he would only work more hard in the White Family in the future.
The second grandmother did not dwell on the right and wrong of the events that had occurred, but focused on the future and the possible impact of this matter on Feng Liu and the Bai family.
Her actions not only let people see her open-mindedness and foresight, but also fully revealed her understanding and tolerance of human nature. She can see the dark parts of human nature thoroughly, and she can also stimulate the shining parts of human nature in the right way.
At this point, Bai Jingqi is far behind.
2. Different views of the world create different second half of life
The Feng Liutou flour incident also reflects the different views of the second grandmother and Bai Jingqi. The second grandmother is a person who lives in the world, paying attention to "if you can complete others, you will complete others." And Bai Jingqi pays attention to "killing him cleanly".
When the Bai family was in danger, the second grandmother revived the Hundred Grass Hall step by step, and at that time she could obviously make the opponent suffer heavy losses, but she did not do absolutely, but returned the money they had invested in to them without any mistake.
Because of this move, those people admired the second grandmother.
I wondered, what would happen if the second grandmother didn't do this, but killed them all? There is no doubt that she will not establish such a high prestige in the circle, and those people will not give up and will certainly wait for the opportunity to retaliate. Then, on the way to reviving the Hundred Grass Hall, she will encounter more obstacles and traps.
The old ancestor once said it well: "If you drive a dog into a poor alley, you will be eaten back." ”
Truly wise people have room for doing things.
Unfortunately, Bai Jingqi did not take the second grandmother's teachings to heart.
Wang Xiguang, the housekeeper of Bai Jingqi's new house, secretly amassed wealth, married several aunts outside, and drove Bai Jingqi's car to play with prestige outside.
After Bai Jingqi knew, he publicly humiliated Wang Xiguang. Knowing that Wang Xiguang was a eunuch, he had to poke people in the sore spots, find someone to rip off his pants, and stomp his self-esteem under his feet.
Later, Wang Xiguang became a traitor and always wanted to take revenge on him.
Bai Jingqi spent almost the second half of his life fighting with Wang Xiguang.
In fact, a villain like Wang Xiguang, you don't need to humiliate him, you just need to stay away, if you want to punish, let the judicial organs punish.
If you get tangled up with him, he will trouble you and make you uneasy.
Bai Jingqi likes to "kill him cleanly." As a result, it was only painful at the time, but it left endless troubles.
I think that because of this view of the world, the second half of his life is far less peaceful than the second half of his grandmother's life.
Jinan Jiaozhuang retaliated against the son of Old Man Sun, Wang Xiguang retaliated against him, and even the descendants of Zheng Laoshi, the big stomach king of the family, retaliated against him, and the second half of his life was not peaceful. This is also a punishment that leaves no room for him to do things.
3. Each of us is a magnetic field, but the energy attracted to the magnetic field varies from person to person
The second grandmother, a female stream, in that patriarchal society, can become the top pillar of the family, can withstand the difficulties when the White Family is in ruins, revitalize the Hundred Grass Hall, and let the White Family go to the road of rejuvenation, the most important point is that she can let go of her grievances and complete others.
She deeply understands that to complete others is sometimes to complete herself. She left a retreat for others, who either found another way out and stopped confronting him, or admired her and liked to work with her.
In this way, the people around her are grateful and admired and respected.
The energy in her magnetic field is all positive. She eliminated the destructive forces that might exist, and they all became her helpers, which were soft on the surface, sonorous on the inside, solid and strong.
Perhaps, this is the key to the success of the second grandmother. Otherwise, she was a woman, and it was difficult to gain a foothold in that era.
On the contrary, the energy flowing in Bai Jingqi's magnetic field is sharp and unstable. His "kill him clean" view of the world has left him surrounded by too many "evil dogs" waiting for opportunities.
He can achieve temporary victories by relying on "sharpness", but it is difficult to maintain such victories, and when tasting the fruits of victory, he does not know when a few flies will fly, leaving you with no appetite.
I have to say that for people to live in the world, we must learn from the second grandmother, learn to be perfect, leave room for people, and strengthen and expand their energy for themselves.