As a parent, the most feared thing is that their children are not living well, so even if the parents pay more, they will not complain.
However, some children do not understand things and do not appreciate it. Even if parents give more, they take it for granted, and even ask for more.
Often encounter such a demanding child, the parents' old age, most of them are a tragedy. For even if you reluctantly stay in your children's homes, you will always be estranged by your children's abandonment.
01, the daughter hurts her parents, and the parents feel sorry for their sons
60-year-old Aunt Yang, the most regrettable thing in this life, is to squeeze her daughter, to subsidize her son, and rob the rich to help the poor. In the end, the son's daughter-in-law's appetite was fed by himself, and the daughter was also divorced by the in-laws and left the house.
Aunt Yang and her wife have given birth to a son and a daughter in this life. The daughter is the eldest, and the son is three years younger than her. Therefore, from childhood to adulthood, Aunt Yang and her wife have always taught their daughters to help their brothers and not let their brothers be wronged.
Under the long-term ear of her parents, the daughter has also become cautious, very early to understand, for her parents to bring a younger brother, for her parents to share the housework. At that time, Aunt Yang also had a heartache for her daughter, but she loved her son and finally turned a blind eye.
After the daughter worked to earn money, she began to support her parents and raise her son. Aunt Yang and her wife also have retirement wages, but money is always more, the merrier, who will hate money more.
What's more, the son also wants to get married and start a family, and the daughter earns more money for the mother's family, which is also a matter of reproach. As soon as the daughter earns money to support the family, she will marry her in-laws, and she will be cheap to outsiders in vain.
02, "Mom, you look for your sister to ask for 200,000 more to change the room for us, your grandson wants to live in the best school district room"
Under such a thought, Aunt Yang was very relieved to accept all the subsidies of her daughter. Even if the daughter later got married and started a family, the monthly filial piety to her parents was 3,000 yuan for living expenses, and it was never broken.
Later, her son wanted to marry the only daughter in the city, and Aunt Yang spoke to her daughter again, hoping that her daughter could take 300,000 yuan and help her brother buy a house down payment. The daughters initially refused because they were also saving up to buy a house.
But Aunt Yang used the move of one cry, two troubles and three hangings, and her daughter was made a big fuss and had to compromise. Only that time to give money, the daughter was crying and returning to her mother's house, and then sneering back to her in-laws' house.
Since then, my daughter has rarely returned. Even if I came back, I came back to visit my parents and left in a hurry. After that, the daughter also slowly cut off the monthly living expenses of 3000, from 3000, to 2000, and then to the last 1000.
After that, the daughter did not return to her mother's house, nor did she give money, even if Aunt Yang urged three times and four times on the phone every time, the daughter always found various reasons to refuse. And Aunt Yang also emptied her and her wife's savings for her son, and she could no longer take out more money to help her son repay the mortgage and raise the child.
The daughter-in-law who originally greeted Aunt Yang with a warm greeting and a smiley face also slowly changed her face after Aunt Yang could not take out the money. Every three to five years, they were noisy at home, sneering at Aunt Yang and his wife for dragging their sons down and wanting to drive them back to their hometown.
After arguing for a while, the daughter-in-law proposed to Aunt Yang, "Mom, you ask your sister for another 200,000 yuan to change the room for us, and your grandson wants to live in the best school district room." As soon as the daughter-in-law asked for it, Aunt Yang was stunned.
03, mother-in-law: Your sister is divorced
Aunt Yang couldn't help but ask her daughter-in-law: Your marriage room is also in the city center, although it is not the best, but it is not the worst, how many people can't hope to reach. Why do you have to change houses again?
But the daughter-in-law said dismissively, what is good, compared with your grandson's classmates, it is simply unseemly. The water flows low, the people go high, and I change houses not for myself, but for your son and grandson. You either let your sister pay 200,000, or you can find a way to make up 200,000 yourself.
The daughter-in-law's unreasonable teasing made Aunt Yang feel powerless. Since her daughter slowly distanced herself from them, Aunt Yang has never seen her daughter again. The daughter is afraid of them, where will she be willing to pay for the house change for her brother and daughter-in-law?
However, at the urging of her daughter-in-law many times, Aunt Yang still had to call for money. As a result, the more Aunt Yang listened to the phone, the darker her face became. In the end, Aunt Yang's eyes were red and she was full of remorse.
It turned out that since the daughter gave her parents 300,000 yuan to buy a house for her brother, she has not been welcomed by her son-in-law and in-laws. Under the deliberate provocation of the mother-in-law, the daughter was eventually divorced by the son-in-law and left the house.
And the daughter was extremely cold to her parents, and she did not want to return to her mother's house, so she simply rented a house outside and lived, not even wanting children. Hearing what happened to her daughter, Aunt Yang immediately felt pain. The palms of their hands and the backs of their hands are all meat, although they have robbed their daughters of rich and poor sons over the years, but they still have the position of daughters in their hearts.
Now that their daughters are dragged down by them, how can they not feel sad? The consequences of all this are still of their own making. If it were not for their son preference and partiality to their sons, their daughters would not have taken 300,000 yuan in a desperate way to honor them, and finally they were cleansed out of the house.
Aunt Yang hung up the phone in pain and said directly to her daughter-in-law: Your sister is divorced, we are going back to our hometown for the elderly, and we can no longer help you with anything. After saying that, Aunt Yang and her wife carried their luggage and left without looking back.
Aunt Yang wanted to go to her daughter, but she was afraid that her daughter would never recognize their biological parents again. After all, they are the culprits who caused their daughters to disperse now. But they didn't go looking for their daughters, and they were upset. Can't the son count on it, and can't the daughter count on it?
Today's Topic:
Do you think Aunt Yang should go to her daughter?
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