"Love that does not get the blessing of parents is not good love."
This sentence may bother many students.
Over the past few years, many messages have been received in the tree hole, many of which have ended up because of their parents' opposition.
Some people rushed a few months later to go on a blind date and got married in a hurry.
Some people meet the right person after a while.
In fact, there is no such thing as feelings that must come to the end when they meet, but some fates are missed because they are too obedient.
The story shared today may be just a microcosm.
The story experience may not be the same, but life is only once, how to choose, all depends on you.
"Listening to my parents, I eventually married someone I didn't like."
@Pingzi, 31 years old.
In this day and age, it seems that 29 30 is not yet married, which is original sin.
But it's not that I can't choose, I've had choices at 21, 24, 28.
The reason for the stranding is the same: the parents do not agree.
When I was 21 years old, I nervously led my first love home after 3 years of talking.
"His family is average. And not a local, I don't want you to marry far away. ”
"Listen to your parents, change one."
From that day on, every time I went home, I would be asked about it, and finally I had to divide.
At the age of 24, he came home with his second boyfriend.
"He does sales, and his job is unstable."
"You can't smoke, this person is not used to it."
At the dinner table, my parents did not have a good face. Not long after, under the pressure of my parents, I was also divided.
At the age of 28, a younger brother of the company pursued me passionately.
"You're not young, you need to find a stable one."
"He can't even afford a house, do you get married?"
He was determined and very hard working to convince my parents. But I always thought that I needed to find a parent who also approved.
As a result, 30 years old, missed all options.
My parents were anxious, and I became very inferior. Finally, after a blind date, it was decided.
"Know the roots."
"Institutions, very stable."
The wedding planner asked if there were any photos to broadcast, I couldn't get it out, and I didn't dare say that I had only known each other for a few months, there was no date, it was like a fast food.
Closing your eyes will still remind you of those few opposed loves.
Mom and Dad said that after marriage, love. I don't know if it's right or not, but I'm very sorry why I didn't stick to my choice.
And, they don't know, when he was picking at my previous boyfriends, my boyfriend's family was also picking at me.
It's just that they chose to persevere, and I chose to be a deserter.
"I want to ask the actor to pretend that my mother is seeing the man's parents."
@sunnie, 25 years old.
Maybe everyone doesn't believe it, my previous boyfriends were driven away by my mother.
It is that kind, early love in high school (in fact, the other party's grades are better than mine, all rely on him to help me tutor), my mother can squat after school and he dissuades that kind of ...
At that time, I thought that I was simply worried that my grades would be affected, and I had to accept how to cry.
The boyfriend who talked about college, my mother was very eager to ask me to take it home, the boyfriend was very nervous to prepare gifts and practice for many days, went to the house, was found to be a Chaoshan person, and then was persuaded by my mother to retreat all the way.
I understand that my mother is worried that I will encounter the legendary machismo, but this feeling of persuading points every time I call WeChat is really uncomfortable, and in the end he can't stand to break up with me.
When I graduated from the internship, I talked about a new relationship, the other parent was very enthusiastic, wanted to ask my mother to dinner, and the result was to meet well... I found that the other parents may not have a good education, only his father is working to support the family, and it is a bit yin and yang weird to talk.
Finally, it is also because of these problems that the two sides have a little contradiction and are gone.
I can understand that my mother does not want me to suffer losses and protects me everywhere, but it also makes me miss out with the people I like again and again...
Now, I have never dared to let my boyfriend see my mother, nor do I dare to let my mother know that I have a new relationship.
During the Spring Festival, my boyfriend said that he did not want to meet each other's parents, and his family was very kind to me and very kind to me, but I had the idea of asking the actor to pretend that my mother met the other parent.
I know it's silly for me to think that, but I really don't have the courage to face it.
I know that she loves me, afraid that I will suffer, afraid that I will suffer.
But what the people I love are like, I know best.
Really distressed.
It is said that family affairs are the most complicated and helpless.
If you ask me if there are any good suggestions, it seems that all the truths are powerless in the face of these difficulties.
It's just that the spoiling of parents is really good for themselves.
Whether your feelings about the other half around you are really true.
The next few decades will be the rest of your life, what kind of life you want to live, who you crave to accompany you, and you may really have to make your own decisions.
Obedient, filial piety, no mistake.
However, some things, if you miss it, you may really not be able to find it back.
I remember that in the tree hole, there are also some feelings that are desperate to prove to my parents.
It cannot be said that it is all a joyful ending, and there are also some tragedies that miss the eyes.
But many, it is both parents who watch their children work hard to manage their feelings, try to learn to achieve a family, and then slowly change their minds, learn to let go, and learn to let their children become an adult.
There is no such thing as saying that if the other half loses his temper with himself, don't tell your parents, because you may have forgiven, but your parents will not easily forgive because you are their child.
Can't say the right or wrong of the parents, maybe it's very paranoid and stubborn.
But sometimes it's up to you to tell them:
You grow up.
You know how to pursue your own happiness.
Your choice will not make you regret it.
Even if the other person is not perfect.
You also believe that this is your true love.
Maybe you don't need to be rich.
Plain and simple grace and love.
Enough is enough.
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Ghost Talent Junshi Brother
Sometimes domineering and sometimes cute.
Once longed to grow up overnight and chase the stars and the moon
Only then did I feel that the gentle world was in the student time
Spend a long time with you in college
@Ghost Talent Junshi Brother