Confucius once said: "A man who does not know is not ashamed, and he is not a gentleman."
There are always some people around us, even if they are not understood for a while, they will not be angry at people, so it is easier to be respected, and there will always be noble people to help.
Such a person is always smiling, surrounded by a warm breath, making people unconsciously want to get close and understand.
This kind of person is what we often call "noble man".
The nobility in a person's bones has nothing to do with his innate origin, let alone material and money can be exchanged.
Guiqi is a kind of cultivation, which comes from the precipitation of knowledge and the cultivation of the self.
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Self-discipline makes people free
Human desire and wisdom are infinite, but energy and life are limited.
If a person devotes most of his wisdom to chasing desires, his whole life will be pathetic.
Confucius said, "A gentleman has three precepts: when he is young, his flesh and qi are undecided, and his precepts are in color; his strength is strong, and his flesh is strong, and his precepts are fighting; and his old age, his flesh and qi are decaying, and his precepts are gained." ”
A person whose body is not stable when he is young should abstain from sex;
In the prime of life, when the qi and blood are strong and the heart is not even, they must quit fighting;
When you are old, your flesh and blood are decaying, and you need to precipitate and feel happy in life, and you must quit greed.
But in real life, how many people can get rid of the control of sex, fighting, and greed?
To be a human being, you must be self-disciplined, blindly indulging in desire, that is, sacrificing your own freedom and surrendering to a temporary sense of satisfaction.
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Amorous, makes people happy
As the old saying goes, "If people are not grass and trees, who can be ruthless?" ”
One day, when Confucius returned home, he heard that the horse shed at home was on fire, and Confucius eagerly asked, "Hurt anyone?" ”
Confucius's first concern was whether the servants were injured, not his own horses. You know, according to the values of the time, one horse was enough to exchange for four underlings.
Confucius's friend passed away, and no one took care of the aftermath, Confucius said, "Funeral me." "Took that responsibility.
Later, Confucius died, and his disciples were like children who had lost their old father, and they spontaneously settled down next to Confucius's tomb and observed the funeral for Confucius for three years according to the custom of paying homage to his parents...
There is no unprovoked love in this world, and there is no unprovoked hate.
Treating people with more affection today will naturally be surrounded by the kindness of others tomorrow.
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Introspection makes people excellent
There is a saying in the "Left Biography": "If a person is not a sage, who can be blameless?" ”
In this regard, Confucius once added appropriately: "Passing without changing is an exaggeration." ”
Knowing mistakes can be corrected, and good deeds can be great. Passing through and not changing is the real sin.
Mistakes that are corrected in time, like chaotic clouds covering the moon, may bring darkness for a while, but they can always see the dark clouds disperse and the moon is empty.
Confucius said, "In a three-person walk, we will have our teacher, choose those who are good and follow them, and change those who are not good." ”
When you meet a good person, then learn from his strengths. When we meet the wicked, we must reflect on ourselves.
For those shortcomings in the wicked that disgust us, we must change them even more, and encourage them if we do not.
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Self-confidence makes people firm
Confucius met Kuangdi, and he said, after King Wen, isn't Li Le here with me?
If Heaven does not want such a civilization to be lost, why should the Kuang people do it?
Confucius was once hunted down and killed by Sima Huanlu of the Song Dynasty on the border of the Song Kingdom, and he said, God has entrusted me with the heavy responsibility of inheriting civilization, and what can he Huanlu do to me?
If people do not have self-confidence, it is difficult to stick to a new heart when they have experienced setbacks.
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Nurturing, making people solemn
It is recorded in the Analects that Confucius's first impression was: "Gentle and fierce, mighty but not fierce, respectful and peaceful."
As a saint, he was gentle and courteous but stern, majestic but not fierce, humble and comfortable.
As Zi Xia said, there are three changes in a gentleman: "Looking at it is like it, that is, it is also warm, and it is also strong to listen to its words." ”
A true gentleman, from a distance, makes people feel solemn, but after approaching, it makes people feel like a spring breeze, and his attitude is serious and meticulous when he speaks.
A virtuous and dignified gentleman should be upright, gentle in his dealings with others, and stern in teaching others.
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Sincerity makes people simple and rich
Confucius once said: "Three hundred poems, in a word, think innocently." ”
There are more than three hundred verses in the Book of Poetry, and if you summarize its content in one sentence, it is out of truth.
Similarly, Lao Tzu also said: "See the plain and embrace the simplicity, less selfishness, no worries about learning." ”
Sincere people are like silk threads that have not yet been dyed, and simple people are like unpolished logs.
As a human being, you do not have to be too obsessed with the pursuit of selfish desires, so as not to confuse your soul with the world.
Be sincere, do more good deeds, and fight less for your own selfishness, so that life is simpler and richer. 【WeChat public account: Guoxue Life】
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Ideals make people's patterns lofty
One day, Confucius talked to his disciples Zilu and Yan Hui about their ideals in life.
Zilu said: "My ideal is that one day my own cars and horses and clothes can be shared with friends, and I will not regret that I will not regret it." ”
Yan Hui said: "My ideal is to be a person who has merit but is not complacent and boastful, and will not push the hard work to others."
Confucius also participated in the discussion, saying: "The old man is safe, the friend believes, and the young man cherishes it." ”
Confucius's ideal was that the elderly could be supported and live a stable life, friends could trust each other, and young people could get due care.
Setting up an ideal is like climbing a mountain.
We may be able to see the birds and flowers halfway up the mountainside, but the beauty of "will be at the top of the mountain, overlooking the small mountains" can only be seen at the top of the mountain.
As a person, you may wish to look at the long term, you will have a different life.
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Love to learn and enrich people
In the Analects, the first sentence of the opening chapter is: "Is it not fun to learn and learn from time to time?" ”
It is a very happy thing to be able to learn new knowledge and to consolidate it from time to time.
In the eyes of modern people, learning is an independent word, but in Confucius's teachings, the words "learning" and "learning" have different meanings.
The meaning of learning words is equivalent to the word "learning" today, and the practice of words represents practice and practice.
Even if we can recite all kinds of classics backwards, we are tired of listening to a lot of great truths, and we do not put them into practice, what value do we have gained?
Learn to learn what you have learned in life, and your heart will become more and more fulfilling.
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Happiness makes life more valuable
Now, a large part of the population believes that happiness is indulging in pleasure, that is, wasting their time recklessly on short-term enjoyment.
As everyone knows, this is just a cheap pleasure.
However, for Confucius, the highest level of happiness is not the happiness of one person, but the happiness of all the peoples under the world.
If on the road of life, we do not know how to find happiness, and make ourselves very miserable every day, such a life is not worth much.
Music is the core of Confucius's philosophy of life, even in a dilemma, he can "eat and drink, bend and pillow, and enjoy it." ”
Confucius's most proud protégé, Yan Hui, was also well versed in this way, only to see that he "ate a bunch of food and drank a scoop, and in the dark alley, people were overwhelmed with their worries, and they did not change their happiness." ”
Life is poor to the point of being stretched, what is Confucius and Yan Hui to be happy about?
The wisdom of the saints is all the same, and Zhuangzi can also understand this pleasure, so he says:
"The pleasure of being poor is also happy, and the pleasure of being happy is not in poverty, but in the Tao."
Similarly, when Mencius spoke of benevolence, righteousness, and wisdom, he would unconsciously "do what you do, and dance with your hands."
This is the real high-end happiness, poverty and suffering can not be taken away, others can not take away.