The old man said: Whether a person's life is good or not is not based on the face, but is determined by these aspects

Author/Window Sill

I recently found a more strange thing, the more the people around me grow older, more and more began to believe in fate, when I was young, I may believe that my fate was involuntarily, but now I began to believe that fate sometimes has to be, fate is not forced at any time, and gradually lie flat.

Whether a person's life is good or not has anything to do with the same face?

Schopenhauer once said: "Man's appearance is a picture of his heart, and his appearance expresses and reveals the whole character traits of man." "So, from this point of view, a person's life and appearance have a certain relationship. Zhou Guoping also wrote in the book that in the long years, a person's habitual mental state and behavior are always accompanied by their own unexpected expressions, which will be engraved on the face after countless repetitions, and even leave special wrinkles.

Therefore, many times, a person's personality is closely related to the same side, and I believe that many people feel this in life.

Once, an old man in the family told me that a person's life is good or not, really do not look at the natural appearance, if you look at this, you can always find some counterexamples in life. The same face may have a completely different life and ending. Life is constantly changing and developing, and a person's attitude to life is the key factor that really affects a person's destiny.

01. The mentality should be peaceful, do not worry about everything;

You have not met this kind of person in life, they seem to have been lucky, there is always good luck to them, although their life may not have any particularly great achievements, but it has been smooth sailing, and has not encountered great obstacles, as if the heavens have always treated them preferentially.

To be honest, I have people like that around me.

Before, I thought that they were just pure luck, and even felt a little unbalanced in their hearts, as if bad luck had happened to them all the time, and there was no good luck, and I couldn't help but feel a little sad at first.

The old man later told me, "Mindset determines the quality of life." He believes that many times the same thing, people with different mentalities, see things differently, negative people can only see the bad side, and positive people can always find some points to encourage themselves.

I later found that the reason why I was unhappy with everything a lot of times was that my mentality was too impatient, I wanted too many things, and there were too many worries in my heart, so that I became calculating, looking here is not good, there is not good, and I like to lose my temper at every turn.

The more I do this, the more I form a dead loop, and the mentality is getting worse and worse.

Many times, in fact, it is not that things do not let you go, nor that others do not let you go, but that you do not let go of yourself, if you have to drill the tip of the horn, everywhere is your stage.

Now I really have a deep understanding of this, now I have changed a lot, the state of the whole person has begun to change, I feel that no matter what I do, it is much smoother, and good things are happening to me one by one. The so-called misfortune is not alone, it is exactly like this.

Some time ago, I answered a question on Zhihu, and the general answer was to write about a big family I saw around, and the united states, its happiness and harmony, brothers and brothers, the old and dependent, the atmosphere of the whole family, is the kind that most people will envy when they see it. I wrote about some of their usual patterns of getting along, and the filial piety of 5 children to the elderly, and then, I found that more than one netizen caught a point in my answer and kept questioning, they thought: 5 children in filial piety, it is not fair, because I wrote that there is a child who does the most, they constantly ask, why? Should she do this?

To be honest, I was a little confused when I saw someone questioning like this.

Because as far as I know, the child who has done the most, she herself thinks that these are no big deals, very normal things, things that contribute to the force, she does not suffer losses.

It is precisely because everyone does not have the meaning of comparison and calculation, so the atmosphere of the big family can be harmonious, you help me, I help you, and everyone's economic conditions are very good. And the child who did the most, her economic conditions were the best, her temper was also particularly good, a very gentle aunt, and the two children who were educated were highly educated, capable and filial.

If you follow the ideas of some netizens, even in the matter of filial piety to parents, if you do less or do a little more, you must think about why and why?

This kind of calculating attitude cannot be very happy in real life. Obviously, there are really too many things that make him uncomfortable.

In this lifetime, people sometimes live a mentality.

Good mentality, smooth things will naturally come, mentality is not good, you will feel that everyone, everything is aimed at yourself, personal fate can be good to blame.

02. You can be kind, but your kindness must have its own principles and bottom line;

The old man said that to be a person, you must be kind.

Only those who are virtuous can have more blessings and can bear the weight of life, and the Buddha has a saying: All evil can not be done, and all good is practiced. Good people will always have corresponding blessings.

However, I think there should be another premise: your kindness, to have a sharp edge, but also to have your own principles and bottom line.

A person who is too kind and has no thorns is likely to be a more miserable and laborious life in this life, because if people do not know how to fight for some benefits for themselves, when you think that you can impress people with kindness, I don't know that not everyone eats this set, some people will pick soft persimmons and pinch, and bully you to talk. Many times, do not overestimate the self-control of human nature, but maintain a certain majesty, and be able to use your kindness properly.

A person who is kind and has principles and bottom lines, life will not be worse.

03. You can be reasonable, but don't reason with unreasonable people;

People who are too attached to their hearts are always easy not to let go of themselves, and this emotion may be reflected in all aspects of life.

The old man said that you should be reasonable, but you can't reason with unreasonable people. When you meet unreasonable people, just ignore them, just ignore them, don't try to convince others, and the final result is just to add to your own blockage. This is how the unhappiness in many people's lives comes. If the days are not smooth, the natural life will not be much better.

Life, expensive in the rare confusion, some people especially love to be reasonable, but also think that they are a piece of good heart, the result of their own anger is not good.

In fact, too much emphasis on a rational word is itself drilling the tip of the bull's horn.

Be a person, you yourself are not ashamed of yourself, you don't have to care about what others think, how to do, that is someone else's business, you just need to live a good life. Individuals have a personal life, if you are kind, just remind it, if the other party does not listen, you do not have to force, because you can not change others, you can only change yourself.

When a person has such a mentality, the ordinary day will definitely go a lot smoother, and there will be more things that look good to the eye. Careless.

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