It is said that the most difficult relationship in the world is the mother-in-law relationship, two different women, because they love the same man to come together. They all want the most precious love from this man, so they often regard each other as "love enemies".
But because of different ages, different experiences, different concepts, etc., mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often not easy to get along with, many people feel that the mother-in-law is not doing a good job, after all, the daughter-in-law can not be embarrassed by the mother-in-law as soon as she enters the door, so what should the mother-in-law do to be a good mother-in-law?
The three mothers-in-law in the TV series "Heart Residence" may be able to give you the answer!
Su Wangdi - I want to take care of everything, but I can't manage anything
The older generation of the Gu family has three children, Gu Shihai, Gu Shihong, Gu Shilian, Su Wangdi is the wife of the eldest son Gu Shihai, and their son is Gu Xin.
Su Wangdi, how to say this person, people are not bad, but the mouth is bad!
When she was young, she went to Heilongjiang with her husband to go to the countryside, suffered a lot, the women of that era were the pillars of the family, men only took care of the outside affairs, everything in the family was handed over to the women, in the current parlance, Gu Shihai was very macho.
In this mode of marriage, Su Wangdi really suffered a lot, she put all her hopes on her son Gu Xin, and did not dare to be vague about the education of her children, which made Gu Xin, although she was a middle school in Heilongjiang, she could still achieve outstanding results when she returned to Shanghai to take the college entrance examination, which shows Su Wangdi's emphasis on her son.
In Su Wangdi's eyes, his son is the best man in the world, and no one deserves him.
After graduating from university, Gu Xin was admitted to the civil service and soon married a girl named Ge Yue in the unit. They have no emotional basis, and Gu Xin looks up to Ge Yue entirely because of her father. In the novel, Ge Dad is the main hall level.
Ge Yue personally has nothing particularly prominent, introverted, not very talkative, small in stature, the appearance is more general, and has not been in love, such a girl and her mother-in-law are inferior. But at that time, Ge's father had a lot of power in his hands, full of confidence, and was not afraid of his daughter being wronged.
The Ge family's economic conditions are relatively good, although the Gu family also took half of the down payment when the two got married and bought a house, but on the whole, the woman's family still paid much more than them. Ge's father also sent Gu Xin a luxury car, and after the two returned from a honeymoon trip abroad, they took Gu's parents to Suzhou to play a circle, but they did not expect that the two things that looked very beautiful made her mother-in-law Su Wangdi feel uncomfortable.
Su Wangdi felt that his son was so excellent, the Ge family could look at him, proving that he had a bright future, Ge's father was still two years away from retirement, and he was not counting on his son Gu Xin in the future. And in the face of the relatively large gap between relatives and families, Su Wangdi's heart is also sour, so she always says cool things in front of her daughter-in-law. One moment to pick the car fuel consumption is high, in the city is not cost-effective, a moment and suspect that the daughter-in-law spends a lot of money, eat and order without looking at the price, etc., in short, the daughter-in-law is wrong no matter what she does.
What is even more excessive is that Ge Dad was demoted because of his work, from the main hall to the deputy department, and Gu Xin's work was also affected to a certain extent. Once a rich family has become a "lost dog", but also tired of her son, Su Wangdi's heart is not happy, the mouth can not hold back, so when the Gu family dinner she complained about Ge Dad in front of everyone, the words were very ugly, Ge Yue was both embarrassed and helpless.
The biggest problem with Su Wangdi,the mother-in-law is that she wants to say everything in the face of her daughter-in-law, whether it is good or bad, she always has to say a few more words, and the words spoken are basically unwilling to be listened to by others. Maybe she's kind, but what if she puts the problem out? Nothing can be solved, everything is only a mouth, and it makes the whole family embarrassed, so everyone hates her.
Although such a mother-in-law has no intentions, just a smear on her lips, such a person is not easy to get along with, because in her eyes she is right, others are wrong, living with such a mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is really going to suffer!
Hua Yongyu - can't look up to her daughter-in-law, but she can't do without her daughter-in-law everywhere
Hua Yongyu is Shi Yuan's mother. Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu are classmates, when Shi Yuan was 14 years old, Shi Yuan went to Xinjiang, and the two agreed to meet in Shanghai in the future. But more than 20 years have passed, and the two only met again when they were nearly 40 years old, and the world was confusing. Gu Qingyu always remembered Shi Yuan, the two quickly got married shortly after meeting, and life after marriage was very sweet, but in the eyes of her mother-in-law Hua Yongyu, Gu Qingyu was not worthy of her son no matter how good she was.
Three generations up, Hua Yongyu's origin is very high, she is a family of scholars, a famous bridesmaid, but she herself has experienced going to the mountains and going to the countryside, suffering a lot in Xinjiang, and suffering from depression, and the family environment has plummeted. The most important point is that one of her mistakes led to shi yuan's failure in the college entrance examination, and Shi Yuan ended up only going to an ordinary secondary school. College did not do well, the job is not easy to find, marriage is a mess, Hua Yongyu always feels that she harmed her son, so her heart is twisted to the extreme.
In Hua Yongyu's eyes, Shi Yuan should be the prince charming in the fairy tale, with a noble bloodline, and the only one who can match him is everyone.com. Although Gu Qingyu earned more, but her family went up three generations and Shi Yuan's family was not matched at all, the original Gu family did not match the shoes in front of the Shi family, but now they really turned over, Hua Yongyu was not convinced!
In the face of his daughter-in-law Gu Qingyu, Hua Yongyu has always been contemptuous, ironic, and contemptuous, even if Gu Qingyu has always tolerated this and paid various fees in advance, he still cannot get the approval of his mother-in-law. And the more she did this, the more her mother-in-law hated her, not only was the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law unfavorable, but Gu Qingyu's marriage with Shi Yuan was also directly affected.
A mother-in-law like Hua Yongyu is the kind of person who looks down on people in her bones, and it is very difficult for anyone to get along with her. She can't look up to her daughter-in-law, but she can't leave her daughter-in-law, she has always struggled desperately in the mud but still pretended to be high, and as a result, her life has passed like this! If you meet such a mother-in-law, remember, no matter how good a man is, don't marry easily, otherwise you will face a terrible mother-in-law relationship, believe it or not?
Mrs. Gu - confused, almost on the line
Personally, I think that the best mother-in-law in this drama should be Mrs. Gu. The old lady is more than 90 years old, and her health is still very good, not only because she has been exercising, but also because she has a good attitude.
Mrs. Gu has three children, and the eldest Gu Shihai went to the mountains and went to heilongjiang when he was young, and suffered a lot of hardships, and his retirement salary was pitifully low. The second son, Gu Shihong, is a high school teacher, the retirement salary is high, and there is a huge contrast between the two sons, but the old lady does not say anything, has been living with the younger son, and has never embarrassed the eldest son and wife.
There is also a big contradiction between the children, that is, the daughter Gu Shilian and the son Gu Shihong divided a house when the old house was demolished, the big house was given to Gu Shihong and the old lady, and the small house was given to Gu Shilian, but the boss will soon return from Heilongjiang, what should the two houses do?
Gu Shihai did not have a little foundation in Shanghai, in such a situation Gu Shilian transferred the house to the name of his nephew Gu Xin, the meaning is very clear, that is, the house was given to the eldest brother, she felt that she could not let her brother have no place to stay after returning from other places.
However, 20 years later, Gu Shilian had cancer and was in urgent need of money for treatment, at this time, Gu Shihai did not show enough sincerity, nor did he express the intention of helping, and Gu Shihong and Gu Shilian inevitably had knots in their hearts.
Sister-in-law Su Wangdi feels that the conditions of her family are not good, her grandson will be born soon, there are places to spend money everywhere, and now the basic expenses of maintaining this family are already good, and now they really can't come up with extra money to treat their sister's illness. But everyone else felt that Gu Shihai and his wife were a bit ungrateful, so everyone clashed between the two sisters-in-law during the dinner, hoping that Mrs. Gu could speak fairly, but Mrs. Gu was magically confused.
In fact, Mrs. Gu's heart was very clear, but what could she do? The palms of her hands and the backs of her hands were all flesh, and she understood that it was a good idea for her daughter to transfer the house to her eldest son at that time, when the eldest son had a hard life, but her daughter was not bad, and it was right for brothers and sisters to help each other, and he felt very pleased. But now the daughter needs help and she can't force the eldest son to sell the house to repay her sister's affection, otherwise her pension will become a problem, so she can only pretend to be confused.
In her opinion, brothers and sisters, relatives between each other is to help each other, support each other, the sister is doing a good job, the eldest son is not wrong, help no one is appropriate. Whether it is a daughter or a daughter-in-law, as long as there is no major conflict between them, she will not interject, and the family will always live a harmonious life?
Mrs. Gu's attitude towards thin mud is still good, she never says much, all problems let the children deal with themselves, not biased towards anyone, not demeaning anyone, such a mother-in-law should be the most popular bar!
And Mrs. Gu has her own private money, she knows that her daughter has suffered losses, so she left a last word before her death, her daughter took half of her money, and the remaining sons were divided equally. After mrs. Gu's death, Gu Shihai's three brothers and sisters restored their former harmony and supported each other to walk the road ahead, and the brothers and sisters were reconciled.
The contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are different, which one do you belong to? What kind of mother-in-law do you think is a good mother-in-law? Welcome to complain!