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Some time ago, I brushed a clip from Bai Baihe's new drama "Our Marriage". Shen Yanxing, played by Bai Baihe, takes his daughter and brother to play in the community.
The neighbor saw it and asked in surprise, "So you still have a son?" Shen Huixing replied habitually, "This is not, this is my brother." The neighbor grew his mouth in surprise. Shen Huixing explained: "My brother is only three years older than my daughter. "Three-year-old uncle." Neighbors felt offended, and Shen Huixing felt commonplace.
This clip has aroused extensive discussion among netizens. It turns out that many people have such a little uncle, a little sister-in-law.
One of the netizens' comment caught my attention because reading it twice did not clear up the relationship. "My dad and my sister are classmates, and they often go to class reunions together", this sentence first made me look like a question mark. The next time I saw the explanation of netizens, I understood that the original sister was the daughter of my aunt's family, this cousin and my father were the same age, went to school together from childhood, and then they all went to high school, and now my cousin and my father often attend classmate parties together.
Well, it turned out to be such a relationship. In the past, when the family planning policy was not implemented, people married early, had more children, and the difference between brothers and sisters was normal. My grandmother has six children, my mother is the eldest in the family, and I am the same age as my uncle's grandson. Such things were common in previous multi-child families.
Later, with the implementation of the family planning policy, there were more only children, and such family relations were less. Later, in 2016, the country fully opened the two-child policy, and some elderly women chased the last train of childbirth and gave birth to a second child. As a result, there was a phenomenon in society, and there were more than a group of younger brothers and sisters who were about the same age as their children. Correspondingly, there are sisters-in-law, brother-in-law, uncles, and sisters-in-law who are about the same age as their children. This also caused some embarrassment.
Obviously, he is his own brother and sister, but he is regarded as his own child by others
Scenes like TV dramas are not uncommon either. With a younger brother or sister who is about the same age as their own child, others who do not know the truth will think that it is their own child, which will not only cause great embarrassment, but also inevitably be pointed out, and some will also affect their reputation.
For the parents of the children, they have almost reached the age of bringing their grandchildren, but they have given birth to children themselves. Take it out and others will think it is the child's grandmother. It's embarrassing for both parents and children.
Having a second child at an advanced age affects the family of children
After many elderly parents give birth to their second child, they do not have the energy and time to bring it, so they give it to the boss belt. The eldest already has his own family and children, and he still has to devote some of his energy to managing his younger siblings, which is bound to affect his family. If the other half supports it, if the other half does not, then there must be constant quarrels and the marriage is in jeopardy.
Therefore, elderly parents who want to have children must be cautious, do not bring burdens to children because of their own selfishness, and bury hidden dangers for future lives.
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