No matter how good a person's natural qualifications are, if they lack the awareness of self-discipline and self-cultivation, then they will slowly drift away from success and happiness.
What is self-discipline? Self-discipline is to take the initiative to do those things that are "very easy to know and easy to do, but they can't know and can't do", in fact, to put it in layman's terms, it is to let yourself supervise yourself and do something positive and beneficial to yourself.
Are you determined to go to bed early at night and get up early tomorrow, but still brush the circle of friends to visit the online store until late at night? Do you warn yourself fiercely, out of shape, overweight, can no longer eat the sea plug, but still can't control your mouth, indulge in a series of sweets on cake and potato chips can not extricate yourself, while making weight loss plans countless times, but still continue to lose weight in the next embarrassing intermediate period of weight loss, there is time not to go to the gym run, but to nestle on the sofa chasing drama or watching boring paragraphs to pass the time.
These are the most common scenes in our daily lives, which seem inconspicuous, but they can truly affect everyone's life and even life. Once or twice it may not matter, but the number of times, like a snowball, is not something that can be completely changed by a whimsical passion, so that it is likely to be indefinitely shelved.
Good habits and self-discipline are things that are built with years of continuous persistence, it is an extremely difficult and arduous process, and what most people lack is not to realize the importance of self-discipline, but to give up after failure on the way to try self-discipline. Choosing to accept reality "that's it" and continue to retreat to their familiar comfortable state and live according to the original trajectory.
We repeat this life and understand clearly that it is not good, but in the case of not being able to do it, few people will reflect on why and how to do self-discipline.
Self-discipline goes against man's hedonistic instinct
The process of self-discipline is a continuous repetitive and arduous process, which itself violates the innate pleasure of people's needs and feelings, so it needs to rely more on external forces to suppress inner anxiety, lazy character weaknesses can achieve behavior, so people will be more obsessed with things that can be satisfied in time.
So now many young people are spending high prices to buy the best skin care products, eat the best supplements, stay up the longest night, and constantly refresh articles on the Internet to find out how serious the damage to life is by staying up late.
However, such behavioral characteristics make our lives feel a mess, and we also lose the vitality and even health of youth.
After procrastination behaviors are superimposed
In addition to laziness, procrastination may also be due to the fact that things are too difficult or there is no resistance that you don't want to do from the heart, but no matter what, the shelving will become more difficult and even difficult to start after superimposing. So it's not that you don't want to be self-disciplined, but that years of procrastination have made it too hard for you to start.
Marshall Goldsmith is a global senior leader authority who has mentored a number of high-profile CEOs in what he believes is a multitude of competencies that leadership requires. At the core is self-discipline.
A leader, the first person to lead, the thing to control, is himself. How to achieve self-management, both bad living habits in life, but also how to be more efficient at work or further improve their efficiency.
Why are we so lacking in self-control? And how do we say goodbye to our former selves? What about being a better person or wanting to be yourself?
In his book "Self-Discipline", Marshall made a very important point, the first of which was overconfidence
Our judgments about our own execution and potential abilities, the external environment of our brain power, and our judgments are all inaccurate, or all of them are overconfident.
The difference between self-discipline and indiscipline is not in their natural thinking, whether they want to be self-disciplined, but whether they are really able to put this matter into action.
Just like staying up late, it is not that they are unaware of the harm and cost, but it is difficult to take the first difficult step and really run the simple action of sleeping into actual life.
In addition to execution, we will also lack judgment and even self-awareness of our own brain and physical strength, which is also an important reason for our failure.
Just like losing weight, in order to make yourself successful as soon as possible, the plan is to exercise for 2 hours a day, and your physical fitness feeling limit is 40 minutes and you can't stick to it, then you are doomed to slack off until you give up after one or two times, so you start with passion, thinking that it must work, or because of overconfidence.
Therefore, Professor Marshall said, "a plan that requires one hundred percent absolute effort to achieve will lead to a loss of physical strength and energy, which is very detrimental to our self-discipline." ”
Because of your abilities, interests, physical strength, and actual coping situations, it's simply not enough to completely accomplish your goals as originally planned. The whole person will slacken off because of fatigue, disgust, and loss, thus reducing the feasibility of self-discipline. If you want to complete the plan you originally set, you can say that you have more than enough and you lack strength.
Whether it is overconfidence in execution, it is overconfidence in mental strength. At the same time, overconfidence in the external environment is also the biggest obstacle to the implementation of self-regulatory programs.
You may have considered the combination of work and leisure when executing the plan, and you intend to go all out, but are the distractions that will occur in the middle of the way completely taken into account?
For example, if you go to the interview, consider your own dress, makeup, interview to say your own statement, you have a clear understanding of the other company's details, and even know what means of transportation to take from yourself the most time-saving and labor-saving, but only ignore the clogging traffic accidents that may occur on the way to the interview, as well as the waiting time of the elevator.
Therefore, uncontrollable external factors, overconfidence in unexpected situations, will also make self-discipline more difficult. Therefore, remembering to leave some free time in case of emergency is an important factor in improving self-discipline.
High expectations can disrupt the position because of factors that are not expected, and they will also hurt their self-confidence or produce a sense of burnout.
Therefore, knowing does not mean that you can really do it, and it does not mean that you can do it, and the author Marshall believes that the fundamental difference between self-discipline and self-discipline lies in two very different attitudes
So how do you make yourself self-disciplined?
Marshall warns us that if a worker wants to do a good thing, he must first use his weapon, that is, we often say that the sharpening of the knife does not cut the wood by mistake" and "if the worker wants to do good, he must first use the weapon."
The process of planning, that is, the sharpening knife before cutting wood, seems to add extra work, but in fact, it can actually make us complete the goal faster and better, and in the process of success, self-discipline will be easier to succeed and persevere.
So starting from planning, starting from this moment, starting from the investigation of their own endurance, many things will gradually change the status quo of lack of self-discipline, so as to completely change themselves.
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(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.