In the past, I always heard people say that some people would only admit that they had married the wrong person, but they would never admit that they had any other faults.
At first, I didn't quite believe this sentence, after all, people are not sages, who can be blameless, and if they are wrong, they will change, which is also a positive attitude, but what I didn't expect was that today I really saw such a "brazen" person, who was so wrong that he was still full of words, and even justified.
Life is a great shame
Xiao Jia, 31 years old this year, is a Hunan guy, mainly engaged in auto repair, at the age of 23, he and his wife Zhao Mei of the same age entered the palace of marriage, and now married for 8 years, have two daughters and a son, and the youngest son is also 4 years old this year.
But Xiao Jia was not happy, he took out a green hat he had purchased before from the bag, which read: "At the scene of the rape, please wear this green hat", when asked why he bought this hat, Xiao Jia just smiled helplessly, and then he took out a paternity test, it turned out that the 4-year-old son was not his own child.
Xiao Jia confessed that in fact, when his wife was pregnant with this child, he had some doubts, because as a person with two daughters, he would definitely count the days, when his wife often returned to her mother's house, and after a month of walking, she said that she was pregnant, which made him have doubts in his heart.
As his son grew older, Xiao Jia felt that his son was not like him, and as soon as his heart crossed, he took his son to do a paternity test, and the result was indeed as he guessed, the son was really not his own child.
What Xiao Jia did not expect was that in the face of this paternity test, his wife instead hit a rake, not only did not admit the results of the appraisal, but also beat him, smashed his mobile phone, smashed the air conditioner, and even proposed to divorce, and then returned to his mother's house with his son.
Seeing his wife's preemptive look, Xiao Jia had some doubts about life for a while, obviously the wrong person is his wife, the person who should be angry should be himself, which makes her feel reasonable, Xiao Jia feels that this is a strange shame in life, and he can't stand it at all, so he bought a green hat to wear on the head and paraded the street, the purpose is to ask his wife for an explanation.
At this time, Xiao Jia's mother Li Qingyun rushed back after hearing the news, in the mother's view, the grandson is indeed not like the son, but it does not matter, she hopes that the son can tolerate it, do not care so much, after all, it is not easy to have a son, but also with 4 years of feelings, besides, even if the son is divorced, it is certainly impossible to find the first marriage in the future, and the second marriage will also have children, so there is no need to break up the family.
I have to say that it is really pitiful to the parents of the world, although the mother's words also have a little truth, but it seems that there is something strange about it, but Xiao Jia has an iron heart this time, he vows to completely end the shame brought to him by his wife, some things can be endured, and some things really can't be endured.
After saying that, Xiao Jia put on a hat and rushed to his wife's mother's house, but when she got downstairs, she was stopped by her mother-in-law Ding Caixia, she said that her daughter was not at home, for the paternity test, she also denied it, in the eyes of her mother-in-law, the son-in-law was very suspicious, he had said before that the two daughters were not his, and now he said that the son was not his, he just liked to think wildly.
Mother-in-law Ding Caixia firmly believes that her daughter is innocent, because except for her son-in-law, her daughter has never interacted with other people of the opposite sex, and neighbors around her know that if anyone finds out that her daughter has brought other people of the opposite sex home, she can give the house to whom.
However, as soon as the conversation turned, the mother-in-law pointed the spearhead at the son-in-law, she said that the daughter had been wronged in the son-in-law's family, in short, it was not good, and now the son-in-law brought her own mother over is obviously unreasonable, and the son-in-law's behavior of wearing a green hat also wants to make them lose their reputation.
Xiao Jia on the side did not want to talk too much theory with his mother-in-law, he hoped that his mother-in-law could let her daughter come out to see him, blindly avoiding the problem could not solve the problem, but no matter how to persuade, the mother-in-law was unwilling to reveal where her daughter Zhao Mei was, and Zhao Mei never appeared.
I was innocent, I was not wrong, and I took revenge on him once
What people did not expect was that the next day Zhao Mei took the initiative to ask to meet in the park to communicate about this matter, as soon as they met, Zhao Mei bluntly said that it was very inexplicable, because she had never been with others, so she was very sure that this son was her husband Xiao Jia's, and it could not be someone else's.
As for the results of the appraisal, Zhao Mei is still unwilling to believe, and even willing to do another appraisal, in Zhao Mei's view, she and Xiao Jia have no feelings at all, because when she first went on a blind date, she did not look at Xiao Jia, it was her mother who had to force her to marry Xiao Jia, and her mother felt that Xiao Jia had a car repair craft, and she would not be hungry in the future.
But after 8 years of marriage, Zhao Mei said that Xiao Jia had never given her money, the two almost had nothing to say, the most intolerable thing for her was that Xiao Jia would often beat her up at home, saying a few words, Xiao Jia would also feel that she had too much to say, in short, the two almost did not communicate a word normally, so she also wanted to escape from this marriage long ago, and this time her husband Xiao Jia's behavior made her incomprehensible.
Hearing her wife's words, Xiao Jia was very speechless, she hoped that her wife could tell the truth, don't tear these things up, when the wife also admitted, saying that she did have a relationship with others outside, why not admit it now?
But no matter how to ask, Zhao Mei insisted that she was innocent, it was her husband Xiao Jia who destroyed her innocence again and again, as long as there was a quarrel, the husband would say that the eldest daughter was not his, and later said that the younger daughter was not his, anyway, he was like this, suspicious.
At this time, Xiao Jia once again persuaded his wife not to say these deceptive words anymore, is it interesting to deceive yourself? Paternity tests are out, you have to admit it if you don't admit it, or you can do it again.
Until this time, Zhao Mei told the truth, four years ago and her husband quarreled, bad mood, went out drunk, and then had an improper relationship with others, and then went back to continue living with her husband, and then became pregnant, she did not think that this child would be someone else's, after all, only cheated once.
It's just that Xiao Jia doesn't believe in such an explanation, in his opinion, his wife must have been more than this time, but before he could refute it, his wife Zhao Mei was ashamed and angry and launched a fire at her husband: If you are good to me, will I retaliate against you? You just treated me badly, so I was out looking for a man and a man who was good to me to get revenge on you.
Married for seven or eight years, you have not given me a penny, you know to listen to your parents, they want to use money, you give without saying a word, the child's share of the wine money, you even said hello without calling to your sister, do I have a status in this family? Is there dignity?
Zhao Mei felt that she was dissatisfied with this marriage at the beginning, and she had to live such a life after marriage, so she was even more dissatisfied, and the reason why she betrayed the marriage was also forced by her husband, which was all her husband's fault, not her fault.
For a while, Xiao Jia was a little confused, but after he eased up, he said that in fact, he had already regretted it, because he was forced to marry himself, and this marriage seemed to have no love at all.
It turned out that Xiao Jia had also talked about several girlfriends before, and at the same time he also took home to show his parents, but his parents were unwilling and felt that it was not suitable for marriage, until he was 23 years old, he was introduced to Zhao Mei, in fact, Xiao Jia did not look at her, but the parents of both sides were very satisfied.
So Zhao Mei's mother, Ding Caixia, forced Zhao Mei to marry Xiao Jia, and Xiao Jia also let him marry Zhao Mei because his father forced him to break off the relationship between father and son, and in this way, a marriage arranged by his parents embarked on a journey.
In Xiao Jia's view, his salary is not high, a salary of 5,000 yuan a month, and the tuition and living expenses of the three children are borne by him personally, so there is no extra money for his wife, and the expenses in family life are completely dependent on the help of his parents, otherwise his and his wife's life is not so easy.
Now Xiao Jia wants to divorce his wife, and then let his wife compensate him 200,000 yuan, and Zhao Mei also wants to divorce, but she said that there is no money to compensate, nor do she want to compensate, in addition to the two of them regretting this marriage, the parents of both families also regret forcing their children to marry at the beginning.
At this point, since it has become like this, it can only be faced with a solution, the two families have also agreed to the judicial office for mediation, at the moment Xiao Jia came up with a list, which is his demand for compensation, raising his son for 4 years cost 100,000 4, spiritual compensation needs 50,000, and other messy expenses add up to nearly 200,000 yuan, and the support of the two daughters in the future also needs Zhao Mei to bear a part.
Hearing zhao mei was very reluctant, she has always stressed that she has no money, and xiao Jia took a step back at the moment, hoping that Zhao Mei would compensate him for 100,000 yuan, and from then on, they would not owe each other.
But Zhao Mei is still unwilling, and at the same time, Zhao Mei did not realize her mistake at all, she said that I made a mistake that was forced by Xiao Jia, forced by their family, anyway, I was not wrong, I did not have money to lose, I was imprisoned, and in the end the two could not reach an agreement, and Xiao Jia did not want to give in, and could only be resolved through the court.
In fact, the two are victims in this marriage, obviously do not love each other, but the result is that the parents are forced to arrange together, this point, it is true that the parents did wrong, the children are older, parents can give constructive advice, can not be forced to take ideas for their children, take well of course, there is no problem, take it well will make the children hate for a lifetime.
Listening more and respecting the opinions of your children is also a point that parents should learn, not that you are a parent and you are all right, and many times your children's ideas are not all wrong.
But in this marriage, the most outrageous mistake is still Zhao Mei, obviously wrong, but until the end of the day, he did not recognize his own mistakes, always want to blame the mistakes on others, which is typical of people who will only admit that they are married to the wrong person, and other mistakes do not dare to admit this kind of person.
Every marriage actually has many ups and downs, and there are many people who run away in the middle, but we have to remember that even if the marriage is unhappy, even if the family is unhappy, even if you don't want this marriage, then you have to end this relationship through formal channels and then start a new relationship, which is responsible for yourself, but also responsible for others, but also responsible for innocent children.
An adult, has become a mother, has become a father, no matter what you do, you have to think twice, some things are one step wrong, one step wrong.