In fact, the phoenix man is particularly inspirational and positive in some qualities, he will not be willing to live in a bad environment, he does not want to have a bad life, will work hard for his own goals, but the only drawback is that he has a feudal tradition of thought, that is, the knowledge he has is rich, but the ideas he has have not evolved.
Two people in love, there is always some responsibility, the girl is pregnant, the man should take the initiative to assume this responsibility, to give the girl enough security and the rituals and procedures that should be there. Instead of thinking that after the girl is pregnant and waits until she is pregnant, she can easily marry her, without any feelings and marriage, it does not need to be paid, whether it is a spiritual payment or a material payment, it is essential.
1.
Love
Ma Tingting and Chen Tianyu are college classmates, but when the school first started, the two of them were not familiar with each other, and there was no communication in the first half of the semester, so that they began to get to know each other, because the teacher of one course divided the two of them into a group, and the number of people in each group was only two, so every time the group homework, the two of them were discussing each other together, and the degree of completion was very high.
It is because of this group work that the relationship between the two people begins to become closer and closer, and sometimes Chen Tianyu will invite Ma Tingting to come out to dinner, or invite Ma Tingting to drink milk tea and eat cake. Slowly Ma Tingting also found that Chen Tianyu is a particularly considerate and warm big boy, Ma Tingting feels that Chen Tianyu is a very good boy, not only has his own unique thinking and ideas in learning, but also seems to have special emotional intelligence in terms of social interaction.
Ma Tingting gradually developed different feelings for Chen Tianyu, in the past, Chen Tianyu invited Ma Tingting to drink milk tea, and now occasionally Ma Tingting will take the initiative to invite Chen Tianyu to eat snacks he likes to eat. In the eyes of the students, the two of them are like a little couple in love, because the two people are sometimes very tacit, and sometimes the behavior is a little intimate, and they may not have found it themselves.
Later, Ma Tingting took the initiative to confess to Chen Tianyu, and Ma Tingting said that in the process of getting along with him, she gradually liked him, and she was very happy to see him every day, that is, to say a word to him, which was also very sweet. Originally thought that Chen Tianyu might reject Ma Tingting, because Ma Tingting felt that she did not feel Chen Tianyu's liking for herself, it was very likely that because of this confession, the two people could not even be friends.
But Chen Tianyu actually smiled very happily, he said that he and Ma Tingting really had a sharp mind, Chen Tianyu also planned to confess this evening, did not expect to be preempted by Ma Tingting. Chen Tianyu resumed a confession ceremony, he bought a bouquet of roses from the side of the road and gave it to Ma Tingting: "Love begins with a bouquet of flowers and formal confession, Ma Tingting, I like you, let's be together!" ”
Ma Tingting was happy, she didn't expect that this boy still paid so much attention to the sense of ceremony, but with such a clear ceremony, Ma Tingting was also very secure in her heart, and the two people began to fall in love.
2.
pregnant
Chen Tianyu and Ma Tingting two people began to fall in love in their sophomore year, but also a couple known in the class, and the two of them have been talking about the time when they graduated from college, the other people in the class talked about love and points, divided and talked, did not expect that their pair actually went so long, the students mentioned that the two of them will be surprised, it turns out that they have been talking for so long.
After Chen Tianyu and Ma Tingting graduated, they discussed that they could live together, because in this way, they remembered the rent they shared, and shared the cost of living, which was quite cost-effective than renting a house alone. Ma Tingting is not a particularly traditional girl, so she accepts the behavior of cohabitation, and after graduation, the two people began to live together, and indeed the cohabitation life is quite moist for Ma Tingting.
On the weekend, basically two people cooking in the kitchen together, sometimes give Ma Tingting an illusion, as if she has begun to live after marriage, but just graduated for a year, Ma Tingting and Chen Tianyu did not want to get married, the two people are still career-oriented, they all feel that with a good material foundation, there will be a better married life. Although they have already met the parents of both parties, they also have no intention of getting married.
Two people have been in love for four years, and both parents feel that this time is a stage that can be married, and they have occasionally mentioned the matter of marriage to them, but the two of them are divergent from the topic every time, they do not want to get married now, and they want to do a good job first, and then consider other things, and the current life is actually no different from the life after the marriage of two people, but it is missing a ceremony and a certificate.
However, Ma Tingting still has the idea of getting married, but she just said that she doesn't want to get married now, because her current job has only been stable for a while, she doesn't have enough savings, she doesn't have a good filial piety to her parents, and she doesn't want to enter a new family so quickly.
3.
But two young people living together, it is inevitable that they will not be able to control their behavior, after all, cohabitation is actually like a married couple living, for a period of time Ma Tingting always felt that she had no strength, always easy to get sleepy, at first she felt that it was only because she was too busy at work and did not have a good rest.
But she suddenly thought of those idol plots, pregnant people seem to be like this, like to sleep, appetite is not good, Ma Tingting guessed whether she is pregnant, and her menstrual leave has not come for three months, before work so busy, did not pay attention to this matter, now think about it seems that it is really possible to get pregnant.
So Ma Tingting went to the pharmacy to buy a variety of brands of pregnancy test sticks, the final display results are consistent with the two bars, Ma Tingting was a little surprised, for a while did not know what to do, but she also told this matter to Chen Tianyu, Chen Tianyu was very happy: "I want to be a father, it is so happy that we will soon have a new identity and we will have our own children!" ”
"Then do you want to marry me?"
"That's definitely going to get married!"
"Then when do we arrange for the parents of both sides to discuss the marriage, when to hold the wedding, how much the bride price is given, how much dowry we have to give, these things need to be discussed in advance."
"Uh... No hurry, anyway, the time is still early, we are destined to get married, we must take it slowly, we can't rush it! ”
Originally, Ma Tingting thought that Chen Tianyu was really worried about the two of them' weddings, but once Ma Tingting overheard Chen Tianyu talking to her mother on the phone and said, "Wait until her stomach is big, see who is in a hurry!" Originally, Ma Tingting had not yet heard what this sentence meant, but what Chen Tianyu said later simply made Ma Tingting extremely angry.
"Now that she's pregnant, she'll have to marry me when her belly gets bigger." I will definitely be in a hurry to get the wedding done! When the time comes, you don't have to give a bride price, you can marry her, and find you a free daughter-in-law! ”
It turned out that he was slow to put the wedding on the agenda in order not to give the bride price, fortunately, this child is only three months, Ma Tingting did not consult with him, he made an appointment with the hospital abortion operation, and called his good friend to accompany him. By the time Chen Tianyu knew that she had beaten the child, it was too late, and Ma Tingting also proposed to break up in person, moved away from the place where she lived together, and moved away everything she had spent money to buy.
4.
affection
We will be attracted to him because of a certain trait of the other party, a certain moment, and in the process of getting along over time, two people will have more and more good feelings, and they will have love, and then they will choose to become lovers together. When you are in love, it is always so beautiful, you want to share all the best things with each other, and the things you feel happy will also share with each other, feelings are a complex and simple thing.
When it is simple, everyone will be particularly happy, and when it is complicated, it will be easy to think too much, and even two people will go against each other. In fact, the most important thing in the relationship is that two people need to communicate effectively, and two people must have the same future goals to go more smoothly.
And some people will want to take advantage of the other party because the other party is pregnant, they will feel that the pregnant girl is not married, and they will save the bride price. The bride price is just a process, a ritual, don't care about how much or less he has, the most important thing is to look at your own heart, and if you really love someone, you should not use some means to calculate each other, two people in love is to get along sincerely and sincerely.