As of 2019, the number of remarriages on the mainland has increased for 6 consecutive years.
Do you think that by reorganizing the family, the husband and wife each carrying your ex's children, will life be happy after marriage?
"Family with Children", which was once broadcast, let everyone see a different and reorganized family. This gives hope to many divorced people with children, but some people feel that this kind of restructured family life is unreal.
People have more or less selfish intentions, can stepfathers and stepmothers really treat other people's children as their own children? After seeing the following big family, there may be a change.
The stepfather raised 3 stepdaughters and has loved them for more than 20 years
A large, restructured family with 2 sons and 1 daughter and 3 daughters. This situation is unacceptable to many people, but this family has lived an enviable life.
In an interview, a woman recounted her biological father's practices over the years, which caused a lot of discussion.
The old father, who is praised by everyone and surnamed Li, is a peasant uncle who is now 62 years old. Over the years, he has been diligent and earnest in supporting this big family.
Uncle Li's wife died in the early years, when he was not very old. Life went on, so years after his wife's death, he chose to reorganize the family and marry the woman with 3 daughters.
With 6 children at once, life was a bit tough at first. But no matter how many difficulties they had, they all survived.
For more than 20 years of restructuring the family, Uncle Li has paid a lot for this family. Not only did he allow himself to have a happy marriage, but he also carefully raised his own children and 3 stepdaughters to adulthood, and his love has not diminished over the years.
The stepfather provided for 3 stepdaughters to go to graduate school, and his biological daughter spoke
People's stereotypes of stepfathers and stepmothers are not very good. But Uncle Li used his own practical actions to prove that the stepfather can be as good as the child's biological father, even more than the love of the biological father.
The uncle's own daughter recalled that when the 3 strange sisters came to the house, they were only about 10 years old, the oldest child in the family, and it was seen from the photos that the younger siblings were very small.
His father, through years of hard work, raised 6 children, and also trained 3 stepdaughters to become doctoral and graduate students of famous universities. However, Uncle Li's own children dropped out of school early and went out to work.
When some people see that Uncle Li is very good to his stepdaughter, in addition to admiring him, he can't help but say that he is a bit stupid. Raise other people's children so well, but their own children only go to junior high school.
In this regard, the uncle's own daughter spoke. She also said: "I don't think my father is stupid, 6 brothers and sisters are in love with each other, there is no difference from their own children." Her tone could be heard, and she was not dissatisfied with her father.
In fact, at the beginning, 6 children had the opportunity to read, but Uncle Li's own children could not read it. Fathers pay great attention to cultivating "talents", but this is the child's own choice.
Adults who reorganize their families can also treat their children as if they were their own
If it weren't for the news, Uncle Li's deeds might only be known to people near his home. After being named "Good Man of Hunan", this great stepfather was known to more people.
Many children who reorganize their families always seem to be more introverted and inferior. It may be that he is sensitive to his identity, or it may be that he is really unhappy in the reorganization of the family.
But there are no absolutes in the world, and some reorganized families are indeed very happy. The family model of "Family with Children" can also be illuminated into reality.
In the reorganization of the family, the husband and wife may be able to get together quickly. But the child's relationship with the stepfather and stepmother takes longer to adjust. The older the child, the more difficult it is to adjust the relationship.
Although many people are divorced, they are not bad in nature and will not do anything to hurt their children, so it is also very happy to reorganize the family.
In the reorganization of the family, it is also necessary to pay attention to the exchange of people's hearts and minds
Whether the restructured family is happy or not lies in many factors, often regardless of whether the other party has brought several children or boys and girls.
Choices when remarrying are important
Some people who divorce with children will demote themselves and feel that they will be able to live a good life. As a result, he once again fell into an unhappy marriage and let the child suffer with him.
It is precisely because of the children that it is necessary to choose a second marriage more carefully. This is responsible for oneself, but also responsible for the child.
The restructuring of relationships in the family cannot be forced
It is a fact that one has to accept that not the majority are able to treat their stepdaughters or disciples as their own. So you don't have to ask the other person to do a good job, and you don't have to hold out too high hopes, as long as there is a bottom line.
You can't force your child to call a dad or mom immediately after entering a restructured family, and you certainly can't force your partner to be absolutely fair
When the stepfather and stepmother are good to the child, the child must also know how to be grateful, and people say that it is better to be born than to raise grace, which is the state in the reorganization of the family.
Adults should also have the psychology of loving the house and Wu, since they have chosen to enter the marriage again, then try to accept and love their partners' children more, which is the simplest change of heart.
【Today's topic】Do you have a very happy restructured family around you?