Not every child has a gift for reading.
Children in the learning performance, can generally be divided into three categories: the first category: spiritual, gifted, interested, methodical, high self-discipline, willing to study, good tutoring environment, this type of children are often the best in the field of learning, mostly for the bully or god, rarely need parents to worry. The second category belongs to the middle state of students, in terms of spirituality, talent, interest, method, self-discipline and other aspects of moderate or upper performance, although inferior to the first category, but still belongs to the "widow can teach also", can be through the "diligent can make up for the clumsiness" method to achieve the dream of further study. Such children, as long as parents and teachers pay attention to it and guide them properly, the results can also be happy.
The third category of children belongs to the "stubborn" in learning, lack of environment, lack of talent, qualifications, interests, methods, determination and will, etc. This kind of child, if you work learning, the general achievement will not be too big, and you will be admitted to a specialty with all your strength, and the three-two schools are limited. According to these three categories of classification, the first type of children, easily go to the top schools. The second category of children is secondary, and the third category of children is naturally diverted to other areas. The so-called "three hundred and sixty lines, lines out of the yuan" . But for some parents, especially those above the middle class, it is not easy to let their children accept the third type of fate.
Therefore, knowing that it can not be done, facing the difficulties has become an inevitable choice, just like in the question, if the parents have been trying to accompany the reading, the child has been working very hard, but the results are still a mess, at this time, parents need to stop and think about whether the child is suitable for reading this road. "Know what you can't do" can be a positive word in one context and a derogatory word in one context. For example, I remember when I was a child, there was a mother who was extremely strict and attentive to her children's education.
Sometimes even when the child is doing homework, the mother will hold a feather duster next to it at any time to "wait", but even if the expectations of the child are so strict, in the end the child still drops out of school early in junior high school and works for people everywhere. I have two Kochi friends, children learning is also to make parents sigh, now parents basically put their children's learning expectations very low, ready to go with the trend in the future.
Based on this, if the child's grades really can't go up, parents need to review and reflect on what type of child's grades are not good. If the child is indeed not "reading this material", parents need to adjust their mentality, reduce expectations, and think of helping their children find another way.
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When chatting with several parents a few days ago, parents mentioned that they have not gone to work since their children went to school, taking care of their children at home all day and supervising their children's learning, and as a result, the child's academic performance is still not as good as a day, and the family is also full of complaints, thinking that they have not managed their children well. This is estimated to be a portrayal of many parents, who spend all their time and energy on taking care of their children, but the children are always angry. Why is this happening? Parents can take care of their children's lives, and when their children are in primary school, parents can also provide certain counseling for their children's learning.
However, with the increase of grades, parents gradually have no heart in their children's learning, and eventually learning still depends on the students themselves to complete. Learning is always the child's own business, learning effect and performance depends on the student's learning status, if the student does not have initiative in learning, no matter how carefully parents to help and guide, academic performance is definitely not going to go up, learning things parents will always replace the child. As many people say now, it always feels like a child's learning is a parent's business rather than the student's own affair, because parents are always more anxious than their children.
Most of the child's learning activities are completed at school, at home is only review and consolidation, the learning habits developed in school and the foundation laid down basically determine the learning effect, students at home parents can accompany, to supervise the child's learning, but what about the child in school? Although there is supervision and management by teachers, it is more necessary for students to learn on their own, and they must be proactive in learning, otherwise it is difficult to achieve more ideal results. Some parents have really made great efforts for their children's learning, remember reading a report on the Internet before.
When the child goes to learn the Olympic number at the beginning of the primary school, the parents directly accompany the child to the class, and follow the child to learn, practice, and take notes. Then after class, parents follow the child to review and consolidate, sometimes parents also have to explain to the child, what is the effort under this, it is simply that the parents are learning, not the students are learning, and the final effect is unknown. Tutoring homework is a headache for many parents, a very popular sentence, usually motherly kindness and filial piety, when it comes to writing homework, chickens fly and jump, which is a true portrayal of many families, tutoring homework has become a big headache for many families.
For the primary school curriculum, most parents seem to be fine, but the tutoring homework will definitely make many parents collapse. After all, parents are not professional teachers, the homework that can be played in the learning is also very limited, the learning things still need to rely on the students themselves, the child's learning attitude is not correct, the learning habits are not good, even if the parents follow the child every day, the child's learning still cannot go up.
Of course, as a parent in the child's learning is not asked to ignore is also impossible, especially in the primary school stage, children do need parental help and management in learning, to help children lay a good foundation, cultivate good learning attitudes and habits, stimulate children's learning initiative, so that children can actively take the initiative to learn in the area, as long as the child's learning can be on the right track, can keep up step by step, after the learning is not a problem, otherwise the child's learning will make parents more and more headaches, Even if I thought of a lot of solutions, I couldn't do anything about it.