As the old saying goes, planting melons gets melons, and planting beans gets beans.
Everything in the world is just a process of causal cycle, what kind of cause you planted in the first place, what kind of result you will get later, whether it is a good result or a bad result, as long as it belongs to you, it will definitely come to you.
How a person lives in his later years depends on what he did when he was young.
Just like, some people choose to struggle and choose to fight when they are young, so when they are old, even if they are not rich and wealthy, the ability and wealth accumulated when they are young will not make his old age too miserable.
And some people choose to be comfortable in the age of struggle, and choose to escape in the face of the situation, then, when they reach their old age, they will often end up with a bleak ending.
There is no savings on hand, there is no one around to take care of themselves, those family ties are blown away by money and disease, those friendships have long been absent when they are poor, how not to be desolate in such an old age.
Which attitude you choose to face life in the first place, what kind of old age you will encounter.
People who do a lot of stupid things force away the worthy people around them, miss the good luck they should have encountered, and finally can only live and live.
Someone said, "The criterion for a person is to see where he has put his time." ”
Indeed, whether we admit it or not, when we look back on this life, it is easy to find out where we put our time, and how life will be.
When you are young, if you only know how to indulge yourself, indulge in temporary joy, and do some stupid things, then in the years to come, your end will be inseparable from the original indulgence.
Because those years of indulgence have long allowed you to develop an attitude towards life that is difficult to change, when you should have insisted, you will choose to give up, you should have been kind, you will choose to trample, and in the long run, only desolate will be left.
Therefore, when you are young, don't do these three stupid things, otherwise, your old age will be desolate.
01: Overconsumption
When you first enter the society, you can indulge yourself to try excessive consumption once or twice, but only once or twice, otherwise it is easy to become addicted and make yourself do more and more stupid things.
It is not easy to be driven away by debt, desperately trying, but can only barely survive.
But in fact, if a person is not over-consuming, his life can never be barely lived by borrowing money, and excessive consumption is often because he has bought consumer goods that are different from his own class.
For example, a low-level working class has to buy high-end cosmetics, and has to buy expensive leather shoes.
In order to satisfy their own vanity, take money that does not belong to them, and live a life that does not belong to themselves, it is also inevitable that they will end up in a desolate old age for a long time.
Lower your desires, don't over-consume, don't blindly compare, this is the first step you can accumulate wealth.
It is undeniable that the pursuit of materialism is a normal state in life, but the correct attitude to pursue materialism should be to act according to one's ability, rather than blindly comparing, let alone excessive consumption.
Mr. Zhou Guoping once said: "There are not many materials needed for a person to maintain survival and health, and what is beyond this is a luxury, and although they provide enjoyment, they have become a kind of slavery." ”
Therefore, when you are young, don't over-consume, otherwise, your old age will be desolate.
02: Don't take love as the whole of life
There is such a line in the TV series "Double Core Era": "Love and marriage are not maintained by face, and no matter how good the feelings and marriages, they also need money to maintain." ”
The writer Sanmao once said: "Love, if it is not implemented in the real life of wearing a home, eating, counting money, and sleeping, is not easy to last forever." ”
It can be seen that love is not only maintained by love, and marriage is even less likely to be maintained by love alone.
Even if you fight for love, even if you give everything for love, you may not be able to get a perfect ending, so you really don't have to take love as the whole of life, and you shouldn't put your life into love, otherwise it is confused.
Whether you have loved vigorously or loved a long time, you can have no regrets after loving.
When you are young, you may feel that love is the focus of life, but such thoughts often appear because your vision is too narrow, you can't see more beauty in life, and you can't understand more worth in life.
If you can go to the outside world and get in touch with more groups, you will find that the road to happiness is really not only love.
In love, if one of the parties does not know how to manage the relationship, then even if you love deeply, you will not be able to get a happy ending.
Therefore, when you are young, don't take love as the whole of life, otherwise, the old age will be desolate.
03: Don't make so many enemies for yourself
Someone once said: "A person is not crazy before the age of thirty, and he does not show up; after the age of thirty, he is still crazy, and he must not be out." ”
When you were young, with the tenacity of the newborn calf not afraid of the tiger, it was a norm to show off, because at that time you still had many opportunities to make mistakes, and many opportunities to change.
But as you get older and have a deeper understanding of life, if you are still so arrogant, it can only mean that you are either conceited or stupid with only a stinky temper.
When you are young, it is a foolish thing to make too many enemies for yourself.
Sophistication and sleekness are not a cowardly act, but to better protect themselves and better protect the happiness in their hands, especially after a certain age.
Everyone has their own temper, but not everyone is willing to be the trash can of your bad emotions, so when you don't understand the principle of "turning dry things into jade", it is easy to offend many people who should not be offended in order to get away with it for a while.
In the final analysis, when people are alive, they will inevitably suffer losses and grievances, and when people live, they will inevitably encounter some unfair things, when you do not have the ability to fight injustice, when you do not have the ability to fight against fate, you must sink your heart, silently accumulate strength, and don't set up too many enemies for yourself in order to be quick for a while.
When you are young, you set up too many enemies for yourself, otherwise, in your old age, you will have no ability to help, and it will become an inevitable result to live a desolate life.
Everything in the world is a cycle of cause and effect, and when you are desolate in your old age, looking back, you will inevitably find out how confused you were when you were young.
Therefore, when it is still too late, don't do stupid things, especially the above three.
I am Aya, a warm-hearted emotional writer, and I am so fortunate to meet you in this life! Click a note, let's grow knowledge together!
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