When people reach middle age, it is not an easy task to meet someone they really like. Because I have experienced the ups and downs of life and met all kinds of people, my attitude towards feelings is usually more numb.
Feelings are like flowing water, constantly rushing forward, sometimes intense, sometimes gentle.
When you meet a life partner who can fully tolerate and understand you, you must know how to cherish and be grateful, and do not act too perfunctory and sloppy.
Life is full of all kinds of changes and possibilities, if you have not met the right person for a while, it means that the fate has not arrived, do not have to be anxious, and do not have to make it up.
Feelings cannot be forced or demanded. Since you love, then cherish the time of love, don't care what will happen in the future, live well in the present, cherish the people in front of you, is the most important thing.
If you are always ambitious, do not know how to cherish, and mistakenly think that what you can't get is the best, then you may be empty of bamboo baskets and end up with nothing.
Love can be regardless of age, status, identity, height, appearance, but love needs two people to treat each other sincerely and take care of each other.
If you look at each other together and can't talk at all, whether in life or spirit, there is always a thick wall, indicating that your feelings have come to an end.
Generally speaking, middle-aged men have these obvious manifestations to really love you.
1, easy to be soft-hearted
Middle-aged men who truly love you deeply are usually prone to soft-heartedness.
When you have something to ask for, as long as you are a little gentler and coddle him, he will immediately promise you to do his best to help you.
When we genuinely like and care about someone, we will unconditionally support no matter what decisions the other person makes.
The reason why he is soft on you is that he is afraid of letting you be wronged, and he can't bear to see your lost expression.
Of course, you can't bully him recklessly because he loves you, and you can't cheat on his feelings.
There is such a line in the movie "The Godfather", which is very reasonable: "The softness of the heart without boundaries will only make the other party inch; unprincipled benevolence will only let the other party do whatever it wants." ”
He is willing to put up with you again and again because he loves you, and it is easy to be soft-hearted, but you don't have to be inched forward because of this, otherwise no matter how much he loves you, he may gradually alienate you.
Love is mutual tolerance and tolerance. When you feel his kindness and kindness, be grateful and give back more love and sincerity to him in time.
If a middle-aged man is too insensitive and hard-hearted in his feelings, and never makes concessions and compromises for you, it means that he does not really love you.
2, willing to coax you
The more middle-aged men who love you, the more they will try their best to please you, and they will do everything they can to make you happy.
Because he loves you, he doesn't deliberately provoke you. Whenever you have a dispute, he will choose to take the initiative to give in and calm down, rather than being aggressive with you, and will not make any progress towards you.
When you are depressed, he will coax you to be happy by self-deprecating ways; when you are wronged at work, he will tell all kinds of cold jokes to make you happy; when you have a birthday, he will buy gifts you like to make you happy.
It is precisely because he has a real affection for you that he will play a role in your love life that makes you happy and happy. As soon as you think of him, you can't help but raise the corners of your mouth.
Middle-aged men who are willing to coax you usually have a soft and delicate heart, know how to observe the color, and can insight into your inner emotional changes and subtle feelings.
Because he really cares about you, he can put himself in your shoes and be willing to argue with you.
He's willing to make you happy because he thinks he'll be happier only if you're happy. If you're not happy, he'll be worse off than you.
Only people who really feel sorry for and care about you will put your sorrow and joy in their hearts, can't bear to make you sad and hurt, and will do everything they can to make you happy.
3, never care
Middle-aged men who really love you deeply are often more generous and generous, never preoccupied, and will not be critical of you.
People should live a little more atmospheric, and don't always dwell on the small things of sesame and garlic skin.
Human happiness comes from open-mindedness and open-mindedness, and if your heart is filled with negative emotions, the top of your head will always be shrouded in a dark cloud.
Life is short, everything is a little open, take a long-term view, and be open-minded.
If a middle-aged man is too stingy in his feelings, calculating everywhere, full of calculations, indicating that he does not really love you, you and he will feel particularly depressed and depressed after living with him for a long time.
In life, don't be with a narrow-minded, calculating person, otherwise, you will be unhappy and unhappy.
To judge whether a middle-aged man really loves you, it depends on whether he is usually generous and tolerant enough for you, and whether he can fully tolerate and accept your shortcomings and deficiencies.
People who overthink gains and losses can never achieve true happiness and happiness, because there is no end to desire, and feelings cannot always remain in a flat state of a bowl of water.
When a middle-aged man is calculating with you everywhere, likes to be greedy and cheap, weighs the pros and cons, and is afraid of losing money, it shows that he does not really love you.
Two people living together, there is no need to care too much about the temporary gains and losses. A life that is too calculating is neither decent nor open-minded enough.
The really beautiful feeling is that two people can take half a step back, understand each other, and pay each other.
If a middle-aged man is generous and generous enough in his relationship, never cares about money and time, and he only cares about whether you are happy and happy, then it means that he really loves you.
In short, the more a middle-aged man loves you, the more he will take the initiative to give love and sincerity, and melt the iceberg in your heart with infinite tenderness and warmth.
Because he has a real affection for you, he will cherish the time you spend together.
If he is too calculating and stingy with you, never willing to consider problems from your position and perspective, and only consider personal interests in everything, it shows that he is a selfish person, and he cannot give you the happiness you want.
For a middle-aged man who really cares about you, when he meets you, it is the hot tears that solidify into beautiful amber, the fireflies that break into the atrium of the heart on summer nights, and the snow melts into the eye sockets on winter days.
When you realize that a middle-aged man is extra tolerant and tolerant of you, never considers gains and losses, he only cares about your feelings and emotions, and wants to try to meet your emotional needs, it shows that he really can't do without you.
In fact, whether a middle-aged man loves you or not is obvious. You don't need to be tempted, you don't need to listen to his explanations, you just need to observe and experience with your heart.
When you get along with him, you can strongly feel warmth and happiness, steadfastness and tranquility, calm and beautiful, indicating that he really loves you.
For the rest of your life, may the people you love as much as you do, and may you come home no matter how late you are, a lamp will be lit for you.