Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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In this world, there is no love for no reason, and there is no hatred for no reason!
In a world of changing love and lust, no one can guarantee that anyone can really love someone for a lifetime.
When the person who loves you betrays you, you still go around the world looking for the real answer to the "why", why bother? Ta, just don't want to be single-minded or he never really wanted to love you exclusively, that's all!
The person you love deeply and said to love you forever, betray your truth, don't dig deep into you to say that it is good. Don't dwell on it, it doesn't make sense. The person who loves you will be specific to you, and the person who is dedicated to you will be responsible for you.
The person who betrayed you just didn't love you as much as you thought!
In fact, many people who have experienced betrayal and betrayal do not know that after experiencing betrayal, they are not unable to bear the results of being betrayed, but they cannot face the truth of being betrayed!
Therefore, after experiencing betrayal, I repeatedly searched for the answer to why and dug deep into the truth of being betrayed.
After experiencing betrayal, what should be done is never to dig up the truth, but to truly and calmly "face" such a result.
We all know that in the ups and downs of life, when there are any problems, the negative energy behavior caused by our emotions is of no benefit to us. We need to reserve more energy and time to solve problems.
However, too many people, in the first time of facing the problem, do not try to solve the problem, but maximize the problem and put themselves in a more passive state. And the person who has experienced betrayal and is swayed by emotions is the most typical person who can push himself into the dark abyss.
After experiencing a betrayal of the marriage relationship, there must be a problem for a long time!
The betrayer's premeditation is the duration of the marital relationship problem.
Although, too many marital relationships that have experienced betrayal need to be stopped in time to give the person who experienced betrayal the best redemption.
However, if you can not escape the problem of being betrayed by reality, the marriage relationship will be well repaired because of the purpose of "solving the problem".
However, before choosing to repair the relationship, you need to ask yourself the following questions:
1: If the betrayer returns, can I really build a second trust in him from the bottom of my heart?
2: If, after the betrayer returns, I find that he betrayed me again, will I drag the mud and water again and do not know how to stop the loss in time?
3: How many "advantages" do I still have in the betrayer that I am reluctant to have?
4: In the face of a person who has betrayed me, can I really completely forgive and live the rest of my life without any doubt?
5: Why should I fix the relationship? What is the real reason?
6: If, without the betrayer, do I have the ability to make myself live well?
Asking yourself these few questions is far more beneficial than asking the truth about his betrayal of you. When you have asked yourself these few questions, whether the current marriage relationship is to be or not, you have a very accurate answer.
Some people who have experienced betrayal will be very repulsive to some words like "give time, you will let go, let go of yourself". In fact, this is to ignore the importance of talking to yourself under the influence of emotions.
People who are swayed by emotions are never a person who "solves problems". When you can remember your "purpose" to solve the problem no matter what, your emotions will not sway you.
At that point, you will understand how important it is for you to face reality, accept the bad coming, and solve the problems of the moment rationally for the rest of your life.
What is the problem that needs to be solved after experiencing betrayal? There are roughly three aspects:
First: Do I have to choose to end the relationship?
Second: If the relationship continues, how do I get along with the betrayer to minimize my hurt?
Third: After the marriage relationship is over, how can I ensure my best interests?
Yes, people who can still retain a little sanity will find that the problem that people who experience betrayal need to solve is to weigh the pros and cons and how to maximize their own interests.
If you are completely disappointed in the betrayer and do not care about the interests, then you do not need to be angry, hateful, and do not need to dig up the truth of the betrayal of you, then you just need to stop the loss in time, try your best to get rid of the haze as soon as possible, and work hard for the rest of your life!
If you have to use hatred to put shackles on yourself, ignore the gains and losses, and fail to live up to the rest of your life, then you can only have to say 2 words to yourself one day: deserve it!
In real life, we often encounter some people who have experienced betrayal, and they cannot give up on the betrayer for reasons that they love deeply and cannot let go.
However, he is not willing to choose to forgive, and he has to dig out the truth of the betrayer's betrayal of himself, and then "prescribe the right medicine".
In fact, the truth about the betrayer betraying you can only be summed up in a few words:
The selfishness of long-planned malice and uncontrollable desire!
To be honest, such a person really has nothing worth spending your time and energy on.
Admittedly, after experiencing betrayal, whether the relationship ends is a choice, and whether to forgive is also a choice. It's just that, no matter what, you don't forget to take your sanity in your arms and don't let yourself get hurt and hurt more and more.
Some people are indispensable in your life, and some people, you should have invited them out of life in time!
The person who can betray you will never care about your feelings, and the person you think still cares about you and hurts you is a perfunctory pretense.
People who have betrayed you, don't expect them to be good to you again! Accepting this fact is more practical than digging up the truth that betrayed you!
I sincerely hope: you can understand!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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