You can't be too aggressive in calculation, sometimes you can calculate to calculate, but it is empty. It is very normal for people to gain and lose in this life, so we must learn to be generous and open-minded. Those who are calculating and cannot suffer any losses are actually very tired, and in the end they cannot bring anything to the coffin.
On the issue of talking about marriage and marriage, both men and women should also be atmospheric and not make unpleasant for the sake of small profits. In the final analysis, marriage is actually a cooperative relationship, and only when both men and women are sincere, tolerant and considerate of each other, can cooperation be pleasant.
Those who are particularly calculating and always like to calculate others, they think they are very smart, but they are often smart and mistaken for smart. A pair of strange men and women, from acquaintance, acquaintance to love, this is to be fate, both men and women should cherish, do not miss the fate because of calculation.
According to the old tradition, marriage is the man's marriage house, the woman's dowry. As we all know, the house price is high now, so the pressure on the man is very large. And because the law stipulates that premarital property belongs to personal property, in today's high divorce rate, people will unconsciously think of protecting their premarital property.
When the man bought a marriage house, the girl came up with 100,000 yuan to divide the property rights equally
Rui Zhu and her boyfriend met online, and the two felt that they could talk very well, and later developed into lovers. After two years in love, at the urging of both parents, they were ready to get married.
Since they are going to get married, the parents of both sides naturally have to sit together and discuss the marriage. The boyfriend's family is an only child, the family conditions are average, and the parents are working in the factory. RuiZhu's family conditions are poor, there is a younger brother in the family, and the parents married Ruizhu out, so the focus is on the son.
When discussing the bride price, the boyfriend's family came up with 50,000 yuan, because they usually have this price there. But the Ruizhu family did not agree, felt that the money was too little, the two sides stalemated for a while, the mother-in-law gritted her teeth and offered to give 100,000 yuan!
Regarding the marriage room, the boyfriend's family wants to buy a two-bedroom and one-living room in full, but Ruizhu feels that the two-bedroom and one-hall are too small, and insists that the man's family buy three bedrooms and one living room. In this way, the man's family originally prepared to buy a house is not enough, and the mother-in-law proposes not to take a loan to buy a house!
But Ruizhu did not agree, she did not want to be in debt as soon as she got married, so she said that she would either buy a marriage house in full or not get married. The mother-in-law did not want her son to be unable to get married because of the problem of the marriage room, so she could only grit her teeth and agree.
In order to buy a marriage house for her son, the mother-in-law began to borrow money from relatives and friends, and repeatedly promised Ruizhu that these debts would be repaid by them, and the young couple would never let the young couple pay back a penny. The boyfriend feels very sorry for his parents, who are the most reluctant to go out and borrow money, but now they can only go to relatives and friends for him.
While raising money, the mother-in-law asked her son to take Ruizhu to see the house, which was lived by their little couple, and they had to like it. Rui Zhu is a very picky person, and her boyfriend went to see a lot of model houses, and it was difficult to choose a set.
After the house is selected, the next step is to prepare the purchase procedures, so it is mentioned whose name is written on the property deed. The reason why the man's family gritted his teeth and bought the marriage house in full was, of course, because he wanted to write only the name of his boyfriend on the real estate deed, but Ruizhu proposed to add her name.
The boyfriend was afraid that directly rejecting Ruizhu would hurt and angry, so he said that unless Ruizhu's family also paid some money, he could not tell his parents. Rui Zhu's family conditions are not very good, she has no savings herself, and her parents cannot give her money, so she naturally can't come up with money.
After Ruizhu returned home, she kept thinking about adding a name. She felt that if her name was added to the title deed and the husband did not leave a payment voucher after marriage, she could get half a house when she divorced. After the average family buys a good house, the little couple has a good relationship, who will always keep the payment voucher!
If the man is reluctant to be divided into half a house, then in the marriage, the husband will have to accommodate her everywhere, and she will be full of confidence. If her in-laws or husbands are not good to her, she will file for divorce, and she has nothing to lose in terms of property anyway.
RuiZhu went to test her parents and wanted them to give some money, but her mother said that they had money! The money for RuiZhu's dowry still depends on the dowry money given by the man's family! Speaking of dowry money, Ruizhu immediately brightened her eyes, she did not do the dowry, just use the 100,000 pieces of dowry money to "invest" in the marriage house!
Rui Zhu immediately went to her boyfriend's house, telling her mother-in-law to borrow 100,000 yuan less to buy a house, and she was willing to take out the bride price money to support her boyfriend's family to buy a wedding house. The mother-in-law was very surprised and very happy, and she did not expect the daughter-in-law to be so considerate of them.
But then RuiZhu proposed that the real estate deed should write the names of her and her boyfriend, because she also paid for the house.
The smile on the mother-in-law's face suddenly froze, and the mother-in-law said: "1.8 million houses, we are out of 1.7 million, you use the 100,000 dowry money we gave to buy a house, then this purchase price is not all from my family?" ”
The boyfriend couldn't accept it, so he theorized with RuiZhu. Rui Zhu said that if her boyfriend refused to write her name, it meant that her boyfriend did not love her. After the two people argued for a while, the boyfriend was angry and proposed to break up, and Ruizhu was not willing to show weakness, saying: "Break up and break up, who is afraid of whom?" ”
Rui Zhu said this on her lips, and she actually did not want to break up in her heart, so after a few days of stalemate with her boyfriend, she took the initiative to contact her boyfriend. She thought she was lying and coaxing her boyfriend, and the two of them reconciled again, and then coaxing her boyfriend to add her name.
But Ruizhu was completely wrong, and her boyfriend said to her very coldly: "We have broken up, you don't want to contact me again." My parents had arranged a blind date for me, and I decided to go on a blind date. ”
After the boyfriend finished speaking, he deleted Ruizhu's contact information, and Ruizhu called her boyfriend again and found that her boyfriend had blocked her. Rui Zhu realized that she had lost her boyfriend, and she immediately lost her voice and cried bitterly.
Be sincere in marriage, and don't covet things that don't belong to you
Rui Zhu is very calculating, using the dowry money given by the man's family to "enter the shares" to buy a marriage house, and then write the names of the two people on the real estate certificate. This is equivalent to Rui Zhu not getting a penny out of the property rights of half a house, and she also expects that the man's family will definitely not keep the payment voucher.
A girl is so calculating, calculating the boyfriend who wants to spend her life with her, the boyfriend will of course be angry. The in-laws-to-be are out of love for their sons, they will grit their teeth to help their sons buy a marriage house in full, they are not stupid, Ruizhu's wishful thinking, how can they not understand?
If Ruizhu's request is not too excessive, the mother-in-law will definitely agree to her, but Ruizhu is too calculating, and the man's family can only withdraw from marriage. Therefore, people should not covet things that do not belong to themselves, people must have self-knowledge, and do not unscrupulously make excessive demands because others love themselves.
The girl wants a house and a sense of security, which can only be done on her own. If the parents are in good condition, for the sake of the girl, willing to help the girl, it is the best. But if the parents are not willing to help, the girl cannot force it, and how much ability she has, how big a thing she can do.
The man buys the marriage house in full, and the man's name is written on the real estate deed, which is a reasonable and legal thing. Girls want a sense of security, want to be confident in marriage, why don't young men want to do this? Parents who give birth to sons work hard to earn money, is not it also to let their sons have a guarantee?
Before you get married, you are already thinking about divorce, so don't get married. Marriage is to run to the white head and grow old, to be together in the ups and downs. If you want to divorce as soon as you encounter setbacks in your marriage, you will not be old enough to marry anyone.
Marriage must be sincere, with a kind, loving heart. Both men and women should tolerate each other and be considerate of each other, and neither of them should make excessive demands.
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