The best age for children to develop their personality, these 10 things must not force children

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Cow Mama Peng Xiaobang (ID: pengxiaobeng)

The child's good character is cultivated, educated, and guided by the parents, and blind persecution will only backfire.

When children are young, they are in the initial stage of growth, and the most important thing is not academic performance, but character development.

Parents are the child's first teacher, and every word and deed determines the child's growth trajectory.

Wise parents know how to respect their children and slowly guide them to develop good habits.

Unreliable parents usually ignore their children's inner appeals and rush to make them become what they want, which eventually leads to their children becoming depressed.

Here, I would like to remind all parents:

At the best age for your child's personality development, don't force your child to do these 10 things.

Don't force your child to say hello

Just learned the words of hello and goodbye,

Does not mean that the child learns what it is to greet and be polite,

Enthusiasm, preferably kindness from the heart.

Don't force your child to apologize

Sometimes the child does something wrong,

Instead, I lost my temper,

Not because the child doesn't know what's wrong,

It may be that the child is too scared.

If you don't give your child a chance to admit your mistakes,

A little time, let him pluck up the courage to face mistakes,

Criticize the child with a split head and a covered face,

Instead, it may provoke the child,

And cover up and divert his original guilt and apologies.

Don't force your child to say, "It's okay."

Don't force children to be kind,

"Sorry" is followed by not necessarily "it's okay".

The mouth says it's okay, the heart is still angry,

So what's the point of saying I'm sorry?

If the gas head is over,

It doesn't matter if it's really.

Don't force kids to share

Children around 2 years old,

Only know "I",

Don't know the existence of "you" and "him",

Everything is mine, so there is no concept of sharing.

It is necessary to guide children to share,

But be sure to know,

Sharing is joy from the heart,

Instead of "sacrificing" and "flattering".

Don't force your child to "fight back"

Allow the child to call back,

Don't cause trouble, don't be afraid of things,

But in case of danger,

Or a lack of courage for the time being,

Give your child a way out,

And accept his home forever.

Don't force your child to be brave

Bravery is not something you can ask for,

It is the sense of control after overcoming difficulties.

Your negation, your contrast, your criticism,

It will only make the child less courageous.

Don't force your child to be generous

Don't force your child to be generous,

Because when you force your child to be generous,

Children will feel:

"It's because of you that my mother criticized me!"

After all this, who wants to be generous?

Don't force your child to perform in public

Respect for children,

Don't do it for the sake of so-called face.

Don't force your child to promise

Children are not allowed to lie,

but forcing the child to promise,

Child Inside: I'm really hard!

Don't force your child to be self-disciplined

Confident children are self-disciplined,

Because self-discipline requires courage and self-discipline.

It takes self-will.

And the child who is controlled and denied by the parents,

There is neither self nor courage,

What about self-discipline?

Finally, I would like to say:

Parents must not use the name of "good for their children",

Forcing him to do things he didn't like,

Learn to guide him step by step to understand etiquette and abide by the rules.

Only gentle and loving ways of education,

In order to raise sunny and confident children.

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