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Yesterday I wrote that my friend didn't talk about divorce because I bought a second house. "Teachers who earn 1w a month are divorced by programmers who pay 2w a month because they bought a second house"
Many people are curious, buying two apartments is a good thing, how to talk about divorce, good discussion, the day will always be better and better.
In addition to the man's only concern for the immediate purchase of a second set, there are many details of life that have long discouraged friends.
Buying a second home was only the last straw that crushed the camel's back, and before that, countless straws had crushed friends breathlessly.
1. Grumpy
Because the man is a programmer, late from work, when he arrives home at eleven o'clock, his friend is already asleep. That night, a friend washed his towel in the washing machine and forgot to put the new replacement dry towel on the shelf.
Angrily, he pushed open the bedroom door, woke his friend up, yelled at him and lost his temper, blaming him for not putting the towel dry.
Several times, two people had a conflict outside, and he directly left his friend alone on the street and disappeared by himself.
The friend felt very hurt, and after the discussion, he said: It is not a strange city, and you are not unable to find your way home!
2, like to compare
I like to compare myself with colleagues, friends, relatives, even with my wife.
Friends have good calligraphy, plus more free time, usually love to write and write, occasionally friends will happily share their own works with her husband.
Every time his husband's feedback was: just like that, OK, I will too, hang you, I write much better than you, I just don't have time to do it.
4, selfish, only love yourself
When my friend is sad or angry, sometimes he can't help but cry, and he has never comforted a friend once. Instead, he said that he hated his friends crying, and he didn't allow his friends to cry.
Men's work is busier, often arriving home at eleven or twelve o'clock, and friends generally get up at six o'clock at ten o'clock (teachers go to work very early).
He often let friends go out for a walk with him on big evenings, or let friends drive 25 kilometers to pick him up from work. Sometimes friends will refuse, because it is too late to sleep the next day at six o'clock, I really can't get out of bed, and my friend needs a 25-kilometer car to get to school.
He felt very unfair, why was he still working overtime, but his friend could sleep in the bed? Obviously they are all members of the family, but friends can be so comfortable?
When a friend suggested that he change jobs, he scolded his friend for only coveting pleasure and not being self-motivated!
5. Self-righteousness
After eating at the mall, my friend wanted him to accompany him to look at his clothes. Every time he refused, saying that he was very busy at work, well paid, how much money he could make per hour, that looking at clothes was a waste of his precious time, that his precious weekend time was spent resting and doing what he liked, and that his friends would look at their clothes when they were alone.
The friend is a teacher with a monthly salary of more than 1w, and the male is a programmer with a monthly salary of more than 2w, and he believes that his salary is higher than that of his friend, so he occupies the absolute right to speak. When it comes to larger amounts of spending and investment, when the two disagree, the friend must listen to him.
6. Poor living habits
Every time I came home, I threw stinky socks everywhere, in the living room, in the bedroom, in the shoe cabinet, in the bathroom.
Obviously, he littered with it himself, and then blamed his friend as a wife for why he didn't put it away for him, and then his friend prepared a storage bag for him and let him put stinky socks, but it had no effect at all, he still littered everywhere.
Clothes and pants are also thrown everywhere, dirty clothes and clean clothes are often silly and indistinguishable, and when they can't find clothes, they scold friends for not cleaning him up.
7, take the threat of divorce at every turn
Men like to make decisions on big and small things, the form is to discuss with friends, once he encounters two people who disagree, he habitually gets angry with friends, quarrels, cold war, weChat deletion at every turn, the phone is blocked, and he moves to another bedroom.
The mouth is not clean, the scolding of the father and the mother is non-stop, together for three years, every time they are angry and quarrel, they mention divorce!
Friends said that they also have some shortcomings, not in place to do housework, cooking is not in place, personal belongings are more, not good at storage and sorting, the home will sometimes be a little messy.
Therefore, I have also talked openly and honestly: I hope that he can change his stinky temper, try to control his emotions more, care more for his friends, respect more, less cold war and less cold violence, and at the same time, friends hope that the status of husband and wife in small families is equal.
Friends are also reflecting on themselves and are willing to make changes for him and for his family! However, the man's response to his friend has always been "I am like this, I can't change, I can't change."
He said: I am such a person, this is me, I can't change, temper and disposition for so many years, this life can not change, anger is to vent, unhappiness is to do this, no matter what others think.
Friends said: In that marriage, I was hurt and cold, and I finally realized that I didn't need to continue to insist on this relationship, only leaving him was the best choice.
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I am Ruolin: a woman with a dream in her heart, a light in her eyes, walking with the wind ~ Relying on self-media operation to achieve economic semi-independent slash writer, focusing on self-media operation and personal growth dry goods, the wish is to spend life in the way they like!
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