No one is perfect, there is no perfect person in the world, and it is the norm of life to have flaws in life. Demanding that you have no flaws, or is a pathology.
People should allow themselves to have a little shortcoming, not to force themselves to be perfect, but also to let themselves go, so that their lives become easy and comfortable.
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Don't care too much about what other people say
Dante has a very good saying: "Go your own way and let others say it." ”
What others say is his freedom, and we can't control other people's mouths, and we have no right to seal his mouth. What I do is "go my own way." "You don't have to be tied down by other people's words.
During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Confucius led his disciples to travel around the world to propagate his own ideas and ideas, and once, Confucius and his disciples went missing in Zhengguo, and he stood alone at the East Gate waiting for the disciples to come to him.
Zigong looked for a teacher everywhere, and whenever he asked if he saw his teacher, a man told him: "There is a person in the East Gate, the brain gate is a bit like Yao, the eyes are a bit like Shun, the mouth is a bit like Gao Tao, but from a distance, it is tired like a lost dog, that is probably your teacher!" ”
Zigong went to the teacher and told Confucius the description of the man.
Confucius smiled and said, "The appearance he described is not entirely correct, but it is very appropriate and very expressive to say that he is a dog that has lost his family." Yes, I am a lost dog! ”
Confucius was not angry at the vicious attacks of others, and he also laughed at himself for pleasure, which shows how broad Confucius's heart is.
In other words, if that person knew that Confucius was the great thinker in history, he would not dare to categorically despise him.
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Forgiving yourself, allowing yourself to have some imperfect behavior, even some mistakes, is the best choice to go with the flow
We are not immortals, shortcomings and mistakes are inevitable, too much pursuit of perfection, and psychological pressure.
Without seeking perfection, you can just go with the flow.
Whose life can be smooth sailing?
Wang Zengqi once had a darkest moment in his life, when he was beaten into a rightist and sent to farm labor.
But he was not angry about this, but worked very hard.
In winter, the pigsty manure is frozen into ice cubes, which need to be painstakingly planed out and removed. Sweating and sweating, just to relieve the pressure.
When spraying pesticides, he fantasized about himself as a god who soared through the clouds and rode the fog, which was very comfortable.
Later, when someone asked him how he spent his time, he replied quite easily: go with the flow.
At the same time, Lao She encountered the same situation. After he was criticized, his thoughts were very low, and he couldn't think straight. After a fierce ideological struggle by the lake, he chose to commit suicide by throwing himself into the lake. It is a pity that a generation of literary heroes has fallen.
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People must know how to be flexible, and do not cling to imperfect things
If you know how to be flexible, you can turn dry things into jade. Flexibility can bypass unnecessary constraints, and life can be smoother.
There is a saying in "Zhou Yi" that says it well: "If you are poor, you will change, if you change, you will be general, and if you are poor, you will be general." It is from God's blessing, and there is no disadvantage in the auspiciousness. ”
Knowing how to be flexible is to bypass the obstacles that block your progress, so that your life will be smoother.
If we look closely, those rivers that run endlessly are always twisting and turning, encountering mountains, passing too far from the foot of the mountain, jumping off the cliffs, becoming a waterfall beauty, which is also the secret of its continuous flow to the sea.
In life, many times because we are too "persistent", we are broken and bloody, scarred.
For example, in the stock market, it is obvious that the trend has begun to deteriorate, and when it has not yet caused serious losses, it is reluctant to stop losses, and then it is deeply involved in it and cannot extricate itself.
Others strive for perfection in every transaction, set themselves a goal, and miss out on every opportunity. From profit to loss. These lessons should be learned. These are often serious consequences of the excessive pursuit of perfection.
There are no perfect things in the world, and there are no perfect people. Allow flaws in life. Life can be easier, and fun will naturally be more.