In addition to possessing material things, a person who does this is truly free

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Yang Dai once said:

Don't choose a good path, but take a good choice of path, you can have your true self.

Everyone will have a dependence psychology, want to be under the protection of their parents for the rest of their lives, not exposed to the sun and rain.

However, as the writer Long Yingtai said:

Some things can only be done by one person. Some levels can only be passed by one person. Some roads can only be walked by one person.

In our life journey, parents can not always accompany us, learn to be independent, is a compulsory course for everyone.

Just like a chick, it is fed by its parents when it is born, and when it slowly grows plump wings, it must finally leave the nest to flap its wings in order to become an eagle soaring in the sky.

A person's growth is actually the process of moving towards independence.

Get rid of other people's expectations

Nietzsche once said:

Those who cannot obey their own orders will be subject to others.

Many people, when they are young, live in the expectations of their parents;

After work, live in the expectations of leaders;

After getting married, living in the expectations of your partner...

They are always living in the expectations of others, so much so that they forget what they want.

In order to meet the expectations of others, people wear masks to hide their true thoughts, do their best to cooperate with the performance, and leave only endless pain and hurt for themselves.

The best-selling novel "Silent Confession" uses a sad story to teach us a truth: "Throughout our lives, all we have to do is to break free from the expectations of others and find our true selves." ”

The well-behaved Lydia is the most favored daughter in the family, but her life is full of parental expectations.

When her father was young, because of family reasons, he had no friends, so he hoped that she would become a social master, and Lydia, who was forced to be helpless, could only pretend to chat with friends on the phone that was not dialed.

Her mother regretted not becoming a surgeon and hoped that she could fulfill this dream, often sending her thick, large and difficult books such as "Famous Scientific Women" and "Color Atlas of Human Anatomy".

She put herself intolerable, performing every day, trying to live the "perfect" life her parents wanted.

However, these imposed expectations were not what Lydia herself wanted.

Slowly, these expectations gradually turned into pressure, leaving Lydia breathless, and she decided to start over and truly be herself.

She prepares to jump into the water to celebrate her rebirth with this sense of ritual.

Unfortunately, the accident happened, Lydia's life was fixed at the age of 16, and her short life until the last moment was really living according to her own wishes.

Jobs once encouraged young people this way:

Life is short, do not let the opinions of others influence your inner voice, do not live for others, the most important thing is to bravely follow your own heart and intuition.

The tastes of life can only be experienced if you have tasted them.

The best life is not given by others, let alone what others expect, but needs to be explored independently by ourselves.

Learn to be responsible for yourself

Wang Xiaobo wrote in "Thirty and Standing":

Since I exist, I am responsible for myself no matter what.

The crowd on the street was bustling, and when they reached the intersection, they saw that there was no car coming from the opposite side, and a group of people went straight forward despite the red light.

A child just wanted to follow the crowd when he was stopped by his mother.

His mother asked him, "Didn't you see that it was a red light?" ”

The child's voice was a little aggrieved: "But everyone is gone." ”

The mother says to the child, "They are them, you are you." ”

In this world, no one pays for your impulses, and the only person who can take responsibility for your own life is yourself.

Just like the actor Li Qin, he has always had his own ideas about life.

Li Qin was born in the birthplace of Kunqu Opera, under the influence of Kunqu opera in the streets and alleys, she was interested in Kunqu opera since childhood, and entered the Kunqu training class at the age of 11.

Through two years of basic skills study, she won the gold medal of the 7th Chinese children's drama "Little Plum Blossom Collection", using her strength to make her family move from opposition to support.

At the age of 14, she was admitted to the Shanghai Academy of Opera, studied Kunqu opera professionally, and was trained by the school as the fifth generation of "Du Liniang", also known as Kunqu Boudoir Dan.

The sleekness and femininity of Kunqu opera allowed Li Qin to cultivate a gentle and classical unique temperament, and was therefore favored by the new version of the "Dream of the Red Chamber" crew, in order to let her play "Young Xue Baochao", director Li Shaohong even personally did the ideological work of her parents.

This fortuitous opportunity made her want to change her way of life, so she said goodbye to school and stepped into the entertainment industry.

After 6 years of dormancy, she has never wavered, and finally, she waited for Princess YuanChun of "The Biography of Chu Qiao", this role allowed her to be seen by the audience, and with strength, she once again stood on a high starting point.

Li Qin once said: "I will only go forward, I will not look back, this is my choice, my life." To this day, I have never regretted it, and I am full of hope for the future, and what I will do in the future is to work hard. ”

Don't be a bystander of life, our unique future is ultimately in our own hands.

Climb to the heights of life

Miyazaki once said:

Don't rely on a person easily, it will become your habit, no matter when and where, you must learn to walk independently, so that you can walk more calmly.

If you want to live the best life, you must learn to be independent.

If you cannot be financially independent, you lack self-esteem;

If we cannot be independent in our thinking, we lack autonomy;

If you can't be independent in personality, you lack self-confidence.

Buffett was once asked, "What is the secret of value investing?" ”

Buffett replied, "Independent thinking and peace of mind." ”

He added: "Contrarian behavior is as stupid as herd behavior, and we need not to vote, but to think from the heart." You have to think independently. I often find it inconceivable that there are people with high IQs who do not use their brains to imitate others. I never got any tricks from anyone else. ”

Think about it, think deeply.

Doing a good job in value investment does not require an IQ higher than ordinary people, but the ability to refuse to easily follow the crowd.

Shopping malls are changing rapidly, no one can completely copy the successful experience of others, it is impossible to "eat fresh all over the world", everyone can only think and judge independently, in order to break out of the siege and obtain benefits.

The same is true on the road of life, in the process of going alone, maintaining independence is a necessary ability.

There is a line in "Farewell to the Overlord":

If you want to be a horned child, you have to become a child by yourself.

If people want to succeed, they first learn to stand on their own feet and solve problems.

Put your own strength in the first place, in order to live with ambition, backbone, and confidence.

Independence is not achieved overnight, but is constantly explored and trained in practice.

Step by step, step by step, step by step, and finally understand independence, understand independence, learn independence, bravely climb the peak of life, and look at more brilliant prospects for life.

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Only when a person is independent can he not be afraid of wind and rain, and let himself live a proud and beautiful life;

Only when a person is independent, he is qualified to be willful and choose to live the life he wants;

Only when a person is independent can he gain inner strength and live out his proudest and true appearance.

May in the long years, we can use independence to blow the clarion call for progress, and gradually become stronger in growth.