Xiao Lu cheated, and the reason for the cheating was absurd and speechless.
That night, colleagues had dinner between them, and Xiao Lu drank too much. On the way home, Zhu Zhu looked at his sleeping face and suddenly had evil thoughts, bringing him back to his home. By the time Xiao Lu woke up, the raw rice had been cooked into cooked rice. Xiao Lu did not want to admit it, but Zhu Zhu took a picture of them together.
This photo is Zhu Zhu holding Xiao Lu's handle, and it is also the fuse for Xiao Lu's divorce. In the face of Zhu Zhu's step-by-step approach, xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage contradictions were also on the verge of erupting.
Cover up the desire for control with love
When did Zhu Zhu start liking Xiao Lu? It was probably the time Xiao Lu gave her lipstick. Zhu Zhu is a single-parent family who grew up with her mother. Although my mother is a boss, she is extremely controlling and does not smile.
Zhu Zhu came into contact with Xiao Lu because of her work, and the lipstick that Xiao Lu gave her was the first gift she received from childhood to adulthood, and it was also the most desirable gift. She had reached the age of marriage talk, and her mother had arranged for her to go on blind dates many times, but she had never put on makeup or worn a bright red dress.
She has always been eager to break through herself and be a real woman, and Xiao Lu is the first man to discover female beauty.
But when she put on lipstick and fantasized about becoming beautiful, her mother said: You put on makeup? Why do you suddenly wear makeup? Girls with ability don't need these at all, just put on some lipstick? Who is the good look for? How many times have I told you that appearance doesn't matter. Wiped off, not allowed to melt later.
When Zhu Zhu turned to leave, her mother told her to drink the milk again. Zhu Zhu is like an obedient robot, doing things according to her mother's rules, and does not dare to violate anything. But she's not a robot, nor is she a puppet at the mercy of others.
After Zhu Zhu's father cheated, her mother and father divorced. Since then, the mother has been disgusted with girls with heavy makeup. She believes that girls should know how to be sensible and conquer men with temperament. That's how my mother grew up and taught her that way. She hated her mother's strong desire for control, and with her mother, she felt depressed and miserable.
Just when she was most helpless, Xiao Lu appeared beside her. He took Zhu Zhu over the railing and ate street stalls. These are all things that Zhu Zhu usually does not dare to think about, she laughs for the first time, and for the first time she feels the joy of rebellion.
The happiness brought by Xiao Lu was rare and short in Zhu Zhu's life. She longs to have this happiness all the time, so she becomes possessive of Xiao Lu. That night, she saw Xiao Lu drunk and unconscious, and the girl's shame did not flash in her mind, but did not hesitate to take him home.
In the morning, his mother was mopping the floor outside, and Xiao Lu hid in the room and did not dare to make a sound. Zhu Zhu carefully disguised that everything was working normally, but his heart could not suppress the excitement. It felt like her mother wouldn't allow her to eat ice cream, and she would be happy to steal it from her mother and not be discovered by her mother. This is her way of taking revenge on her mother!
Once people have tasted the sweetness, it will be difficult to turn back.
When Xiao Lu found out that he had betrayed his family, he chose to stop the loss immediately, hoping not to meet Zhu Zhu again in the future, but Zhu Zhu could not let go. She said in a soft voice: Xiao Lu, I seem to like you, do you like me?
Xiao Lu did not admit or deny it, his hands were tightly rubbed, and this silent desire to refuse also made Zhu Zhu see hope.
Zhu Zhu confessed: I know you have a family, I did not think that I would like you, I took a photo of us together as a souvenir, I can wait for you.
Xiao Lu thought that his ridiculous night with Zhu Zhu was just a dream, and when he woke up, he should have done it when it didn't happen. But the photo in Zhu Zhu's hand made Xiao Lu see her horror and desire for control.
She said that she liked Xiao Lu and was willing to be with him, but every sentence contained love and threat, soft and hard. At this time, Zhu Zhu was very much like her mother who did not smile and spoke like a holy will, although their voices were gentle when they spoke, but their attitude could not be rejected, so that Xiao Lu could not retreat.
Xiao Lu likes the simple and cute Zhu Zhu, but this like does not mean to be responsible, when he chose the family and blacked out Zhu Zhu's contact information, Zhu Zhu was angry. As long as she can achieve what she wants, she is willing to pay any price, including the girl's self-esteem and shame.
Zhu Zhu and Yinuo showdown
Zhu Zhu's mother knew about her and Xiao Lu, and she scolded Zhu Zhu for not having a face and being disgusted. She gave her the best education possible, but what about her? With a husband with a wife, does she still have a sense of shame? She is like her biological father, the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked.
After Zhu Zhu and her mother got into a stalemate, she decided to vent her dissatisfaction on Xiao Lu. She had severed ties with her mother, so why did Xiao Lu make a harmonious family?
Zhu Zhu couldn't contact Xiao Lu, so he found Fang Yinuo's mobile phone number. At the birthday party of Hehe's first birthday, Zhu Zhu appeared in the hall at an inopportune time.
Xiao Lu asked Zhu Zhu to go back first, and he would talk about it later. Zhu Zhu shouted in front of everyone in the hall: Do you love her? What about me? What is our business? I'm here today to make things clear. I broke up with my mom, and people in the company pointed fingers at me, what am I? You can't do that to me.
Zhu Zhu showed Fang Yinuo a picture of her and Xiao Lu. She wants to officially declare war with Fang Yinuo, and Xiao Lu loves not Fang Yinuo, but zhu Zhu.
Zhu Zhu and that photo pushed the contradiction between Yinuo and Xiao Lu to the cusp of the storm. When she knew that Hehe had a fever at night, and her mother and she braved the heavy rain to take a taxi outside and accidentally fell, Xiao Lu was actually with Zhu Zhu, and the defense line in her heart completely collapsed.
The purpose of her marriage is to find someone who really loves her and can help her at a critical moment. But when she was most helpless, Xiao Lu was actually with other women. It was ironic and painful for her. It turned out that she and the child were more important in Xiao Lu's heart than to make Zhu Zhu happy.
But with the children there, Fang Yinuo still decided to meet this Zhu Zhu and make a reservation for their marriage.
The two sat on a stool in the park, and before Yinuo could speak, Zhu Zhu said bluntly: I know why you came to me? You, like my mom, can't find problems in yourself, just in your own men and other women. You just want to know where I attract Xiao Lu? Xiao Lu still doesn't love you, doesn't he? You never feel like you're going to go wrong, right? But what you have lost, you know in your own heart.
Zhu Zhu came to see Yinuo, and he saw it with a straight face. She believes that although she hurt Yinuo, she worked hard for what she liked and did the right thing. At Hehe's first birthday party, she saw Yinuo and Xiao Lu trying to play a couple without problems, and she really felt tired for Yinuo.
At this point, I knew why Zhu Zhu had said many times that Yinuo and Xiao Lu were playing a happy couple. She sees Yinuo as her imaginary enemy, because she feels that her mother has been playing the role of pretending to be happy. They divorced all these years, and she still pretended to be happy. But she lives under her mother's nose and doesn't feel happy.
Her life consists only of her mother's desire for control and pain, so she sees that Yinuo and Xiao Lu's marriage is also painful. Her showdown with Yinuo is a showdown with her mother, and the next step after she grabs Xiao Lu is to oppose her mother. In her perception, liking someone does not require a reason or moral constraint. Dare to fight for love, is the brave.
But Fang Yinuo said something and poured a basin of cold water on Zhu Zhu. She said to Zhu Zhu: Miss Zhu, it is not love to care about it, even if there is love, it may not be able to get through a piece. In this world, the most unavoidable thing is people. You can try to see how long your so-called care and love can last, and I want to see it too.
Zhu Zhu suddenly lost her self-confidence, could she and Xiao Lu really go to the end? Yinuo met with her, but Xiao Lu followed Yinuo away, without the slightest concern for her feelings, could she really keep him?
In order to say a final goodbye to Xiao Lu, Zhu Zhu called Xiao Lu and asked him to meet. It was also this meeting that completely ruined the marriage between Yinuo and Xiao Lu.
Because of Xiao Lu and Zhu Zhu's meeting, she completely lost hope. Although Xiao Lu said goodbye to Zhu Zhu, Zhu Zhu caressed Xiao Lu's face, and Xiao Lu did not refuse. Zhu Zhu made a big fuss about Hehe's one-year feast, so that his relatives and friends saw all their jokes, and Xiao Lu did not have any accusations against Zhu Zhu.
If he really wanted to break up with Zhu Zhu, what was the point of seeing the last meeting? As long as he sees this time, there will be a next time. He said many times that he would not meet Zhu Zhu, but what about the result? He reneged on his word again and again. His renegade of his word was to give Zhu Zhu hope and to give Yinuo despair.
Yinuo and Xiao Lu divorced
Zhu Zhu is indeed an unscrupulous girl, although her growing environment is oppressive and pitiful, but this is not an excuse for her to destroy other people's families.
But without Zhu Zhu, there will also be another girl who is gentle and beautiful, understanding, and makes Xiao Lu's heart move.
After Xiao Lu and Yinuo got married, they lived happily. But the identity of the father suddenly came before he was ready. The family urged them to have children, and Hehe came to the family. He and Yinuo became mom and dad before they were ready, and their identities changed for the first time, and many things were not enough.
After having Hehe, Yinuo's whole energy was focused on the child and ignored him. During the month, Yinuo is sensitive and suspicious, and demands perfection for things. Xiao Lu went to work during the day and returned home at night to listen to Yinuo's nagging and complaining. He knew that Yinuo was not easy, so he tried his best to soothe her heart, but he was not a god and could not be perfect.
When Xiao Lu did not do enough, Yinuo was even more disappointed in the marriage.
I once read a sentence: What is marriage? Marriage is the yuanjiao point, that is, chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea. Marriage is to rip apart the beautiful love, the scars and stretch marks inside the show.
The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Yinuo imagines marriage too beautifully, and when she can't get the expected love in marriage, she will naturally be disappointed.
Xiao Lu's father died when he was ten years old, and his mother pulled him and his brother to grow up alone, and he just wanted to earn money and make a good life for his family. But Yinuo's family is well-off, and what she needs is not money, but the company of her husband. Their living habits and ideas are different, and they are destined to be more painful than others.
When Xiao Lu married her, she had no car and no house, only an empty promise, but she married without hesitation, because she believed that the promises Xiao Lu said were sincere.
However, after Hehe was born, his life was stirred up by chickens and dogs. Xiao Lu was busy working during the day to earn milk powder money, and when he returned home at night, he had to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, coaxing one to coax another.
Xiao Lu's mother did not have much literacy and no culture, and even had the bad habit of smoking and playing mahjong. Since Hehe was born, Yinuo has asked Xiao Mu to quit all these bad habits. These habits have accompanied Xiao Mu for most of her life, and it is really difficult for her to suddenly change them.
Xiao Mu is a careless but not bad hearted housewife, but Yinuo asked her to record the child's life schedule in the book every day, she could not do it, but still tried to do it. She talks and does things with a big grin, but she does her best when taking care of Yinuo's confinement, which is better than too many mother-in-laws in reality.
Similarly, Xiao Lu, as a husband, also behaved remarkably. He will buy fish after work, his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will have conflicts, he will spend his mind in the middle, the child is not well, and he will also run around in the hospital. Compared with widowed parenting, Xiao Lu has done a fairly qualified job.
But in the eyes of Fang Yinuo's mother, Xiao Lu and his mother did not qualify. They used Xiao Mu as a nanny and would not let her hold the child. Fang Yinuo's father also smoked, but Yinuo let his father hold the child and did not let his mother-in-law hold it.
Yinuo will be considerate of his parents, why not Xiao Lu? Who wants to see their parents live a life when they are old and look at the face of their daughter-in-law? In this family, a promise is not two. She let Xiao Lu sleep on the sofa, and Xiao Lu had to sleep on the sofa. What she asked her mother-in-law to do, her mother-in-law had to do.
He didn't see any respect or love in this family, just Fang Yinuo's mother as an intellectual, discriminated against Xiao's family.
When Fang Yinuo sent a quilt to Xiao Lu, Xiao Lu said a thank you, and Fang Yinuo should notice that the relationship between them has changed from familiar to estranged, and adjust the relationship as soon as possible. But she still slept with her mother and let Xiao Lu sleep on the sofa.
Maybe you will say that Yinuo has worked very hard, taking care of the children and going to work, but also taking care of Xiao Lu's feelings, why can't Xiao Lu understand her? In fact, this is precisely the contradiction of their marriage.
When Yinuo and Xiao Lu divorced, Yinuo remembered that when she gave birth to a child, Xiao Lu did not accompany her in time. When she was incontinent, Xiao Lu's expression of disgust. There is also a scene of Xiao Lu crying and sleeping after giving birth to a child, when she is sleepy and tired. And Xiao Lu thought of making money in front of customers like a grandson nodding his head, in order to talk about cooperation drunk into a dog, back home to see the face of Yinuo and his mother-in-law, dare not speak of bitterness.
Yinuo and Xiao Lu are not easy in marriage, but they both amplify their own difficulties and ignore each other's efforts.
Fang Yinuo calculated all the expenses of the family clearly, she only remembered that his brother borrowed them twenty-one hundred yuan and did not pay them back, and also remembered all the bad things that Xiao Lu had done to her. It was the habit of bookkeeping that annoyed Xiao Lu.
Marriage is a confused account, there is no right or wrong, it is not clear, once it is calculated, it is not far from the end of marriage. Fang Yinuo likes to calculate accounts, Xiao Lu also has an account to calculate in his heart, Yinuo's parents went to Xinmatai to play, Xiao Lu came out of the hotel and air ticket money, and gave them thirty thousand yuan. But has his mother been to New Matei? Why doesn't fang yinuo remember this money?
They all stand in their own positions and tell their grievances, forgetting to understand each other.
After the divorce, Fang Yinuo invited his friends to dinner again, and also called Xiao Lu and Zhu Zhu. Fang Yinuo was to embarrass Zhu Zhu and Xiao Lu, but this revenge also cut off her and Xiao Lu's way of reconciliation.
Some people say that Xiao Lu is a scumbag, and before Yinuo gave birth to a child, Xiao Lu spoke sweetly to Yinuo. After having a child, he will be a hand-throwing treasurer, leaving all the suffering to Yinuo to bear, and a man like him is better off. But there is no perfect marriage in the world, and even couples who are in the right house also need to run into each other.
Cliffor said: The most precious gift that marriage brings to me is a lasting run-in. This is the run-in brought about by the tension relationship between two individuals that is both one and independent, both interdependent and separated. In a word, it's very real.
Most young couples have two major reasons for failing marriages, one is from the temptation of the outside world, and the other is that young couples are too lazy to run into each other. They advocate individuality, focus on themselves, are unwilling to change, and are unwilling to compromise. As everyone knows, marriage itself is a compromise, and the continuous process of marriage is the process of both parties constantly sacrificing themselves and changing themselves.
A good marriage is the result of running into each other, and a failed marriage is the product of torturing each other.
Only when both husband and wife understand each other, communicate more, truly pay for the family, attach importance to the responsibility of marriage, and clean themselves, can marriage pass many tests, so that girls like Zhu Zhu have no loopholes to drill.
Divorce is easy, it is not easy to live a hard life, may we all grind out a satisfactory answer sheet in the face of the marriage life test!