"Are you going to kill me?" A sharp sound mixed with crying came, and what came into view was a female classmate who was tugging at her mother's clothes, crying at the classroom door, and the child's mother was crying and laughing, helplessly waving her hands with everyone.
It turned out that the child did not score 95 points in a math test, and the parents were angry and bought ten test papers, so that the children could finish it in one breath, which showed the farce seen today.
As a parent in elementary school, I was not "excessive" like other parents, but my anxious emotions unconsciously manifested.
For example, always regulate her according to adult standards and ask her.
When you see your child playing, you can't help but remind him.
The child's strengths will not be praised, and the shortcomings will never forget to remind her and correct him.
I always feel that he is not perfect in doing things, resulting in a serious lack of self-confidence and a serious inferiority complex.
Education is an art, and as parents, we always stumble in it and have "Star Wars" with our children.
In junior high school, children begin to learn to be independent of personality, and the symptoms of "little people" in the adolescent rebellious period are obvious, and they have their own ideas.
The result of parents using such an educational method to continue to be forced is that the chicken flies and the dog jumps, and the mother is not merciful and the child is not filial piety.
In modern education, parents and children are under fast-paced, high-pressure, and their nerves are tight.
In this state of stress, parents will not be able to control themselves, inexplicably anxious, irritable, can not see the child's laziness, a little unconscious, always feel that even if they "pretend to study, pretend to be diligent", in order to make themselves feel at ease. It doesn't matter how effectively they learn.
Because of the child's procrastination and disobedience, parents feel unforgivable, anxiety arises spontaneously, and the uneasiness in their hearts is infinitely magnified, even magnified to the point that if this continues, what will happen to the child's future?
Parents are even more angry about this, so that children can bear the disaster of innocence.
If you continue like this, the child's innocent and happy nature and enthusiastic yearning for a better life will be destroyed by you.
An education expert said: Let's let go of the self-righteousness and prejudice as parents, in fact, the growth of children does not need parents to pay too much attention.
Every child is a seed, but the flowering period is different.
Some flowers bloom brilliantly at the beginning; some flowers require a long wait.
Parents only need to adhere to the principle of "strict but not harsh, trust and not let go", do a good job of encouragement and praise, and the child's growth will develop in a good direction.