How old is your baby sleeping in separate beds with adults?
It is very warm and lively for a family of three to sleep in a room, but there will be many inconveniences and adverse effects when the children are older and sleep with their parents.
Many parents think that children should sleep in separate rooms at the age of three or four, and the sooner the child sleeps in separate rooms, the sooner the child is independent, and the child who is unwilling to sleep in the room is definitely a child who is not independent enough, clingy, and lack of security, in fact, for different children to sleep in separate beds, the time to sleep in separate rooms is different, parents do not want to be disturbed by the words of "3 years old and 5 years old".
The children are 6 years old, why are they still sleeping with you?
There is a 6-year-old girl Miao Miao in the community, although she has been in the first grade of primary school, but she is very timid, she does not dare to sleep alone at night, and she has to sleep in a big bed with her parents at night, although her parents know that such a big child has not slept well with her parents, but they have tried many times to let Miao Miao sleep in a room alone, but every time the child is crying and making noises and saying that she is afraid, she is unwilling to go to another room to sleep, and she has to sleep among her parents.
Every time others ask about it, Miao Miao's parents are always difficult to talk about, such a big child still sleeps with their parents, but what is the way?
Once they learned from a parent who had slept in a separate room, and the parent said: "The child is not comfortable at first, it is normal to cry, and it will be fine in half a month." ”
So the couple began to try to let the 6-year-old daughter sleep by herself, but only 1 week, the couple was tired to collapse, the daughter promised to sleep by herself, the result was less than 2 minutes to say that she was afraid, but also said that there were people in the room, crying and noisy is not willing to sleep, can stay up until 2 o'clock in the middle of the night, considering that the next day the child still has to go to school, they still have to go to work, they can only give up.
Why is it so difficult for children to sleep in separate rooms? At what age should I sleep in a separate room with my child?
In fact, each child's development, psychological maturity is different, sleeping in separate rooms can not be one-size-fits-all, the way can not be too cold, it should be a long time in advance to communicate with the child, let the child accept this matter psychologically, but also let them know that even if they sleep in separate rooms, parents still love him.
Sooner or later, children will have to sleep separately from their parents, so why bother with the age limit?
Why are parents anxious to ask their children to sleep in separate rooms with themselves?
1, worry about children's precocious puberty
Most parents around them are worried that it is inconvenient for their children to sleep with their parents, and as children grow up, they know more and more things, and the intimate action of cuddling and cuddling between husband and wife is bound to make children precocious. Especially girls, the psychological maturity age is already early, and when they grow up, they still sleep with their parents, and their psychology will become more and more mature.
2. Worry that the child is not independent
The reason why many parents are anxious to let their children sleep on their own is because they are worried that their children are not independent, there is a "Oedipal plot" or "Oedipal plot", and the psychology is immature, in fact, whether the child's psychology is mature is not directly related to when to sleep in separate beds and when to sleep in separate rooms.
In fact, it is impractical for children to "divide beds at the age of 3 and separate beds at the age of 5" and have no scientific basis.
How old is the child?? How old is it better to share a room?
Under normal circumstances, when the child's sense of independence is enhanced at the age of 3-4, parents can gradually try to sleep with the child through slow guidance, let the child sleep with the parents in a room, wait until the child adapts to the bed, and then transition to the room, and psychologists have found that the child's bed or room before the age of 10 is also in the normal range, so parents do not always struggle with the age of the child sleeping alone.
In order to better let the child sleep in the room, you can make an agreement with the child, you can also have some encouragement and rewards, the children's room is arranged warm and cute, try to arrange according to the child's own wishes, or buy some children's favorite toys to put on the bedside, there is a comforter to accompany the child.