In other words, Qin Hao and Ren Suxi have been divorced for four years, and they choked on each other when they met.
For so many years, Ren Suxi still put the matter of the first birthday party at ease.
Both of them have started a family with each other, and they are happy with each other. Why are you still as noisy as when you broke up?
Nie Yuan, who had a good temper, lost his temper for the first time.
What's going on here?
Is it the deeper the love in the legend, the deeper the hatred? Still in love?
Of course not.
A very important reason is that the two people divorced that meeting, did not talk clearly. It's just a slamming of the door, a scolding,
Crackle and finish the harshest and most hateful words
And then it hurt each other even more.
Without talking about each other's knots, they are old and dead, they are avoiding, and they are not facing and solving problems.
What's the problem with two people?
This really didn't happen overnight. It starts with grass.
Yinuo has endured physical and psychological changes alone since she was pregnant, and she has not taken the initiative to communicate with Qin Hao, and Qin Hao does not know her inner waves.
When the child was born, Qin Hao was no longer there—this was a matter for Yinuo, who had experienced a difficult and smooth birth
Heart knot
。
Although she didn't feel it at the time, and Qin Hao didn't realize it, this was the beginning of the decline in their relationship.
Later, Yinuo was very attentive to taking care of children, and in the same period of competition with her sister-in-law, it can be seen that she has learned a lot of parenting knowledge.
And our male protagonist, not resolutely on the side of his wife,
The elbows are still turned outward
Believe in the confinement sister-in-law, which makes a confinement wife very cold.
Later, out of the anxiety of the novice mother, the stubbornness of Yinuo's own personality and the pursuit of perfection in parenting, Yinuo had a conflict with her mother-in-law, and originally, she hoped that Qin Hao would mediate.
If at this time, Qin Hao can choose the parenting concept that has always been firm and committed,
Instead of both sides and thin mud
, the best choice for the whole family.
But Qin Hao chose to turn a blind eye, avoid the main contradiction, and did not want to mix, did not want to be responsible at all, which deepened the gap between the two and made the husband and wife more and more distant.
On the one hand, Yinuo's own body and mind have not yet been adjusted, on the other hand, she still has to face on this basis
Progressive parenting problems
(Children who have been raised know that children of every age have different problems to deal with), and she can't take care of herself.
As a result, we can see that Qin Hao can't court, and he feels that he is ignored.
In fact, in a way, it is also the first time to become a parent, the experience
The lack of hand-wringing
。
In fact, most families survived this period later. It's because of the back,
Couples are becoming more experienced and parenting is becoming more and more comfortable
, and the child brings
Joy and time can also be bridged slowly
The aforementioned injuries.
Including physical and mental changes in pregnancy and depression, most women can finally do it
Digest on your own
Even if the husband is still not mature.
Qin Hao and Yi Nuo couldn't stand it?
First of all, it has a lot to do with Yinuo's personality, she is tough and independent, but
stubborn
As Ren Suxi said, "It is not forgiving to be reasonable."
She could tolerate lying about some of the details of life, like going to the bathroom to smoke, coming back from eating noodles outside, pretending to work overtime, but once it arrived
Cheating, this matter, she can't get over
。
And Qin Hao is a relatively childish person. It's not over, it's not mature.
Then there is the cultivation of Yinuo's family, let her
From the bottom of my heart, I looked down on Qin Hao's mother
, which is also fatal.
After all, marriage is the integration of two families, if the family does not look right, it will definitely not last.
Dong Fan was very flattering to his mother-in-law
In the TV series, several scenes are given quite delicately, such as the two people separating downstairs, Yinuo turning back to find Qin Hao, but Qin Hao has already left; when the divorce is signed, Yinuo goes out to answer the phone, and when he returns, he unexpectedly signs Qin Hao's words...
All of these things seem to deepen Yinuo's disappointment, put the despair into place, and contribute to the completion of the divorce.
But in fact, the two people can no longer be together in terms of personality and reality.
And Yinuo, probably because her previous life was too smooth, she wanted to get one too much
The so-called victory
, including not letting Qin Hao look at the children, to cover up the failure of this marriage.
What kind of people are suitable for Yinuo and Qin Hao?
Their second marriage gave a fairly correct match.
Look at Qin Hao and Dong Fan, so sweet, and cooking, but also apologize at any time; set to go to the mother-in-law's house, the mood is not good, will not break the appointment,
Live and turn into a good man
Is it the reason for Dong Fan?
Yes and no.
The first is Qin Hao
The essence is not bad, I was not ready to be a father before
, which led to the failure of the marriage. He is emotionally attached, deeply hurt after the divorce, and will no longer endure failed marriages and relationships.
He grew.
Received a call from Yinuo and took the initiative to leave it hands-free in front of Dong Fan
Dong Fan,
Sweet, sunny, simple
。 It is obviously different from Yinuo.
This is a girl who can be infinitely tolerant and loving, in her relationship with Qin Hao, looking at her young age, but she
Obviously willing to pay more
The one.
Another important reason why Qin Hao feels comfortable in this relationship is that the two people do not involve topics of practical interests, such as children.
Dong Fan did not intend to have children. As a result, the two can temporarily maintain a state of love, in fact
The state of marriage and non-pregnancy and unmarried cohabitation is very different
target. It is inevitable that the happiness index report will be sweet and sweet.
In the original movie "Left and Right", the male protagonist remarried to the object of Yu Nan, who very much wanted to have his own children, which produced a huge contradiction.
Look at Yinuo and Nie Yuan's side again, Nie Yuan
Years of togetherness, silent care
Love is not to be said.
The point that Nie Yuan did best than Qin Hao was that he knew that Yinuo was independent and that if he was used to carrying things by himself, then he would take the initiative to propose: You are not alone now. I'm your husband.
There are things that everyone can take care of together.
It was quite heart-warming and MAN's move. He had a greater sense of responsibility than Qin Hao.
And every time I listen to Yinuo say "I know", I can feel her peace of mind and happiness across the screen.
And Yinuo herself, entering the marriage again, she has matured and will endure.
Can send people under the fence, live with mother-in-law and aunt,
In the face of Liu Weiwei, whose mouth was so poisonous, he changed into the previous promise and left the table long ago.
So to sum up: marriage together, not love can be, must be
One side is willing to give more, be inclusive and take on more
。
If both of you are waiting for the other to take care of it, and your part cannot be perfected and cannot be given, then the deeper the love, the more painful the hurt.
Don't wait for the fall to know how to cherish and endure, especially after having children, too much irreparable and hurtful.