The problem of weaning has always been a problem for mothers, especially when the children do not cooperate, mothers can be said to have tried all kinds of methods, but almost none of them work. In the face of children's crying, many mothers have chosen to surrender their weapons, thinking that it may not be suitable for weaning now, and it will be better after a while. As everyone knows, if you hold such an idea, I am afraid that there will be a bigger problem in the end.
Case: The 8-year-old son "begged for milk" every day after school, and the weaning ended in failure, and the doctor could not do anything
Ms. Chen's son is 8 years old this year, the child has always performed very well, the only thing that makes Ms. Chen a headache is that her son is still drinking breast milk, the first thing he does when he comes back from primary school every day is to find Ms. Chen to "beg for milk to drink", if Ms. Chen does not give, he will gamble, and even lose his temper.
Ms. Chen has not tried weaning, the child grew up so old, and has experienced more than a dozen weanings, but none of them have been successful, and each time it has ended in failure. Ms. Chen did not seek help from a doctor, but she did not succeed.
Some time ago, Ms. Chen's husband also had a big fight because she was still drinking breast milk for her son, and in desperation, Ms. Chen could only pin her last hope on the hospital again, hoping to find a solution. Seeing Ms. Chen's medical records, the doctor directly said, "I can't do anything, you can't be bothered, plus your son's dependence has become very serious, it is recommended to see a psychologist." ”
Because this method has not been tried, so just holding the psychology of trying, the child also resisted at first, but psychological counseling is like this, usually need to be guided many times. Later, after several counseling, the child slowly weaned off breast milk. Ms. Chen herself did not expect that after spending so much effort, she finally quit through psychological treatment.
01 Children over the age of five are still drinking breast milk, and psychological factors need to be considered
Usually, children can slowly start to wean ourselves after the age of two, most children breastfeeding withdrawal time is mostly about half a year, some children may be late in breast milk withdrawal, wait until almost three years old to quit, completely quit before the age of four. Therefore, considering these aspects, if you are still drinking breast milk after the age of five, then you must consider whether it is a psychological factor.
Most children depend on breast milk not because they are really hungry, but because they are a way of seeking security. Take the children in the above case, the reason why they have to drink breast milk every day when they come back from school is because they are not used to the campus environment and have a more withdrawn personality, for children, the mother is their own gentle harbor, and breast milk can provide them with a sense of security.
Therefore, for this part of the child, mothers usually have the problem of difficulty in weaning breast milk. At this time, it is recommended that mothers actively express love to their children, so that children can feel love from their mothers' actions and words, so that they will not be obsessed with seeking security through breast milk.
At the same time, the mothers themselves must also be firm, some mothers will not be able to bear to see their children crying and "begging for milk" because of weaning, thinking that today is even if it is done, the next time weaning it. As everyone knows, relaxing the bottom line again and again will make the child grasp the "handle" and think that the method of crying is useful, so the next time will use the same method to make the mother soft.
02 How should moms wean properly?
First of all, mothers should pay attention to the principle of step-by-step, rather than directly weaning their children at once, which is not easy to succeed, and it is easy to leave a psychological shadow on the child and weaken the child's sense of security. You can start by breastfeeding five or six times a day, slowly reducing the number of times, all the way to complete weaning.
Secondly, during the withdrawal of breast milk, sometimes the baby wants to drink milk, and the mothers can use formula milk instead, which can effectively reduce the child's dependence on breast milk.
In addition, after six months, the baby can slowly add complementary foods to the child, especially as the months get bigger and bigger, and the complementary foods can also be slowly enriched, so that the child will be interested in complementary foods, so that the dependence on breast milk will be reduced.
In addition, it should also be noted that during weaning, when the child wants to drink milk and cries, it is best not to stay with the mother all the time, and you can let the baby and the father have more contact, which is also helpful for weaning breast milk.
Finally, we should also remind our mothers that if you want to wean off breast milk, weaning at night is also very critical. It is best to let the father coax at night, it may be difficult to coax at first, but slowly, the child will get used to it, and at the same time, he will be able to stop waking up at night to drink milk.
Conclusion: Breast milk is actually a big test for both the child and the mother, if you do not pass this level, it will also bring greater harm to the child in the future, so the mothers should not be too soft- hearted, and they cannot give up halfway, otherwise the difficulty will become more and more difficult.